Men are curious, right?

[Mumof2smallchildren]

Is there a good reason why a man would have googled swingers clubs and lapdancing bars in local towns, when he was meant to be at another, important, thing? A thing where I can't check if he actually went?

(namechanger as I think he searches for my real name)

Oh God. If he is lying about this then I literally don't know what to do.

I'll not sleep tonight. Not uless I take a sleeping pill, then I'll be drowsy tomorrow.

Ok, first of all, take a deep breath. It'll be alright, somehow, you'll find a way through. The middle of the night is the worst time to be thinking along these lines, because everything just seems so much bleaker and more awful.

Seriously, can you not make up a bed with your little ones, go and cuddle them and try and get some sleep? At least relax a bit? Then maybe tomorrow you can see if he goes to his mum's for a few days while you both make time to talk.

I know it's impossible, but I'm with Geocentric - you really shouldn't do anything tonight.

Maybe not even tomorrow.

You need time to sort your head out and to try to think about how to approach this and about possible outcomes and what outcome you would like.

DON"T get into it with him now.

I need to go and get some sleep... Hope you're ok and that you manage to get some rest tonight. Keep in touch - I'll look in on your other thread tomorrow.