or hormental about DS's nursery?

[pinkypanther]

DS is 13 months old. He has recently moved up from the baby room (excellent) to the toddler (1 - 2) room at his nursery and the problems have started from there.

My issues with the toddler room in the 2 weeks since he has moved include:

1. losing his comforter (found a few days later after I asked where it was)
2. leaving him in a dirty nappy
3. no one apparently taking any time to interact with him (I am not there during the day but when I arrive staff are generally ignoring him and the other kids)
4. dropping his afternoon bottle without telling me (I only discovered this today and it explains why he is so upset and starving by the time I get him home)
5. putting him down for a nap at 12.20 when they know I am coming at 12.30 (on that occasion the excuse was that he "wasn't on the register"
6. phoning me today to tell me I must come and collect him as he has hand foot and mouth, when he has been to the GP the same morning who confirmed his rash is an allergic reaction to something, and not hand foot and mouth. He is now excluded on the basis of nursery's diagnosis of hand foot and mouth...

I am 6 months pregnant and am seriously considering starting maternity leave early and pulling him out, I can't bear it, but DH thinks I am over-reacting.

It is really helpful to have some views from the other side, thank you cookie and Grabaspoon.

(1) he had the comforter (a soft toy) to help him settle as it was supposed to be a familiar object - I know this is quite minor though and wouldn't merit mentioning if it wasn't for the other things.

(2) has actually happened twice in the space of a week now - first time he was red and sore so I think he had been in it for a while, and the second time it was sort of dried and caked on so again, I think it had been a while.

(3) one time I arrived there were three members of staff and three babies/toddlers. One member of staff was writing paperwork and the other two were chatting to each other, no interaction with kids.

(4) he does drink from a cup and they are offering him water (I think) but it's not enough for him when he's at home so I would be surprised if he would cope all day at nursery. He could be refusing but when I asked why he hadn't had any milk that day they looked at me blankly so it was clear he hadn't been offered any.

(5) it was the room manager who had put him down and my husband has specificially reminded staff that morning that he only does a half day that day...again I can see this is minor were it not for the fact that they ought to know who is there when!

(6) I am seriously wavering about this as I know they have to look after the interests of the others but he has had the rash for a month, it just flared up yesterday/today.

I still don't think the nappy thing is neglectful unless

• It's a common occurance
• He goes home without it being noticed
• He is sore from sitting in it all day

It is possible that it was done literally minutes before the parent arrived and the nursery nurse was busy changing another child or was going to get his nappies etc.

I disagree on the nappy - twice in one week? After the first time it happened the staff should have been mortified and checked him before he was due to go home. A sore bottom and dried/caked on poo is not the result of being in a dirty nappy for a few minutes.

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RitaMorgan - why should the staff be mortified, if he had literally just done it then they are blameless in this, also i have known children who have had to be changed almost immediatly due to several poos a day causing them to go red and sore, so if he had done several he could still have only been in it minutes and still been a bit red.

1. This still wouldn't worry me, children often tidy up comforters, shoes, dummies, and we have to search boxes, handbags (from the dressing up), and a hundred and one other places for it. Having lost means he put it down when he was playing and it was prob moved by another child.

they will be offering him water, prob at several points during the day, so i wouldn't be worrying about that.

if your wavering then do what u think is best.

I would be mortified to send a child in my care home in a dirty nappy and with a sore bottom. With a 1:3 ratio the staff should be keeping a better eye on the children - changing dirty nappies is a very basic thing to get wrong.

Yes but if a parent walks through the door, and the child poo's it does happen, its not the staff fault for not changing it straight away, i personally always offer to change a pooey nappy if not caught before the child is leaving. If it was happening on a regular basis then yes this would be cause for concern if happened once or twice a term, i wouldn't be that bothered.

heliumballoons, they are not interacting with them much between 1-2 because they need independence?

Not liking this one bit!

1-2 is such a crucial time in terms of language and cognitive development. They really need some bloody interaction at this age. Really!