To ask what time your children go to bed?

[SacreLao]

I have 2 children, DS is 6 years old and has special needs, DD is 8 years old and a typical little girl.

They go to bed together at 7.30 pm and have done for a few years. At the weekend or in school holidays my DD will stay up a little later and go bed around 8.00pm sometimes 8.30pm. She gets about half an hour reading time in bed after this and then it's lights out. DS really needs his sleep so goes bed at the same time as always.

Anyway I thought this was a pretty reasonable time for their ages but DD had a friend sleep over at our home last night and when chatting to her mum she told me that her DD goes bed at 9pm on school nights and 10pm at weekends and holidays. This seems really late to me!

Anyway I allowed both my DD and friends DD to stay up until 10pm last night thinking that DD would have fallen asleep by then, was very surprised that not only did she stay awake until 10pm but that she woke up as normal with no problems at 8am this morning.

Am I sending her to bed too early?

What time do you send your 8/9 year old's to bed?

DD (4) 7.00pm
DS (6) 7.00pm
DD (8) 8.00pm
DS (11) 9.00pm, reads until 10.00pm
DD (12) 10.00pm
DD (23) chooses her own bedtime

An hour (ish) later during the holidays for the 8, 11 and 12 year olds.

DS (7) - 9pm but sleeps until 8 (later at weekends)
DD (5) - 8.30pm but should also go earlier - also sleeps late at weekends.

Ds2(2) 7pm.
Ds1(7) a few minutes after, so 7.20 or so.
At weekends, no real time limit. 8.30 or any time they like really. normally depends on when I've had enough of them !!

I'm trying to prevent DS2 from getting into going to bed too early. About 8 is right. He's 14 weeks. The reason is that when he starts nursery in September he will not be home much before 6. Then there is dinner, bath, actually see mummy and daddy time etc. So 8 will work and we are trying to start as we mean to go on. DS1 is 12 and goes to bed when we do, or decides if he is tired before then. 10ish gives him about 9 hours sleep if he doesn't mess around too much which seems fine to me. I never had a bedtime beyond babyhood, my mum based it on what we were doing and how I seemed. My dad died when I was little so she was alone and had no other adult to suit.

ds is 3 and goes to bed aroudn 830-9. he is up aroudn 7ish, goes to bed a little earlier after being at nursery an will often stay up until 930-10 at the weekend but will then sleep in until 8ish

he will sleep in if he has had a late night and has only recently slept 12 hours, and that has only been a handful of times. i have no set time, wind down time does not work he is full of energy then within 2 minutes he is ready to go to bed and falls asleep very quickly. putting him to bed earlier creates drama

My 6 year old twins go to bed at 7.30pm. Usually asleep by 8.

My 9 year old goes to bed at 9pm which I think is a bit late. She isn't tired earlier and she'll go straight to sleep at 9. If I put her to bed at 8.30 it seems to bring an hour of coming downstairs for drinks/faffing which drives me nuts.

12 yr old boy goes at 9.

Except tonight he is sleeping already as he is just back from a three day camp with school.

you are the best judge of how much sleep your kids need. my 8 year old goes to bed at 7.30 but up until a month a go went at 7.

DS (1.8y) goes to bed at 7.30pm every night and usually wakes at around 7-7.30am. He also has a nap for 1-2 hours per day. I'm really lucky that DS has always been a good sleeper and usually falls asleep instantly but there has been a small handful of times where he has cried and cried and just hasn't went to sleep until around 9pm, it's draining, my sympathies go out to anyone who has to put up with that every night.

20 month old 7pm, 4 year old wash, teeth, story, PJs by 730. He plays with his trains normally quietly for an hour or so before we go in again to tuck him up so realistically 830 "in bed".

They both wake around 7am.

My dds are 4 and 7. 4yo goes to bed at 7.30pm, 7yo at 8pm. Sometimes dd2 is asleep when dd1 goes up (they share a room) sometimes still awake. If she's still awake it's mayhem! Last night they were awake til gone 9pm which is far too late. Both up at 7am this morning but both grumpy and squabbling now so early night for dd2 tonight.

9y DD, a night owl by nature, goes to bed around 8:30-9pm. Later at weekends and holidays depending on where we are and what we are doing. She'sd chose to stay up later and sleep later - takes after her mum!

School days she is up at 7:15am, she sleeps in at weekends and on holidays.

Ds2 is 8 he goes to bed at 8.30 now on school nights, he's usually up between 6 and 7

MY twin DD's (4) go upstairs between 6 and half past depending on whether or not its bath night, in bed and fast asleep by 7pm.
mind you they wake between 6 and half past! have tried making bed time later in the hope they will sleep later but no such luck they get up at the same time but are just crankier

I need my me time. So both of mine go up to their rooms at 8pm. They can play, read or listen to music, but no tv or console games.

Dd (10) lights out at 8.30pm
Ds (11) lights out at 9pm

They both get up around 7.30am.

DD (3) goes to bed around 8, then she gets up around 7-730. No daytime naps (unless we've been out and she falls asleep in the car on the way home).

I love it now the boys are older and they don't have to be in bed early.
It has given us so much freedom as a family, it's great!!

I used to hate them having to go to bed between 6 and 9 as it meant someone always had to be in then.
Now we can go for meals out mid week, we can go to the theatre/cinema/gigs as a gang of four.

It's brilliant!!

DS(8) and DD(6) are about to go to bed.

8pm on a school night
9pm on a Fri and Sat
Later for a few special occasions throughout the year.

DS is allowed to read for 30min or finish a dvd after bedtime on a weekend but DD needs her sleep or gets very tired and grumpy the next day.

Our 22 month old little boy goes to sleep at half 7 and wakes between 6 and half past in the morning. He also has a morning nap starting anywhere between 9 and 10 and sleeps between 2 and 3 hours.