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neighbours doing my head in - do I go round or chill out?

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magaddict · 30/04/2011 21:54

They have been partying since lunch time and playing music (through an amp) at full blast. I know it's a party, and don't want to be a pain in the arse, but my kids can't sleep because the music is so loud and it is driving me nuts. What time is it reasonable to go round and ask them to turn it down??

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squeakytoy · 30/04/2011 21:54

as it is ten pm now, I would go round and ask them to turn it down a few notches..

Nixea · 30/04/2011 21:57

Around here it has to be after 11pm to be classed as a nuisance. Irritating as I imagine most of us with kids will have already been struggling for a few hours by then.

Maybe just go round and ask nicely, kids in bed, etc.

Good luck :)

squeakytoy · 30/04/2011 22:00

the law does say 11pm, but I would say out of common courtesy for your neighbours, you would tone it down a bit once it is getting later than 9pm..

Our neighbours had their granddaughters 21st in their garden last week and it was very noisy in the daytime (they had called to let us know in advance, so no problems with that), and by 9pm it was just a low mumbing of voices, chinking of glasses, and a bit of quiet background music... by 10.30 everyone had gone home...

marmaladetwatkins · 30/04/2011 22:00

I would flare up like a London derby but I'm a hot-headed cowbag so probably not wise to take advice from me...

Polite knock on door, sorry to be a party pooper but kids unable to sleep/say you are feeling unwell too and want to go to sleep, would you mind turning it down please?

Good luck!

HeadfirstForHalos · 30/04/2011 22:08

If it's not a regular thing I'd leave it. We had neighbours across the road having a mini street party last night until gone 2am [cshock]

I think it's the first time I've ever heard noise from them though so I didn't want to rain on their parade! I'd rather take a bit longer going to sleep than create a bad neighbourly feeling, but if they regularly do this say something.

rockinhippy · 30/04/2011 22:12

I feel for you, same problem here, but mines a pub & there are taking the P as no noise patrol on duty yet - I've had the last 3 nights of it

as its a one off, ask politely to turn down & hopefully they'll oblige - if not check your yellow pages or google your local night time noise patrol - they start work at 10 on Fri & Sat

& there is no time limit on noise disturbance, if noise is considered as unreasonable & affects your quality of life at ANY time- then environmental health will issue a notice to comply - the stupidy of the law is diaries & Dat machines mean the offenders have to be warned they are under investigation first --- so of course they behave themselves for a while

Anyway that bits not relevant, just my having a rant :) .....

but if your neighbours don't pipe down, you can get someone out to sort it out, they don't even have to know its you complaining ....good luck :)

suebfg · 30/04/2011 22:13

leave it ... nothing worse than neighbour hassle

RoseC · 30/04/2011 22:16

Depending on the age of your DCs could you have a 'fun' camping trip to a room where the noise is a bit quiet and give them extra pillows/blankets (to muffle noise) and treat it as a bit of a sleepover? This assumes the party is a one-off... I hate loud noises but if it's once then it's not so bad. The law nationally states 11pm for loud noises/honking car horns etc.

Certainly nothing wrong with popping around and mentioning the children - depends how well you get on with the neighbours :) If it was still going on loudly past midnight and they hadn't responded to your request then I'd call the non-emergency police number.

RtHonLadyEuphemiaOfCaledonia · 30/04/2011 22:18

That would drive me nuts - I would have been round at 9.01pm to ask them to turn it down.

I don't get this sense of entitlement to loud music; fair enough, have a party, but does it really have to be so loud FOR HOURS?

This is why we live in a detached house in a street full of retired people.

crazynanna · 30/04/2011 22:25

Had this last year with a student house next door.

One shindig was still kicking at 5.30am. What a shame nobody filmed the deranged pre-menopausal woman in Betty Boo nightwear,hair sticking up,frothing at the mouth,screaming at them things about their mothers' they didn't know!! It went deathly silent after that...strange.

