Last week DP and I had a bit of a row about his perception of my ability to carry stuff. We went to the park so he could play football with his friends (he hates football btw) after doing some shopping. There was loads to carry, but I got a coffee and pottered about the charity shops, then came back an hour later to get him to walk home. He said he wasnt coming, would I be ok with all the stuff. I said, erm, well... and he was off! 'Ok! See you later then!' I was then left to carry upteen bags of crap to our first floor flat, including loads of food shopping. We rowed, he said sorry and that he understood that I cant carry much more than the usual stuff ie the baby, the pram, change bag, food bag etc.
So tonight I drop him at his friends house by my mums. We were going to be there most of the day so we took a big bag of toys/feeding bottles and the moses basket. The deal was that I pick him up later in the evening and we go back together.
Now hes said hes not coming back with me, hes getting the bus so he can stay out later, am I ok on my own. No Im not! After last week you think he would realise, how is she going to get all that shit back into the car without me, let alone up the stairs to the flat at 11pm! Right now theres the toy bag, food bag, bread bin, blanket bag and moses in the car waiting for him to bring up.
Am I right to be pissed off? I know it will get up to the flat at some point but thats not the issue, its him thinking Im a Strong Man! My mum is funny about her space so wont let me keep anything at her house and has a condition where her hands dont grip, so Ive basically had to wait for him to finish at his friends or go it alone.
He looks at a pram and thinks how much stuff can I dump on it, where as I look at a pram and think how am i going to get that bloody thing up the stairs!!! He should have some consideration shouldnt he?
Disclaimer : (I do realise Im lucky to have a DP that can carry stuff, I know some women have to go it alone all the time, and I totally admire that!)