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Original poster

that I don't like that my nursery strip my child if she's not in nursery uniform?

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musicfan · 19/04/2011 21:01

A new policy has been introduced.

If children (3 and 4 year olds) at my nursery are not sent wearing their nursery polo shirts (regardless of the weather), they are stripped by the carers, and put into uniform polo shirts. Parents get to keep said shirts, but are charged the cost of the uniform on each occurrence.

What do people think about this? I really want to canvass opinion on this before I speak to the nursery head.

Thanks.
MF

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RamblingRosa · 19/04/2011 21:03

That's insane Confused Shock

FudgeGirl · 19/04/2011 21:03

Uniforms for nursery kids? And being forced to buy a polo shirt every time you decide not to send them in one?

YADNBU to want to have a word with the head - what do other parents think?

Bringonthegoat · 19/04/2011 21:04

I think that if they have a policy it is unreasonable to send them there if you do not agree with it. I would not consider it 'stripping' a child to change their t-shirt. DD gets her top changed by nursery if she's mucky/wet and I would consider this along same line.

lurkerspeaks · 19/04/2011 21:04

Presumably this is private nursery.

Ergo their rules go.

I think it is slightly OTT but if they are very keen to maintain their 'image' they can essentially do what they like.

I expect their answer if you raise it will be 'if you don't like it leave'.

ChristinedePizan · 19/04/2011 21:04

That seems a wee bit draconian. My DS's pre-school has a polo shirt but while they like the children to wear it, they don't enforce it at all. I would be very pissed off about being charged - with the best will in the world, it's quite hard to keep a child's clothes clean for more than a day

MissBetsyTrotwood · 19/04/2011 21:04

Ludicrous. I mean, it's ludicrous that they even have to wear a nursery polo shirt in the first place. If they're out anywhere, maybe for easy id but never otherwise...

Cymar · 19/04/2011 21:05

Has the policy been introduced before your DC had started?

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musicfan · 19/04/2011 21:05

It is a private nursery. And virtually every day she comes home with something (food or paint or mud) on her top. She is there 4 days a week.

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Vallhala · 19/04/2011 21:05

I'd tell them to fuck off that they were not within their rights to do this unless the nursery is a part of an independent school and my child was going to carry on into prep. If that was the case I suppose I'd begrudgingly agree that I was buying into certain expectations and uniform policy but if the nursery is just a normal one then I'd be having words.

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musicfan · 19/04/2011 21:05

Policy starts this May.

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squeakytoy · 19/04/2011 21:06

Just make sure she is wearing the right top when you send her in.

If they are being taken out, it is much easier to identify a stray child if they are in uniform.

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musicfan · 19/04/2011 21:06

She will leave in September to go to state Primary school, unattached to nursery.

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musicfan · 19/04/2011 21:07

Children are not being taken out, they are on private property nowhere near other people/city/built up areas.

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schmee · 19/04/2011 21:07

I don't like my kids having to wear uniform to nursery, but it's my choice to send them there, so I think I need to stick by the rules. I can't imagine not sending them in uniform if there is one. Seems a bit mean to charge you for each polo shirt, but maybe that's the only way they think they can enforce the rule? Has the uniform recently been introduced?

LynetteScavo · 19/04/2011 21:08

The word "strip" is a bit strong.

They change the child.

You were informed of the policy, and choose each morning how to dress your child.

In schools I know of where a uniform is introduced, it is introduced with warning, so parents can choose not to send their child their, the children already attending don't have to wear the uniform.

The nursery should have done this..

If the weather is cold, put the nursery polo over a long sleeved shirt. It looks cool.

Would I be cross in your situation? Yes I would.

Cymar · 19/04/2011 21:08

Personally speaking, I think wearing a uniform of sorts is good. It helps identify the school/nursery the pupil is from in case they get lost, say on a day outing to a farm etc.

RamblingRosa · 19/04/2011 21:10

Can you ask the manager about it? Not in an angry way but just calmly ask what the rationale is behind enforcing the uniform rules in such a draconian way and explain what your concerns are? Can you talk to any of the other parents? If a few of you could let the nursery know - through a conversation or a joint letter - that you were very unhappy about the rules and considering moving nurseries it might have an impact!

TattyDevine · 19/04/2011 21:10

I'd be "stripping" her of the shirt when you collect her - hand it back to them - and put a t-shirt/coat/top whatever on her to travel home in.

Don't pay for the shirts - but dont keep them either.

If they want to play dollies with your child while she's there, let them get on with it Grin Wink

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musicfan · 19/04/2011 21:12

There are no outings. The building and grounds are secure, with no means of getting out. There will be no need to identify them in this instance.

By "strip", I mean that they take off my child's clothes, without her being soiled, and put other clothes on to her.

The school she is going to has a uniform, but this is a nursery. The children are from 6 months to 4 years old.

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Bonsoir · 19/04/2011 21:13

I wouldn't be able to send my child to a nursery/pre-school that was that rigid. If they were anal about uniforms for 3 year olds, what other really pointless rules might they be enforcing?

GastonTheLadybird · 19/04/2011 21:14

Aside from the fact I personally don't think they should be institutionalised made to wear uniform from such a young age it just seem a really weird policy. How many polo shirts would you need? I would need at least 8 with my 3yo.

What do they do when they spill paint over themselves at nursery? Surely they don't expect you to pack back up uniform tops? How much are they?

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musicfan · 19/04/2011 21:15

Uniforms are £8.50 per polo shirt, £9 per jumper. She will use them for 4 months, til she goes to school in September.

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CURLYMAMMA · 19/04/2011 21:16

Thats really OTT. YANBU

ChristinedePizan · 19/04/2011 21:17

Woah - that's expensive! My DS has two polo shirts - think they cost £6 each. If there's one clean, he wears it, if not, he wears something else

usualsuspect · 19/04/2011 21:18

yanbu

I would tell them to stuff their nursery

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