To not want other people to put pictures of me and my family on Facebook...

[Asinine]

...when they know that I don't want to join facebook? My sister knows that my dd isn't on Facebook as she is not old enough and I think it is not a great use of a person's time, besides all the child safety issues. In fact my dd is not even sure she wants to be on it when she is old enough.

Despite knowing that, my sister shows my dd various people's pages or walls whenever we meet. I find this irritating as it feels like she is undermining our parenting. Last time we saw her she had put lots of pics of my children up with comments of who we were and where we were. I was supposed to look at these and be impressed that people I'd never heard of had commented on these pictures.

Now I'd love to see her photos normally but feel uneasy about her putting them in cyberspace. I didn't say anything but want to say something next time it happens.

I know I am being protective but it seems that everyone has to be on Facebook whether you like it or not because even if you don't join people can see you on there.

So AIBU or was I just born in the wrong century?

[LookToWindward]

If they're her photographs then legally she has the right to do whatever she pleases with them regardless of who happens to be in them - be that posting to facebook or what ever else takes her fancy.

I'm afraid all you can do is ask nicely and hope she takes them down.

The HRA does not apply here I'm afraid.

[pandamanda]

I think its dreadful - people need to get a life - my wedding pics ended up all over fb - posted by sad people that didn't even know us - they were seen by people we hadn't wanted/invited to our wedding and ended up causing all kinds of trouble. Whether its legal or not people shouldn't post pics of other people without their express permission - its plain rude!