to feel sad for newly married friend?

[darleneconnor]

Her husband has put a 'change your name,woman' post on her facebook. I'm sure he think's it's funny but I think she's just moved to Stepford.

Also his favorite tv programme is '2 1/2 men' .

Wait 2 years and she'll be on the relationship threads.

I'm not close enough to her to openly criticise him, it all just makes me vv sad.

Oh dear. This was serious.

Prize for the biggest idiot of the day has been won with the OP alone.

No-one would dare to tell me to change my name, especially DH, as I have happen to have quite strong feelings about that particular issue.

I'm lost, totally lost....

FWIW my DP calls me fool. I take it happily, I'm the "brainiest' of the two.

Ha!!

I call manshape, er Manshape. All. The. Time.

It's a term of endearment between us. Anyone finding it derogatory or unsuitable frankly needs to get a grip.

I quite often say to DH 'What's a matter with you man?' if he's forgotten something or done something daft. Is this also derogatory?

They sound like they have a pretty good relationship to me, from their banter!

It's pretty clear, from various comments I've received over the years, that most of my oldest friends think I'm with the wrong man. They couldn't be more wrong, but I don't care. Nobody knows about other people's relationships apart from the people in them, and it's nobody else's business!

sends the OP a complimentary sense of humour

poor cow :)

Hmmm, boy to girl
Man to woman
Gentleman to lady?

In terms of phrases? In which case surely the op would like us to call all men gentlemen instead if men, just to be fair?

Oh, and definitely no cognitive dissonance here.

DH calls me woman sometimes, I call him a hairy arsed trucker. It's a joke. Well we find it funny anyway so that's what matters. If I thought he was serious I wouldn't be married to him.

God forbid that a loving couple should have a bit of banter without some joyless miserable soul muscling in and suggesting emotional abuse and control.

Get yourself a hobby, a job, a lover, ANYTHING but most of all get your head out of your arse!

Oh and you could try getting a sense of humour too

was that a late April fool ?

OP - thank goodness you aren't close enough to openly criticise him. Your friend would (quite rightly) think you very odd.

'Change your name ' - sounds like an instruction which depending on context might be a bit odd.
'Change your name woman' is obviously a injoke in a relationship and this none of anybody's business.
Back off and keep your sympathy for people who need it.

He called her 'woman'. She IS female, is she not? Besides, if your friend isn't at all bothered about it then you'd best find something else to fret about.

Darleneconnor - I think you are being way over the top I am a woman thereore how is it sexist for my husband to refer to me as one??

My exh used to call me a c*. "Woman" would have been fine by me...

i am a geordie - it is common for us to end a sentence with 'man'

does that make us all sexist feminist man haters...

Yes, it's shocking. He's probably going around saying 'my wife and I' every third sentence too, the newly-married fucker. Misogyny at its very worst.

I can honestly say that, in that context, I would most efinitely NOT be offendd by such a statement.

I would not find it sexist or offensive at all.

Same as if I called DH "MAN" in that context - it'd be done in jest and taken in jest.

It is a joke between a married couple. Leave them be!!!

I do wonder if some couples daren't have any form of pet banter between them in fear of offending one another

Bollocks. What is this cognitive dissonance bollocks? I've been waiting all day for someone to post what it is on here?

If I understand rightly, cognitive dissonance is when you manage to hold two contradictory beliefs at once - it's something that people who're being abused or repressed sometimes do, eg., knowing someone is hurting you and also believing they are a good and loving person. I'm not clear where it comes into this thread though.

Is the OP Milly Tant?