private v state primary - what to say?

[weejie]

we have got the results of our primary applications in Herne Hill - we got none of all the schools we asked for.

we were offered a school our next door neighbour, who is a TA and worked there said 'I wouldn't send a dog there' (her quotes, not mine, but as she was looking to take time off through stress before moving schools I'll believe her)

so, we've gone private.

what's your arguments for the people who were lucky to get into a state school and are taking the smug moral high ground?

a - I'm doing the best for my child, why aren't you? (with a knowing chuckle to myself as this will drive them mental)

b - I'm being moral by giving my place in the local good school (which we would try to get in to on appeal but at least three others families are trying the same)

c - I should have gone to my local school on the non denominational places but I thought it less immoral to pay than to lie

d - fuck you

thoughts?

Ha ha Helena, i like "better class of playground friends". With two dyslexic children I am just bloody grateful that DS1 will be leaving school this year with (hopefully) a reasonable HSC result (A level equivalent) and some chance of having some choices in the future which I attribute directly to his last four years of private education. I have cried so many tears and fought so many battles for my kids in the years when I had no options with regard their education I will not apologize to anyone. If anyone wants to tell me I'm a snob or am wasting my money they can go fuck themselves with bells on.

A "friend" is sending her DC private they have the money and live in the biggest house in their roughneck town.
I just don't understand why they don't move to a nicer part of the county with delightful schools (sending him to private in said delightful part)
There is no family ties where they live. Just a couple of extra ensuites in their luxury new build and private gates.

But she has changed beyond belief with her new "private" set. All talk about holidays and new cars and after school clubs benefitting the children.
Its not jealousy, I just want the old down to earth friend back.

At the end of the day, it's no-one's business but yours. So I'd say d) in the nicest possible way.

Alright sunnydelight! So with you.

Also my exact response to "why do you send your kids there, your not part of the community. I just want to send my kids to a normal school with normal people". WTF?
From now on I will smile sweetly as I think of your reply sunnyd!

weejie great name - are you Scottish?

Oh, I completely understand you. Snarking people, hate them all. My DS is going to go private too and my response is always (d). I did start off by being all apologist (oh, I am so sad, he'd be better off in a state school) but now I say "Oh, he's going private, how lucky is that?" (see, told you it was option d).