If there were enough grammar school places for all the children that were bright enough or needed that style of education, this wouldn't be a problem.
The fact is that people who send their children to prep school or can afford to pay for tutoring do have a very unfair advantage. Super selective grammar schools are sometimes the only choice of grammar school, and when they have catchment areas that are huge and nearly 6 times the number of children applying than the school has space for, tutoring or prep school is the only way bright children are going to have a fair chance of getting a place.
Our local grammar school states that they don't have enough spaces for all the children they feel are suitable for a place, so there are children that make the grade but don't get offered the places. And because of this, the pass mark is extremely high, so even children that are very bright and would easily pass another grammar schools exam or the common entrance exam are denied places.
My ds just missed out on a place for our local grammar. He has been deemed by an ed psych in the top 5% for cognitive ability, he should be a school that can cater for his academic needs, just as child with a particular talent for sport should be at a school that can cater for those needs. But because the pass mark is so high, tutoring is neccesary because every single mark makes a huge difference. It's unreasonable to expect that every school should be able to cater for every childs talent to a high standard, children are different. Nobody expects every adult to suit every job, it's the same with children's education.
When we went for the 11+ exam day, I overheard 2 parents discussing the extra help their children had been given at their prep schools. It seemed work was taylored in lessons, and extra tuition after school was offered. What chance did my ds have against that when he just had me, an unqualified as a teacher parent with a few books from WH Smith? He's already better at maths than I am, so there's not much I could teach him anyway! And the school admits that the test is based on the whole of KS2, even though the test is taken in Autumn term. It couldn't be more biased towards those that can afford tutoring or prep school if it tried.
And the whole thing about teaching for common entrance really doesn't wash. I went to a prep school, and was prepared for the common entrance. I got VR tutoring, and taught how to pass the exam. 11+ consists of VR and exam technique is very much a part of it.
I believe that any prep school that offers tution on top of normal school hours classes either for grammar or common entrance should have to offer free tuition to any state school child that wants it in year 5 and up to any exam in year 6. They generally have charity status because they offer a couple of children scholarships, even though the children they offer scholarships to are particularly good at something and are likely to benefit the school. Free tutoring could be something they have to do to keep their charity status.
Phew! I'll breathe now!
Can you tell this is something I feel strongly about? 