So what do we think of a bloke who......

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borrows and spends £200 for ONE DAY on the piss! Is this a man who is being a good Father? and putting his kids first?

He spends all his wages in the first week of being paid and contributes as little as he can get away with to the running of the home. If his wife says anything he lays into her calling her "greedy" and a "money grabber". He gives her approximately one third of his wages to pay all bills, food, clothes etc. He keeps the rest for his social life and when he runs out comes back to her to borrow out of the third that he has given her so she never actually has the full amount. She is not struggling excessively but life could be an awful lot better for everyone if he stopped doing this. He is, apparently, fully entitled to do this as he is the wage earner.

So what do we think of this man because I am going to show him this thread.

The bills are taken care of, yes, by HER out of her one third share of the money coming into the house! And when he borrows the money back, she goes without and juggles to cover it, she doesnt do stuff with the kids etc because he has borrowed the money back off her.

Why does she let him borrow the money? Because he makes life fucking unbearable until she coughs up.

Sorry northerngirl but you are utterly clueless about this situation. It is not the same as yours.

This man has a lifestyle that is far superior to anyone else in his house. It is outrageous. He is providing the basics of food, heat, light and shelter to his family and then pissing the rest away. Surplus money should be spent for the benefit of everyone in the family. A decent man shouldn't need it pointed out to him that he should be using these extras to make his childrens' lifes more comfortable not just for the benefit of himself. FFS it is obvious.
he is a selfish fucker. Not only is he a terrible husband and father, he is a bad person.

he is financially and verbally abusive. if he is contributing so little to the family, why should he get the benefits of family.? I suspect she would be better off without him, emotionally and have a more stable financial base. open an account and get child benefit paid into it in your name. get any benefits paid into an account in your name and ask womens aid for advice.