or hormental about DS's nursery?

No, IMO you aren't being hormonal. I would be extremely pissed off about all of your points, particularly no. 3 and 4.

I'd pull him out if I were you and get some extra quality time with him before the baby arrives.

I think you should talk to them about your concerns and see what they say.

On another note, please may I plagarise the word 'hormental'?

Hormental was that a freudian slip?

YANBU to be annoyed at the hand and mouth - get GP to ring the nursery.

Losing things is a PITA but it happens, and to mums too.

Bottle being dropped - they really should have discussed it first - but its easily solvable.

Napping - if its their routine and it was a one off early pick up - again these things happen.

They won't interact so much with the 1-2s as they are teaching them to have some independance.

If you are realy unhappy I would find somewhere else, not take early ML.

I don't think you are overreacting and I think you need to make an appointment to see the manager tomorrow, particulary in regard to the hand foot and mouth diagnosis. I would be angry if someone stopped giving my ds a bottle without talking to me and leaving him in a dirty nappy is plain wrong.
I would question why he wasn't on the register, I would be very concerned about that in case there was a fire, if he's not on the register then no one would look for him.

YANBU, go with your instincts. Starting mat leave early is a good idea if you can.

Yanbu, I wouldn't be happy about any of those points, except maybe the last one as they have to be careful I guess.

2 and 4 Are the worst.

The room doesn't sound very nice, but how is he enjoying it as far as you can tell? There are usually teething problems when they move rooms, so I'd give it a couple more weeks before doing anything hasty. short weeks coming up anyway :)

That does sound shit. I wouldn't start maternity leave so early, but I would be thinking of finding better childcare.

so your dh thinks it's acceptable that your son has been left dirty, starving and ignored by adults you pay to look after him?!

the nursery staff are far from qualified health professionals who can diagnose health conditions. ask them why they think they know better than a gp who has been through years of medical training and has years of experience.

When DS1 was at nursery (some years ago now) we noticed a big change in the level of care given after he left the baby room (staff ratio changed). He started to have terrible nappy rash, one day he was left in the same nappy all day. Another time they left him in a fleecy jumper all day even though he was boiling hot. I decided to take him out early when pregnant with DD1 after trying to sort out these care issues. You need to raise your concerns now and monitor the situation carefully.

hormental - that's excellent. Can I use it?

The toddler room sounds very poorly run. I would take in my list of issues and arrange for a meeting with the director to go through the list and discuss... preferable alternative outcomes.

Excluding him before seeing the GP, ok. But disregarding the diagnosis in favour of their own is not on at all. And the register thing is really bad, as someone else said, if there was a fire or some such then no one would know he was there!

I wouldnt start ML early (unless you are planning to resign after the baby comes in which case I dont suppose it makes much difference) but I would be looking for another nursery.

Will you be keeping him in a couple of sessions a week after the baby comes? I would consider it as it will be good for both of you, and if you are then definetely change nurseries.

poor little scrap, sounds awful, like an orphanage

did anything change after you spoke to the manager?. my little ds starts nursery and the more I think about the points you have raised the more worried I am.
If nothing has changed after speaking to the manager, then go higher and if no luck there go to OFSTED

heliumballoons - they won't interact so much with 1-2s as they're teaching them independence? Completely disagree! There is absolutely no reason to interact with 1-2s less than there is with babies, that's ridiculous.

My dd hated her 2nd room which was basically teenagers running the room rather than experienced nursery nurses in the baby room
I Sooooo regret not moving her now as I waited till she was old enough to move to my local nursery at three yrs I should not have waited it was six months!!!!

She is in reception now and loved the local nursery and her school but that's the one thing I wish I'd trusted my instint on and didn't that I regret

Hormental is a great word.

Take him out.

I say take him out. I worked in a toddler room for awhile and we took the most care with the new little ones, since they weren't used to the room etc.

If you're not comfortable with him there it's not worth it.

From a nursery nurse point of view, not saying that you have no right to be upset, but how it may come across from their side

1. losing his comforter (found a few days later after I asked where it was)
   
   

• toys get lost all the time, we encourage parents not to bring in anything to valuable in case of loss or breakage, so far have not lost anything at my nursery but i know lots of parents have lost several comfort toys, one coming straight to mind that they are on the 3rd elephant since birth as they have lost all the others child is 2.
  
  

2. leaving him in a dirty nappy
   
   

• could he have pooed as you arrived, just before you arrived, maybe 10 minutes before you arrived, and nursery nurse was doing nappies and hadn't got to him yet, did you change the nappy, or the worker? what did his bum look like, red sore, like he'd been sitting in it for a while?
  

• often pick up times, are busy and staff are busy talking to all the parents, keeping the children engaged, this doesn't mean they ignore him all day.
  

• in 1-2 year rooms children most likely drink from cups, he may be dropping it naturally if they are offering it in a cup instead of a bottle, or he may just refuse to drink it, as he is not 100% settled in the room as of yet.
  

• lots of doctors often tell parents its viral, when sometimes its not, maybe there is an outbreak and the nursery nurse had seen a lot of it that week, however unless there is an out break, HFM has no exclusion period unless the child is unwell with it.
  

I was a room leader for the 1-2 age range

1. Happens - we try not to loose things, but sometimes they happen - once it took us 3 days to find a child's dummy - and we had tipped out the room etc - but 13 1 year olds are amazing at hiding things
   
2. How long for? I know that sometimes children have the ability of pooing literally 2 minutes before their parent arrives - as a nanny who has also picked up from nursery I also found this with DC. If it was a regular thing then I would be concerned - if it had just happened or he was next in the "queue for changing" then slightly lesser of an issue.
   
3. Are they ignoring the other kids so that they are greeting parents who are arriving = 8am in our room used to be manic with children eating breakfast, playing, and parents dropping off 8 children, 2 adults = not much engagement whilst things are going on but as soon as we can we do play/interact.
   
4. Is this down to miscommunication ie someone thought you said he'd dropped it - or even because the others aren't having an afternoon bottle they forgot to make/do his - I know I have sometimes realised 30 minutes late that actually baby "Tommy" still has a bottle and to quickly go grab it.
   
5. Again is there miscommunication - if lunch covers are in the room then they might not know and just put him down with the rest of the children - although the room nursery nurse should be aware, was he perhaps tired and fell asleep in his dinner.
   
6. If there is HFM going round the nursery then I can understand why they might send him home - I would suggest that explaining the allergy thing to them again.

X posts Cookie :)

Take him out on the basis of 2 3 4 and 5. The nappy situation and lack of interaction are neglectful; not discussing feeding and napping schedules with you is poor communication (a huge issue in my opinion). 1 & 6 are regular occurrences even in good nurseries. Ds2's eczema was diagnosed as chicken pox twice at his (good) nursery!

Loving hormental

Yup great minds think alike Grab