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what do you think of this?

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 22:49

Namechanger here.

What do you think of someone who takes their young child to a wedding, wearing a bridesmaid dress, when the child is NOT a bridesmaid at that wedding?

Probably won't reply to these, just want to know what you think.

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EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 22/04/2011 23:19

If it were one of those mini meringue proper bridesmaid dresses I would think it was bloody odd. Also if it were v similar to what the actual bridesmaids were wearing. I'd assume the mother was precious and had issues about her DD not being chosen or that she was just rude/thoughtless.

EvenLessNarkyPuffin · 22/04/2011 23:20

You have to tell us what happened now, or if this is a pre-emptive thread.

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 23:21

fishtank - there is only an adult bridesmaid at this wedding. No little ones.

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ObscureReference · 22/04/2011 23:22

odd odd odd!!

fishtankneedscleaning · 22/04/2011 23:23

So the dress LO was wearing was not actually the same as the bridesmaid dress then? Just a dress meant for a LO to wear for a special occasion?

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 23:26

We are talking about a proper bridesmaid's dress with all the trimmings. Not in the colours of the wedding party, though.

I'm really sorry for the mysterious nature of this!

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ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 22/04/2011 23:27
Confused

For goodness sake, can you stop all of the cloak and dagger stuff and just say what the situation is. There are million weddings being planned at the moment, it's hardly going to out you.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 23:28

I reckon the little girl had a tantrum about wanting to be a bridesmaid so parents thought she should be allowed to dress as one.

Horribly spoilt.

Thats what I reckon.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 23:28

O M G!

This is not about THE wedding is it?

KATE is that you?

BitOfFunnyBunny · 22/04/2011 23:30

It just sounds like a little girl who wants to dress up and is excited about the wedding to me. It certainly wouldn't worry me for a nanosecond as a bride, especially if there were no child bridesmaids. Life is just too short.

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 23:30

Mrs DeVere Grin Grin

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BitOfFunnyBunny · 22/04/2011 23:32

MrsDeVere Grin

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 22/04/2011 23:32

Oh what a waste of energy, I hate these threads. I wish there was a separate bloody section for them!

BitOfFunnyBunny · 22/04/2011 23:33

Good idea, Chipping. We do have an Etiquette section, I think, but it isn't well-used.

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 23:33

Just wanted to canvass opinions on this and opinion seems to be split 50/50 Confused

Sorry for cloak and dagger, am being paranoid about my situation Blush

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 23:33

chipping SNORT. How can you say that when you are merrily posting on my thread Grin

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 23:34

I didn't know about the etiquette section, I would have posted it there!

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zukiecat · 22/04/2011 23:34

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fishtankneedscleaning · 22/04/2011 23:35

doornouse what exactly is your gripe? TBH I am not sure if a five year old would have a tantrum about not being invited to be bridesmaid. I dont think a five year old would know what a bridesmaid is? Without knowing where you are coming from it is impossible to know whether you would be unreasonable about your view Confused

JaneS · 22/04/2011 23:38
Confused

I have no idea what 'a proper bridesmaids dress with all the trimmings' is. Anyone else? Or is there, in fact, no such animal?

ShinyMoonInAPurpleSky · 22/04/2011 23:38

What exactly is the difference between a bridesmaids dress "with all the trimmings" and a fancy party dress/fairy princess gown etc? I was never a bridesmaid and never had any so I can't really see the difference...

piprabbit · 22/04/2011 23:39

I'm not sure that opinion is split 50/50.

Unless the lone, real, adult bridesmaid is dressed like a small child in a party frock then the little girl is just a little girl in a pretty dress.

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 23:39

The child has a bridesmaid's dress from a previous wedding, and apparently she wants to wear it again. There is a bit of debate in real life about whether she should be allowed to. The mum doesn't intend to check with the bride, apparently.

Didn't mean to drip feed, I had intended not to give much more detail but people were getting cross with me! Blush

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doornouseinateapot · 22/04/2011 23:41

I suppose there isn't a difference, really. It just looks recognisably like a bridesmaids dress to me.

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AgentZigzag · 22/04/2011 23:42

Awwww little tiny bridesmaids, s'making me go all warm and fuzzy at the cute factor Smile

I bashed the fuck out of my ball of flowers when I was a 3 YO bridesmaid Grin