to think about shopping my 'cousin' to the DSS?

[AdelaofBlois]

Have just had a visit from my partner's cousin, who seems to come round in the school holidays for some cheap childcare. She revealed in the course of conversation that her children's much vaunted scholarships to private school were in fact paid for by her landlady, who also pockets her HB but doesn't charge rent, and that her 'genteel jobs' (nannying, jam making) are bringing in cash-in-hand while she claims benefits. So, basically, she's living in a lovely village, kids at private school, doing nothing much, and claiming huge amounts of benefit fraud. Which seems all the more inexcusable given the standard of living.

Personal annoyance is making my fingers itchy near the phone. But IWBU, wouldn't I, it's just jealousy?

Her landlady pays the scholarships?

I'd report, but leave it a few days so she doesn't realise it was you that told! What she is doing is wrong, by reporting her, you would not be doing anything wrong. You'd report someone you saw stealing from a shop wouldn't you?

Do you think it's all real?

Why is it jealousy? You know what she is doing is wrong, and people like you who ignore it are just as bad as the people doing it, in my honest opinion. It is because of people like you and your cousin that people who genuinely need to claim find it so difficult to do so!!!!!! It is not there to fund private educations, it is there to keep a roof over your head and food on the table!

I think YABU NOT to report this.

To be honest, I think she sounds like she lives in cloud cuckoo land! Either that or she's on the wind up. Jam making isn't exactly going to make her millions.

'Landlady', eh?

Shop them all. ALL OF THEM.

Thats unbelievable really

The benefit cheating scrounging fuckers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm with saturdayschild with not understanding the bit about the landlady playing the school fees.

What have you to be jealous about? Are you jealous of shoplifters and drunk drivers too? If she's breaking the law and defrauding the government, and by extension taxpayers, she needs to be brought to book.

spiteful cow.

I made a million out of my MANJAM

Why would the landlady pay the private school fees? She is getting nothing out of this, she get the rent paid by HB and that's it. I just don't get what the landlady's motive is?

The landlady doesn't charge rent yet gets the HB? Sounds like charging rent to me. Are you sure you didn't misunderstand?

And how is the landlady paying the 'scholarship'? Surely the scholarship means they get reduced/Nil fees so how can she pay that!? Again are you sure you didn't misunderstand?

Is the landlady perhaps some rich heiress who enables the scholarship (for whichever child wins them) and has also agreed to give them reduced rate boarding (only charge whatever the HB they get is)?

I think you need to get some facts straight first and make sure she isn't simply 'boasting' or exagerating.

Bear in mind you are also allowed to earn a small amount per week even on benefits - which jam making I'm sure probably falls within. The nannying though, is that paid and how often?

You might be better pointing out to her that it doesn't sound legit to you (and ask her to clarify) and then telling her to be careful as anyone could shop her in if she goes blabbing such things about.
Once yo have more info/facts then perhaps make a decision on whether you need to suggest the DSS look into her situation.

BTW OP, what are you going to shop her for?

a) The landlady pocketing the HB/rent? (Standard practice- it is a rental after all)

b) Your cousin making some jam?

c) Her kids going to private school when she's a benefit claiming scrounger bleeding hard working taxpayers dry?

Only one of those stands a chance of sticking. Can you guess which one?

i was going to ask that tethers

tbh seems a bit of a tall tale to me.

and looooool at usualsuspect :o

before I get sucked in........

Confused.

The landlady pockets the HB? As pp said, thats standard practice.

She pays the private school fees?
Thats up to her isnt it? Surely the claiming the HB isnt worth her while as school fees would be more or almost as much

Sounds like she is paying the school fees, full stop. How does the HB come into it.

I am all for shopping the fraudsters but if she is doing a bit of cleaning and making some Jam I doubt she is making very much and it seems very petty to report her.

I think your cousin is living in la la land personally. Her landlady pays her kids scholarship? Of course she does and I am Queen of the world.

Is she nannying for the landlady?

That might explain the free accomodation and the HB going to the school fees instead

Good point well made, usual.

I'm going into the garden too.

We wanted to claim HB for the interest on our mortgage when DH was made redundant, but the mortgage company wanted to pocket the lot, the thieving bastards.