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what do you think of this?

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 22:49

Namechanger here.

What do you think of someone who takes their young child to a wedding, wearing a bridesmaid dress, when the child is NOT a bridesmaid at that wedding?

Probably won't reply to these, just want to know what you think.

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ilovetomandjerry · 22/04/2011 22:49

wrong!

squeakytoy · 22/04/2011 22:50

I would think they were completely barking, or very pissed off that the child wasnt asked to be a bridesmaid.

onehotmomma · 22/04/2011 22:51

If it's a proper bridesmaid dress then that is just weird, why the hell would someone do that? Hmm

Beamur · 22/04/2011 22:51

Very odd and not appropriate.
Maybe the child really wants to be a bridesmaid and the parent is trying to appease them?

FunnysInTheGarden · 22/04/2011 22:51

vair odd

thisisyesterday · 22/04/2011 22:51

i would think that they are being rather PFB and think their darling baby will feel upset if she doesn't get to wear a giant dress too. when in reality the kid probably doesn't care.

bit weird IMO

zookeeper · 22/04/2011 22:52

I would think it's fine - just a dressy dress for a little child.

theglove · 22/04/2011 22:52

I'd feel a bit sorry for the child, looks the part but isn't quite included

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 22:52

How would you feel if you were the bride at that wedding?

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AgentZigzag · 22/04/2011 22:53

It is weird.

Thank you for telling us you're not going to bother replying though, very considerate, because we'd all be waiting with baited arsehole for your next post else Hmm

janetsplanet · 22/04/2011 22:54

the bridesmaid dresses my girls had from next were more like fancy party dresses

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 22/04/2011 22:54

It would depend how old the child was and how similar to the actual bridesmaids dresses it was - if similar then no way, if very different and the child is young (under ?) then fine... just a pretty dress on a tot.

MainlyMaynie · 22/04/2011 22:54

I had 2 girls at my wedding who wore bridesmaid dresses. They'd been bridesmaids recently and their Mum wanted to reuse the dresses. She told me about it in advance and I was fine with it. They just looked like dressy dresses. Can't see why it would be a problem.

TheSecondComing · 22/04/2011 22:54

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plainwhitet · 22/04/2011 22:55

what makes a dress a bridesmaid dress for a young child? perhaps it is just the mother's idea of a formal, pretty dress; perhaps the child was a bridesmaid elsewhere and the mother wants to get a bit more wear out of the dress before it is too small? Perhaps someone passed on the dress and the mother really likes it and the only place to wear it is at this wedding? I think I would be pleased to see a beautifully dressed child at my/a friend's wedding, to be honest.

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 22:55

Sorry, didn't want to appear rude. I didn't really want to give any more details.

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ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 22/04/2011 22:58

Oh yeah... I was definitely assuming the child already had the dress from a previous wedding. Barking to go and buy one for a wedding she's not a bridesmaid at!

Cutiecat · 22/04/2011 22:59

I think a little girl in a pretty dress is better than one who turns up looking a mess. Just as long as the mother is not pushing the. Down the aisle as the bride walks in.

So doornouse you can take your daughter in her dress.

theglove · 22/04/2011 23:00

MainlyMaynie, I like your solution - if by some weird turn of fortune I ever have a wedding I would like this of all the youngsters

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 22/04/2011 23:00

More likely Doormouse can stop kicking off about a tot at her wedding in a bridesmaids dress!

Come on - why all the secrecy?

BeerTricksPotter · 22/04/2011 23:01

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 23:02

Well my bridesmaids wore tutus, fairy wings and baseball sneakers so if she turned up dressed like that I would think it a bit odd.

They sell bridesmaid type dresses in BHS etc so maybe it was one of them? Was she carrying a posey or a satin pillow?

PenguinArmy · 22/04/2011 23:04

If it was a young child and the dress was not the same as the bridesmaid then I wouldn't mind. It's an excuse to dress up fancy.

sims2fan · 22/04/2011 23:14

When I got married I had 2 little bridesmaids and the 2 daughters of my husband's friend also came dressed in very pretty dresses, which were similar style to bridesmaid dresses. I thought they looked lovely and like seeing little girls in proper, some would consider old fashioned, party dresses. I was more than happy that they were dressed that way, and as they were also sweet and very well behaved I asked them to help my bridesmaids hand out the pieces of cake at the evening reception and took photos of them all together and they all looked lovely. Much much prefer little girls dressed like that for weddings than in skin tight tarty clothes.

If the mum had found out the shop I'd got the actual bridesmaids dresses from and gone there and ordered identical ones for her girls then yes, that would have been a bit odd. Although if it had just been a high street shop and a coincidence then I wouldn't have minded. I know someone who bought her daughter a party dress in white from Tk maxx and when she went to the wedding the 2 little bridesmaids had the same dress in pink. Just one of those things and the bride didn't mind.

fishtankneedscleaning · 22/04/2011 23:17

Was the dress the same as the bridesmaid dress or just a pretty dress suitable for a young child to feel dressed up in for a special occasion? Was the child a close relative who had been overlooked as a bridesmaid but felt as worthy of dressing up as her same age cousins, who were considered to be much more worthy of being bridesmaid??

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