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magaddict · 30/04/2011 22:31

Thanks all - I am fuming at their inconsideration, and honestly would be more understanding if they had had had the manners to at least mention they were celebrating something and would be having a party - I don't know them very well as they are actually at the bottom of my garden, they have an amp and speakers right next to the fence (they are all at the top of their garden, so it is actually louder for me than it is for them, probably) I saw the guy who lives there at about five pm (it had been going on since midday) and asked if they were having a party - he was a bit aggressive in his manner - I told him it's very loud in my garden too and let it at that..the problem is they have all been drinking all day and I am on my own, so I can't actually go round (and leave the kids in the house) and will have to jump up and shout at them from over the fence, on the basis of your advice I will wait till 11 and then go for it if they haven't shut up!

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RtHonLadyEuphemiaOfCaledonia · 30/04/2011 22:31

If you have this problem with students, keep a log of incidents and report them to whoever deals with discipline at their university. Even if they're not in/on uni property they can be disciplined for "bringing the university into disrepute".

expatinscotland · 30/04/2011 22:32

'I don't get this sense of entitlement to loud music; fair enough, have a party, but does it really have to be so loud FOR HOURS?'

It's pervasive here. I'm beyond fed up of it.

I don't usually bother going round any more. It's always the flat downstairs which the council uses as temp accommodation. That's the person's last chance. They fuck up there, the council has fulfilled its legal obligation to house them and they can officially be turfed out. They know this, too, they are warned they cannot behave 'anti-socially' in any way.

So they do, I just write a letter to the homeless office with a log attached of all their noise.

If they get drunk and start arguing, I call the coppers and report a disturbance, that way they get lifted and we get peace for a spell until they're kicked out.

expatinscotland · 30/04/2011 22:34

Call the cops, tell them they're arguing and drunk and getting violent.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 30/04/2011 22:35

I understand it's annoying, but if it's the first time it's happened then is it really that big a deal - one night? Just close the back of the house up and move to the front of the house.

Nothing to stop you letting the kids out to play in the garden first thing

AppleyEverAfter · 30/04/2011 22:36

Get the hosepipe on the amp at 11pm

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 30/04/2011 22:36

OH but if you do decide to do something - you should call noise patrol, if he wasn't receptive to you at 5pm then 6 hours and more alcohol later he's hardly going to be reasonable about it is he!

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 30/04/2011 22:37

ecpat - call the police up and lie about the neighbours - nice

Nixea · 30/04/2011 22:37

This might not be the most constructive advice but I've been known to put a kids film with lots of music (ie. Mary Poppins) on the telly at a reasonably loud volume and making a bed up on the sofa when it happens around here.

Mostly because I'm paranoid about going round to neighbours ! don't know well in case it starts trouble. I find that the wee one will drift off fine to a loud but familiar noise and then I can transfer her to bed once it all dies down. Not ideal I know but as a one-off solution it might work.

Sorry you're having problems though. :(

expatinscotland · 30/04/2011 22:37

People like this are the reason things like Molotov cocktails were invented. :o

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 30/04/2011 22:37

ecpat expat

expatinscotland · 30/04/2011 22:40

'ecpat - call the police up and lie about the neighbours - nice'

And it's nice for them to get pissed and blast music for hours and hours?

It gets them to STFU without the possibility of my getting stabbed, and if they're so fucking inconsiderate to do that, then I don't much care what happens to them.

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magaddict · 30/04/2011 22:40

believe me AppleyEverAfter, that has crossed my mind!! Like it Expat! Feel a little better already!

They are all singing along to Adele now, so maybe they are winding down (ever hopeful!)

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rockinhippy · 30/04/2011 22:42

We had that with student nieghbours last year too crazy weekday parties to boot & DH has to be up at 5

A Garden hose can work wonders though - nothing like an impromptu shower to put an end a garden party

trixymalixy · 30/04/2011 22:42

If it's the first time then tbh I would leave it. I dont think its unreasonable to be noisy at 10pm on a Saturday night once in a blue moon If a regular thing I wouldn't go round yourself but phone police or environmental health.

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