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to be annoyed about this FB comment...?

102 replies

allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 29/04/2011 15:53

DH wrote something along the lines of "feel sorry for Prince william, all that money and his wife still isnt as pretty as mine" A tad sick inducing, I know, but a work colleague of mine wrote underneath "you should have gone to specsavers"
IABU to be a tad annoyed at this? She is being a bitch, isnt she, I'm not just being silly? :(

OP posts:
ItsCHEEKYTime · 01/05/2011 20:41

YABU i would have replied with

'Oi you cheeky cow ;) im gorgeous me and my husband did go to specsavers, thats why hes saying im gorgoeus.

oldraver · 02/05/2011 17:04

Your DH deleting it is the best thing... I would of been tempted to write 'meow' though Grin

catsareevil · 02/05/2011 17:10

I think you are over-reacting tbh. His comment is cringey, and if by some chance you dont look as good as KM did on friday, then she is only saying what everyone else was thinking.

glitterballmama · 02/05/2011 17:26

yanbu, it's not funny and is really bitchy. Ignore typical MN bores who say you're being over sensitive - of course you're not, it's a nasty thing to say! Are you his friend - can you comment saying something like, 'Wow, did you get out of the bed on the wrong side today' or 'Err - thanks!'. Just mean IMO.

JamieAgain · 02/05/2011 17:31

It's a bitchy comment, but I remain (as ever) completely bemused as to the point of FB

glitterballmama · 02/05/2011 17:32

Just read the whole thread, what a bunch of horrible cows some people are on here! Your DH obviously adores you - ignore the miseries saying that it is vom inducing and other nastiness.

fluffygal · 02/05/2011 17:37

I think its fine! You are mates, you socialise together. If it had been a woman you didn't know, then that would be a different matter.

Iceaddict · 02/05/2011 19:43

I'm sure it was meant as a joke to, but she is still rude! Obviously completely tactless or just a jealous bitch. I would have had to have commented with something equally as bitchy/jokey so that she couldn't say you didn't have a sense of humour but still got the message

Iceaddict · 02/05/2011 19:45

Infact add me as a friend I'll sort it out! Haha

wotnochocs · 02/05/2011 19:48

'ignore the miseries saying that it is vom inducing and other nastiness.'

but why not just tell her how much he loves her.I kind of take it as read that couples will love one another I don't see why they need to share it with the world.

thederkinsdame · 02/05/2011 21:06

You should've got your DH to write back: 'saucer of milk to go for [poster's name], please.'

sausagesandmarmelade · 02/05/2011 22:36

I think she was just responding to your DHs comment, which some might have found bitchy, shallow (and all the rest).

hmc · 02/05/2011 22:37

glitterballmama - I can picture you (snort!)

megapixels · 02/05/2011 22:56

Why not be adoring/loving or whatever to your heart's content, but not at the expense of someone else? It would still be ridiculous Grin, but quite harmless.

foreverondiet · 02/05/2011 23:37

I think he asked for it. As others have said it is the sort of status that requires a witty comment. people get offended for all sorts of stupid things eg I once put as my status - "had a great great gym workout, why bother with a personal trainer when i have such great motivation". Dh's aunt then de-friended me as she is a personal trainer and she thought i was being offensive.

suburbanslob · 03/05/2011 04:50

Jealousy.

suburbanslob · 03/05/2011 04:52

Oh also I'd leave the comment there as she has clearly embarrassed herself by leaving it.

brokenmarrow · 03/05/2011 08:43

Maybe she has just had enough of boke enducing comments from other fb friends and your dh's was the last straw.

I seem to be inflicted with wags of my dh's friends who write such sacarin crap i feel i am going to get diabetes just reading it!

I constantly have to grip the desk (equivalant of biting my tongue) to stop myself putting just this sort of comment on.

wotnochocs · 03/05/2011 09:13

I think you are being very precious!It's a witty quip, it doesn't mean she's jealous or bitchy.It's a JOKE!! i'd have laughed

BM- Know what you mean- I have a FB 'friend' who is constantly writing stuff like how much she loves her 'wonderful' new DP (she's had a fair few) how wonderful her children are .You begin to wonder who she's trying to convince!
Also hate things like ' you only need things in your life that make you happy' Bollocks! If only that could be true- I'd tell my boss and the taxman to F**k right off!

lesley33 · 03/05/2011 09:19

I agree its a joke. The person obviously didn't realise you were so sensitive. Get your DH to do a witty reply in return.

upahill · 03/05/2011 09:28

Good job you don't work in my office you wouldn't last two minutes if you are that sensitive!!

I thought it was a funny and current retort to an over sentimental comment.

If I was you I would have laughed my head off and replied Oi bitch!!!! (lol!) showing that I found it funny (because it is!)

PicaK · 03/05/2011 09:38

But it's a joke!

Surely there's no way someone who works closely with you, invited you to be DH friends and bothers to read you posts is deliberately setting out to say she thinks you are ugly.

In the same way your husband was just paying you an OTT compliment doesn't mean he's setting out to slag someone off on their wedding day.

s a funny, banter comment.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 03/05/2011 09:45

I agree with megapixels. I think your husband's initial comment was a bit cringey - I would have deleted THAT if anything - and the friend's comment was in response to it. You just got caught up in the 'crossfire' unfortunately.

I think FB gets a justified reputation for just being a pointless platform for people to post all kinds of wishful/cringey comments to make up for what isn't there in RL. On the other side of the coin, some people just use it for games or for family only to share pictures, etc.

JamieAgain · 03/05/2011 15:06

Yes, I have to agree, FB seems to encourage people to write really boring things (sorry OP, I'm sure your DH is lovely but I don't get the whole "status" thing)

Bluemoonrising · 03/05/2011 16:58

I think your DH's comment is by far the worse comment of the two. Imagine making a negative comment about someone on their wedding day? Especially someone as pretty as Kate Middleton?

You may well be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if you get upset by being compared to Kate Middleton on her wedding day, and not coming out on top (and bear in mind, your DH started this nonsense), then you really need to come back down to earth and realise its not anything like a big deal.