Is anybody around at the moment, really need someone to help me decided how to act on a really urgent situation.
Have name changed for privacy reasons to those involved.
Have a close friend with SERIOUS PND depression at the moment and have been trying to help / support her over the last few weeks. She often days that she hates her DS because she wanted a girl, thinks he is ugly because he has a birthmark, hates his red hair because he looks like his dad etc.
Things have got worse and worse and most days when I go round the baby is alone upstairs and crying. She isn't feeding him regularly or changing him and as a result he has terrible nappy rash at the minute. She says she can't bear to hold him.
I am helping out as much as I can and go to see her at least 3-4 times a day to make sure baby is sorted, he also has been coming to sleep at mine once a week (will be increasing to 2 nights) as she has started drinking pretty heavilly at night and dosn't always wake up for the baby's night feeds.
Anyway am currently chatting to her on MSN and she has just admitted to me that a) she got really angry the other day and smacked the baby (15 weeks old) and b) she has seriously thought about killing him and herself !!
I don't think she will honestly do something like that but like I said it's really bad at the moment and I don't want to dis-regard what seems like a plea for help.
Am talking to her now still, what the hell do I do / say!!
I feel awful but wondering if I should get SS involved?
She would know it was me and it would destroy our friendship but i'm so worried about her DS.