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To have sex with a practical stranger tonight?

91 replies

PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:17

I met him online, we've exchanged pics, met for coffee, etc etc. I am almost overthinking it in my head but am certain we will tonight, but am hesitant as I was married for years and it's all so new

Please exchange experiences/ advice.

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limitedperiodonly · 04/05/2011 16:19

Depends how practical he is.

ConnorTraceptive · 04/05/2011 16:20

arf!

saffy85 · 04/05/2011 16:20

If in doubt leave it out.

Or put it off til you know the guy better.

quidco · 04/05/2011 16:20

just make sure that someone knows where you are, and who you are with, andyou can get out of there safely if need be

otherwise, enjoy yourself :D

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/05/2011 16:21

It's no different to any other one night stand. Two consenting adults having fun, so long as you're not expecting anything else out of it there will be no getting hurt, and anything esle is a bonus!

GastonTheLadybird · 04/05/2011 16:21

Are you dating or is it just a sex thing?

Is it just you having been married that is making you hesitant? Do you fancy him?

manticlimactic · 04/05/2011 16:21

If you want to, then do. But I wouldn't. I'd much rather a bloke not ring me because I wouldn't have sex with me then not ring because I did. Wink

But then you will see posts saying how people met their DP and had sex on the first night and are still going strong 5 decades later. (my sister included in this btw)

bibbitybobbityhat · 04/05/2011 16:22

"Please exchange experiences" - that's a little bit forward of you don't you think?

CareyFakes · 04/05/2011 16:23

Squeal Ooooo sexy times

Are you attracted to him physically? If you are at all nervous when he's with you, then don't feel pressured because it'd be 'rude not to'.

Well Jel, haven't had rumpy pumpy for over 3 years Blush self imposed abstinent freak that I am

ENJOY, Have one for me

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 04/05/2011 16:24

I can smell a perving weirdo after some cheapo thrills from mumsnet mummys

Go and ave a letch at readers wives or summat, they're full of these stories Wink

PonceyMcPonce · 04/05/2011 16:25

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electra · 04/05/2011 16:26

There's no reason not to. But give some thought about whether you want this to be casual or can see him possibly as a boyfriend in the future. The reason I say this is that once you start having regular sex with someone you don't see them as clearly - and you become more attached - not necessarily emotionally but the chemistry will slightly alter your perception. This has been my experience anyway, to my cost sometimes!

JanMorrow · 04/05/2011 16:27

If you want a shag then why not? Have fun, stay safe!

itsabiggywhatdoidonow · 04/05/2011 16:27

safety safety blah blah blah, aveone for me too but be sure to put something on the end of it first....dont wanty nasties doing the rounds on MNGrin

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 04/05/2011 16:27

Who the fuck gets references for a shag buddy and where from Ponce ?? Grin

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PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:28

oooh he is very attractive, spine tinglingly so. And it has been a while.

I doubt it will be a one night thing, but just remember all the advice about not giving too much away if you want things to last.

I'm torn.

Heart says yes, Head sas otherwise...

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LadyBeagleEyes · 04/05/2011 16:28

Apocolypse, I'm with you. My radar is bleeping (do radars bleep)?

PonceyMcPonce · 04/05/2011 16:28

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PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:29

Re- safe sex. I always thought 'if you like it then you should have put a ring on it' was referring to condoms...sigh

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PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:29

Oh for goodness sake. I'm a mn veteran. 2004 in fact. Just very regular namechanger.

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Insomnia11 · 04/05/2011 16:30

Just see how you feel. Don't get too drunk.

electra · 04/05/2011 16:30

I think it's a myth that if you have sex with someone quickly they will lose interest because you didn't wait. I think that if they want no further involvement after 'one night' it would not have lasted anyway, regardless of how long you made him wait. If he's really into you it'll make no difference imo.

Insomnia11 · 04/05/2011 16:31

As my mum would say. And cover your chest up! :)

Icelollycraving · 04/05/2011 16:31

Have you met on a dating site or are you aware this will be a no strings meet?
If it's a first date then you are over thinking this! If you want to,do it. It's like any way of dating,don't put all your eggs in one basket but most of all have fun :)