To wonder if there's a man alive who knows when the bin truck comes, what the kids eat for packed lunches, when school discos and parents nights are????
ssd · 29/04/2011 08:27
cos mine doesn't
he's a great dad, but I'm coming to realise he's great when its something he's interested in, eg. football, football and football
he coaches, helps out, fundraises, plays with the boys, absolutely great for 2 sons
but anything else boring and mundane is up to me or else it doesn't happen
I can pin up schedules of the bin men coming, whats happening at school, but it all by passes him
mousesma · 29/04/2011 08:30
Well my man knows when the bin trucks due because putting the bins out is his department. Too earl to tell for the other stuff because DD only 9 months.
It has to be said he doesn't know what to feed DD but that's because he works and I'm currently a SAHM and seeing as she seems to change daily what she'll eat he doesn't have the confidence yet.
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rainbowinthesky · 29/04/2011 08:41
Either of us takes the bins out. DC have school dinners but when they did have packed lunch it was mainly dh who made them as I make a crap packed lunch and he makes a great one.
Never had a school disco but I've never been to any of my dc school events - it's always dh.
Parent's evenings -whoever checks the book bag writes it on the calendar and then one or both of us goes.
Tbh I would hate to live any other way.
PrettyCandles · 29/04/2011 08:42
Mine can do all those - and he's better than me at some of them. And I can check the engine oil, change a tyre, wire a plug, get things from the loft, mow the lawn and set up the direct debit to pay the gas bill - but I don't, he does them.
We're comfortable in the roles we've each taken on, traditional though they may be.
MoreBeta · 29/04/2011 08:47
ssd - I suspect DW might say something like you did in your OP but the thing is I do know when the bins need to go out, I do packed lunches every day, and do know when school events are.
Its just that DW really likes to feel that she is still 'on top of everything' so she feels the need to remind me and has it all worked out and written down on a calendar. Is that like you?
It kind of works. I basically know what needs to be done and DW also knows what needs to be done - I let her remind me and we are both happy. I supect if left to his own devices your DH/DP would be the same and no one would die of starvation and the house would not fill up with rubbish. He just knows you have everything organised and he has come to rely on you for your input.
fizzylaces · 29/04/2011 09:01
Haha Beta - spot on I like to be in charge and sometimes am a bit of a martyr (and don't share info if I don't think he needs to know - he shares everything). I think my 7 years as a single parent has contributed to this as I always did everything and that is my role. However, left to his own devices, DP would do a sterling job and the reason he doesn't do certain child related tasks is because I take on the responsibility for them such as packed lunches, info about school/nursery, family meet-ups (even his), shopping for food/clothes and other things.
And we both know when the bins are due out and do them when necessary. We both work full time and we have a 2yo together and a 13 yo from my prev relationship.
Food for thought. I know I need to relax on the controlling front as all of us would benefit once I got over the initial panic
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