AIBU To ask my partner to sell his iguana?

[ihatecbeebies]

My 4yr old DS and I are about to move in with my partner (his place is much bigger than ours so we chose his place over ours) but about 6 months ago he bought a 1 yr old iguana. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to sell the iguana before we move in as they grow to 6 foot, are very dangerous and this one certainly isn't tame, I am worried about the risk to my very curious DS.

for your dp

He's 27, I'm not completely giving my place up I'm going to rent it out on a short term lease and see how things go here, if it is a disaster then I can move back. He seems alright with most other things, he's got cats but that is all, it is only reptiles he has the fascination with and is really mature normally (surprisingly despite the crazy reptile addiction lol!), especially with DS and he also has a DD with SN around the same age which he is amazing with as well.

hahaha thanks edam!

He has a DD of his own and still bought the Ig - does his daughter come to his house?

I raised my eyebrows at that too Chipping!

He does sound very impulsive and that would concern me.

No his daughter has to have a very strict routine because of her disorder and a lot of equipment also and so her mother prefers if visits take place at her house, DP is not on birth certificate so he can't object or she ceases contact.

Male iguanas know when human females are going through their monthly cycles. Iguana males may attack menstruating human females.

I wouldn't want to live with one of them, child or no child.

They don't sound like they should be kept as pets at all.

I wonder if his ex uses MN?

Well if he's not happy about the level of contact then there are things he can do, but it's only worth it if it is actually reasonable to take her out of her home and it wouldn't distress her.

I'm pleased you would still have your own place to go back to (always a good idea if you can, especially with kids!), how long a lease would you do and would you be able to give notice if you and DS needed the house back?

Glad you enjoyed it, ihatecbeebies.

Unfortunately the lawyer he spoke with has said that unless he is on the birth certificate then he has no legal rights so he can only fight for access, even if that was granted it would most probably not be in his house but either at her place or a contact center which wouldn't suit DD.

I would probably have a short term 3 month lease for a while to begin with and then judging on the situation extend it to a 6 month lease.

midori1999, that was very useful and interesting information about iguanas.

However, I have a question. You mention that owning reptiles "is very rewarding". Could you please elaborate on this? It may be that I have a narrow mind, but I can't for the sake of me figure out what the "rewards" would be to own a creature utterly incapable of giving any love back, that does not like physical contact and is rather left alone. What do people really get out of them?