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AIBU?

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AIBU to want one lie in a year - on my birthday??

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LadyWithNoManors · 25/04/2011 07:55

It's my birthday, as if being one year older isn't depressing enough I also had to get up with DC's at 7am as DP was snoring away.
I asked him last night if i could have a lie in and he said no as he had to go to work every day and I'm a SAHM. I get up earlier than him every day btw!
It not even as if I was talking of a mammoth session. My parents are coming at 10am so it would only have been until 8am.
Grrr what a dick!

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ScroobiousPip · 28/04/2011 11:03

Oh dear.

Nickname - fine that that's how you want to live your life.

But do you not see that your way of life might, just might, not work for every other family out there?

What about the many dads who would love to be at home with their children? Should they be forced back to work because the mother must, in your view, be the one to stay home?

IsThereAnyNicknameNotInUse · 28/04/2011 11:04

Scroob Yes. its the husbands duty to go to work and provide for his family.

MooMooFarm · 28/04/2011 11:06

'errands'? You must have a lot of errands to run .

DH and I both work so we both do the housework as & when; generally a bit every night - for example last night he cleaned the bathrooms & had a quick hoover round whilst I was cleaning up the kitchen & dining room from dinner. The DC were playing in the garden.

That way we also have weekends completely free for family time. Errands don't get in the way. What are errands by the way? .

ScroobiousPip · 28/04/2011 11:08

Even when the father wants to be at home and the mother enjoys being at work? Seriously?? You'd condemn them both to that misery?

And what about where the mother earns more than 4 or 5 times what the father earns? Is it better that the family is on benefits??

Ephiny · 28/04/2011 11:08

I'm starting to think Nickname is just trolling now...

MooMooFarm · 28/04/2011 11:08

Do you really think working women shouldn't be 'allowed to be a mum'?

Sorry I should probably be getting annoyed, but you're making me because you are so hilariously outrageous!

MooMooFarm · 28/04/2011 11:08

Me too Ephiny

ScroobiousPip · 28/04/2011 11:09

BlameItOnTheBogey · 28/04/2011 11:09

Hi IsThere , my name is BlameinontheBoegy and I do not want to be a stay at home mum. I am in the fortunate position that we could afford for me not to work and I do so because I want to and it is right for our family. FWIW, I am a fabulous mum and my kids are gorgeous, well balanced individuals. What works for one, doesn't work for another and you are flat out wrong to say that all women want to be stay at home mums.

As for all those delicate flowers of men who need two lie ins at the weekend because they work - seriously? Somehow, couples were both parents work out of the home manage without this, as do single parents. I think it's pretty weak actually.

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LadyWithNoManors · 28/04/2011 11:10

Oh my lord this has kicked off hasn't it?
My DP does work every day - Mon-Fri full time permanent job. Sat and Sun own business. So yes he does work a lot.
BUT I am up earlier than him every day in order to get my 3 DC's up - one is at school and I also have a toddler and a baby. So I work hard too.

FWIW nickname not everyone wants to be a SAHM otherwise more women would be. I don't feel I have to be greatful to my DP for working as I look after his children 7 days a week without a break wth little money - I have sacrificed a lot to do it.

On a brighter note to make up for the lack of lie in he took me for lunch and bought me a lovely present.

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MooMooFarm · 28/04/2011 11:12

Ooh what did he get you Lady?

Sorry didn't notice this thread actually started on Monday so I wished you a happy birthday three days too late

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LadyWithNoManors · 28/04/2011 11:18

New bras - very important as not had fitting since arrival of DD2
New jeans and new shoes.
Fabulous for me as money is tight and I can't justify spending much on myself usually.

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PlopPlopPing · 28/04/2011 11:42

nickname you have an idiolistic view of motherhood and obviously find it very easy, not every mother does. You should be able to realise that. I suspect you can't because you either have your head so far up your own backside that all you can see is sh*t, or perhaps it's due to the lack of sleep seeing as you haven't had a lie-in in more then . . . (however old your oldest child is) years.

TheCrackFox · 28/04/2011 12:00

Nickname - I actually think you have it easy as your DH does bath and bedtime for you. My Dh is a chef so I always do bath and bedtime. Your Dh must be exhausted after a hard day at work so I think you should start doing your fair share.

notevenamousie · 29/04/2011 04:53

Lady Happy Birthday! And I am glad you enjoyed your presents, but yes, the priceless gift of sleep, I am sure that could have been worth more!

I still think being a SAHM is a privilege PPP - but I am sure as I said my opinion is coloured by having to do it all, in my own situation. If you have no one, as I don't to earn the money to enable it, then you have to work, but you still have to care, cook, clean, etc.

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