to thing that having child number 5 when living in a small 2 bed flat is unfair to all the children.

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I totally understand that it is in all honesty none of my business how many kids people choose to have, as long as the parents can provide from them. However I really do find it a bit hard to get my head around how one family of 4 kids 2 adults could fit into a 2 bed flat before but last week they came home with baby number 5.

I just don't get how the parents feel this arrangement of 4 kids (oldest child is 13, some boy some girls) sharing a bed room is healthy. They must have no real play space or personal space. I just don't understand why you would want to bring another child into that?

I feel so sorry for the new couple who live below to as the noise from so many feet run around must drive them mad. I don't think that any one has lasted more the 9 months in the flat bellow for years.

I just don't understand they see nothing wrong this having still more without moving it?s not fair on any of the kids.

noodle how old were you when you were sharing with your brother? I think that sharing only becomes a problem when children get older 13/14 ish dependant on their personality and the amount of space they are sharing.

How about you bite me, you condescending moron? No I wouldn't move, I live in a conservation area of outstanding natural beauty and can see and hear the waves from my window. My children have a beach for their playground, and a forest for a garden. What do yours have, their own boxroom, bully for them.

How tragic and narrowminded that you measure your childrens happiness in how many bedrooms you have! I feel sorry for them.

but Winter - think you could swap it for one of those new characterless
5 bedders/ 3 bathrooms, spiting distance from your neighbours and a postage stamp for a garden - but at least the kids would have their own bedroom.

my house sounds nowhere near as lovely as yours but we also choose location,garden and character over size and ensuites - poor neglected kids. Actually, the house we were in before had 5 huge bedrooms (all ensuite), maids quarters - we are now in a 3/4 bed semi with one loo - and strangely the kids don't feel hard done by but love their house (extra bathroom would be lovely though).

Yes I am sue most people enjoyed sharing a room with one skater and thats the key one would you still have enjoyed it if you were sharing with 4 or five sisters living like a poor victorian

Juleee I totally agree two sharing a double room no issue but 3 sharing a room thats packed to the hilt with wardrobes and bunk beds is no fun no matter what anyone says most morden houses don't have overly large rooms

maypole - how do you know "they" live in modern houses? Our traditional tenement flat only has two bedrooms, but they're pretty big.

Completely agree with Winter's POV. We have chosen to sacrifice space in favour of living in the middle of an amazingly beautiful and vibrant city. The kids might not have their own bedroom, but they have stunning parks, museums, really cool free activities on their doorstep, and mountains and beaches within easy reach.

We could choose to spend the same money on a four or five bedroomed box in the burbs. No thanks.

We are the same. Large two bed tenement inbeautiful part of a city, Easy access to parks, river, art galleries, museums, many other lovely families in flats. DP walks to work, kids scooter to school/ nursery. We like our lifestyle, the kids do too.

We could affordable three/ four bed new build on the outskirts of town, DP could drive to work, I could drive kids to school.

juuule - I did it on and off for most of my childhood up until 17ish when I moved out. My boyfriend used to sleep in my bed in my room at 16+ so I had to sleep on my brothers floor anyway then as we werent allowed to share rooms.

It didnt bother me tbh but my brother is one of my best mates even now so depends what your personality is like.

And presumably you kept all your stuff (clothes, personal things) in your room and not in your brother's.
Although I agree that personalities are a big part of being able to share space. Plus, as I've said before, the amount of space being shared is a factor, too.

It depends on what you are like. I dont really need much space as I am not a hoarder and I have the personality to share with people. I think it helps you because I easily managed to sleep in 16 person rooms in forces, also easy when I have flat shared etc as I dont mind being all in together.

I think it is special if you do share with siblings, even if you dont have to because you have that close family bond no-one can ever take away.

Bloody he'll
Some of you are barking.

I grew up with 7 siblings in a three bedroom house. And my grandad lived with us. We had a blast. It was fantastic - the very best part of my childhood. When we moved to a bigger place most of us wanted to continue to share.

The night my eldest sister spent at home before she got married was in the room we share through our teens - her me and our two sisters.

I have a slightly larger house than my parents had.

My dcs don't share. I feel a bit sorry for them tbh.

I quite like bloody he'll - sounds like an accent of some sort.

Actually going to have to hide this thread.

Fucktard is one of the most offensive terms I can imagine. I'm off.

Oh dear....I do seem to upset people don't I?

I live in Devon so yes the beach is on one side of me and the moors on the other side.

I don't measure happiness in bedrooms but surely it would be better if they did have their own bedroom.

You sound jelous of other people and try to justify it.

i think you enjoy trying to wind people up mrschips - you got as going - good wind up, no-one can really be that obnoxious in real life.

We have 3 acres of land and yes we too live in a conservation area.......we have so much in common. [except the inside space of course]

I am only giving out what I get. But I admit I am getting bored with this thread now.

The thread is turning into a ''i do it better than you'' when I don't know anybody ha ha................[or do I?]

Personally I would rather have it all.

You can be happy and have your own room you know it is possible.