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To be fecked off by these feckwits? What penalty do you suggest?

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ladyjennifer · 06/05/2011 22:33

So, tomorrow I've organised a big party. I posted earlier in the week here ranting about the bad manners of those I was having to chase for rsvps.

We finally managed to contact everyone who hadn't replied and this morning, we gave final numbers to the caterers which means the cost per head is now set and paid.

Then two wives phoned tonight to say their useless feckers of husbands had realised they had something else on. They didn't quite put it like that, but you get the drift. Not last-minute emergencies - one is working, the other has a football dinner booked. Ironically both were couples who'd rsvp'd early on, and one of the husbands even told me how much he was looking forward to it.

Bloody, bloody bad manners, and worse they didn't even have the balls to phone themselves to tell us and apologise. AIBU to:
a) tell the wives not to come either if they can't sort out their flakey husbands (I'd never let my dh pull this bad-mannered stunt)
b) Post something about useless feckers on Facebook
c) Never speak to any of them again
d) Put into practice any additional advice offered up on this forum.

I was out, so dh took the calls, which is probably just as well.

I won't do any of the above in reality, but am taking this chance for a rant here, as dh is telling me to calm down.

One of the couples are fundamentally a pair of freeloaders - they come to any occasion organised and paid for by other people, but never invited people to anything at their's. They are good fun though, which is why they we (and others) invite them.

I was expecting some last minute drop-outs in cases of genuine illness, children being ill etc - but these are just the actions of bad-mannered, thoughtless bloody men.

And....breathe.....

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MumSecret · 08/05/2011 10:44

Yeah, please tell us how it went.

Had word spread re:the disinvited?

QuackQuackBoing · 08/05/2011 11:42

You can just imagine them all talking and tutting about the host!

amberleaf · 08/05/2011 12:00

Wow!

How rude you are!

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microserf · 08/05/2011 14:10

Oh, people are crap. I was chasing my wedding guests for RSVPs for a (in retrospect) stupidly expensive sit down dinner.

With the benefit of hindsight, I should have just put them all down as a "no" but I felt bad if they did want to come as I had been to their weddings.

One guest wrote back my email bitching me out for chasing her as didn't I know she'd lost her job (no, as her linked profile and facebook still said she was employed at her old job) and she would let me know if she would come or not when she was ready.

Put her down as a "no". The day before the wedding, she changed her facebook status to "In LA visiting friends".

microserf · 08/05/2011 14:13

PS just read the rest of this post. Shock that you disinvited the wife. that was a bit spiteful. yes, it is fecking annoying when people mess you about like this, but that was harsh.

OTheHugeManatee · 08/05/2011 14:27

I disagree with those who think the OP is evil for uninviting the wife. Harsh, but fair enough. Sounds like the OP puts a lot of effort into parties, has a wide social circle and doesn't want to stand for rudeness. That's better than weakly letting people take the piss with your hospiality IMO.

ladyjennifer · 08/05/2011 18:58

Thanks manatee - yes it was harsh, and I was a bit hormonal and knackered on Friday night so probably not the wisest thing to do, but there you go, tis done now.

I suspect the couple will be too embarrassed to make a deal of it with mutual friends and the wife did text me back earlier yesterday to say no problem if she didn't come. I won't be inviting them to anything again though but I'm sure they'll have got that message.

Anyway, great party - I've just finished uploading pix on facebook of our more reliable friends having a brilliant time - loads of people have phoned and texted today to say thanks.

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ScarletOHaHa · 08/05/2011 20:00

Glad it was a great party. What type of food did you have?

Jaspants · 08/05/2011 21:18

It wasn't a fancy dress party for a 40th was it? Just thinking of the murmurings I've seen on a friend of a friends facebook status Grin

MadamDeathstare · 08/05/2011 21:40

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ladyjennifer · 08/05/2011 21:42

Don't want to out myself, so it's a "no comment" to the last two!

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QuackQuackBoing · 09/05/2011 08:41

Are you Jaspants friends friend?!

lottiejenkins · 09/05/2011 08:52

Ive heard of "bridezillas" before. You sound like a "dinnerpartyzilla!" to me!!

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