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To have sex with a practical stranger tonight?

91 replies

PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:17

I met him online, we've exchanged pics, met for coffee, etc etc. I am almost overthinking it in my head but am certain we will tonight, but am hesitant as I was married for years and it's all so new

Please exchange experiences/ advice.

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PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:32

Insomnia, good advice, mys sister said the same.

2 rum and cokes and I'm under the table

And I'd rather not be tonight, unless it leads that way ;)

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cannydoit · 04/05/2011 16:32

i had sex with a man i met on the internet after i met him once and then on the second date we had even, though i said we wouldnt but it felt right so we did, but we had talked online for a month everyday before we met and we have now been together for 6 months after saying we didnt want a relationship so hey lol.
i'd say go for it if it feels right but dont force it.

itsabiggywhatdoidonow · 04/05/2011 16:32

Who the fuck gets references for a shag buddy and where from Ponce ??

off t'internet APCT Grin

PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:33

We met via friends on facebook (cringe)

Already met for coffee and bumped into each other walking the dogs.....

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CareyFakes · 04/05/2011 16:33

Go with the pussy, not the head, not the heart

Too much? Hmm

lubberlich · 04/05/2011 16:33

Have fun, keep safe.
That's all.
What else is there to worry about?

PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:34

Should I mention too, he is very young.

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PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 16:35

well not that young, but I'm 31, he's 26

I've almost got a mrs robinson fantasy going on

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itsabiggywhatdoidonow · 04/05/2011 16:35

your already at the very well known and popular 3 date rule Wink

TitsalinaBumSquash · 04/05/2011 16:38

I met a guy through friends on facebook, chatted to him for 2 weeks online, he visited my house on the way back from work having never actually met before we shagged like rabbits about 5 minutes after he walked through the door. Still talking now.

colditz · 04/05/2011 16:39

26 not very young

my BF is 28, I'm 31 in 10 days.
Have fun.

I;'d make him absolutel dance attendance on you though, before shagging him.

olderandwider · 04/05/2011 16:43

Definitely play hard to get. Tis a sad truth men love the thrill of the chase.

RobF · 04/05/2011 16:44

Better than having sex with an impractical stranger at least. You can get him to put some shelves up after you've finished.

MuthaHubbard · 04/05/2011 16:47

go for it - i'm doing the same on friday (and maybe saturday just to make sure)!!!

Ormirian · 04/05/2011 16:49

Hurrah for practical strangers. A practical stranger gave me a tow when my car broke down in the middle of the A38. Didn't shag him though. Well my kids were there. And his. Useful things practical strangers.

Frimblypoo · 04/05/2011 16:53

YANBU
Talked to DH a couple of times on phone before I met him on a blind date, 3 hours later dragged him to my lair and 15 years later he is still in my clutches!

FabbyChic · 04/05/2011 16:59

hey that is only 5 years, but he will probably be looking for something more casual than you in the long term. Whilst your biological clock ticks he is still having fun.

fluffygal · 04/05/2011 17:05

colditz- You have depressed me by saying 26 is not young. I am 26.

I slept with OH on our 1st date, we are married now with 6 month old DD. Go for it.

PainteditRed · 04/05/2011 17:07

Ah Fabby I have a DS who is my entire wold so I don't want any babies anytime soon.

Plu he has done the whole shagging around thing, and he actualy couldn't bring himself o do one night stands

(so he says)

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muminthecity · 04/05/2011 17:07

Go for it. I am off to Dublin with a (female) friend this weekend. If I happen to meet someone I fancy, I may well have a bit of no-strings fun while I'm there! Grin

BitOfFun · 04/05/2011 17:11

It depends how practical he was. Did you get him to put some shelves up?

olderandwider · 04/05/2011 17:16

Love this on a greeting card:

Female praying mantis is talking to a male praying mantis.

"After we have sex, but before I eat you, I'd like you to put up some shelves."

OTheHugeManatee · 04/05/2011 17:17

YANBU. If he's a practical stranger you can get him to unblock the sink and put some shelves up while he's at it. Or after he's been at it, rather.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 04/05/2011 17:24

'Practical stranger'

Is he going to knock on the door wearing his tool belt, and say, 'I heard you needed some drilling?'

ThatVikRinA22 · 04/05/2011 17:30

i wouldnt but i am an old maid....id wait a bit. the only time i ever slept with someone on a first date it was an awfully disappointing shag and it went downhill from there.

but he wasnt that practical....Grin