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AIBU?

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I need a flaming - I am the crazy woman in Asda.....

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 01/04/2011 10:28

If you were the woman I approached in Asda then please accept my apology for being an interfering idiot!

Whilst looking in the baby aisle in Asda, a young couple (complete strangers) were choosing a mixture of gifts for a friend who had just given birth or who was just about to, and they were discussing what to get - to me they seemed to be a little unsure (honest, they did) so, big fat mouth Me barged in there with - "excuse me, I'd get item B instead of item A (item A which was already in basket) because (and this is where the sin is committed) I've just had a baby and I don't use item A"

So, female says with a steely gaze "Well, I always use item A with my daughter so therefore I'll stick with what I know thanks"

Of course I apologised, asked them to call me a cheeky bitch - and ran away!

a) What gives me the right to question someones gift for someone I don't even know!
b) Just because I use item B doesn't mean everyone does
c) What made me think that I was the only woman in the world ever to have had a baby!
d) oh, I could go on - but please MN, flame me into a namechange....:)

I was being an unreasonable, interfering cow! I keep asking myself Why??

I know that I'm not the only person in the world to have had a child, I know this! Why I felt the need to interfere in this way I will never know but the words were out my mouth before I could even process my thoughts.

FWIW I went round the corner, dumped my trolley and left Asda immediately - for fear of bumping into them again - I am so embarrassed!

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WereOffToSeeTheWizard · 01/04/2011 21:16

Never heard of a shawl for babies.
Those links were of blankets FACT even though they were called shawls

partyhats · 01/04/2011 23:35

OP, you sound lovely and she a snotty, mean cow. You should have finished your shop though.

heliumballoons · 01/04/2011 23:48

I had swaddling blankets when DS was a baby

Is now 6yo and currently sleeps with his duvet and 3 fleece blankets - so try as you will to influence them

OP yanbu, I use to love people giving me advice on what they did/didn't do - I ignored made my own decisions but it helped having the pros and cons.

TheNoodlesIncident · 01/04/2011 23:58

Oooh I love impromptu product reviews in shops - it's not as though you have to follow the advice given, and I love that fellow feeling between strangers (that you usually get; your opposite number must have been having an off day, OP)

(And I'm also a Scottish person living in the North West of England, so YANBU on those grounds alone )

Pixel · 02/04/2011 00:24

I'm in the SE and I'm always chatting to strangers in shops/at bus stops etc.

Today I was in the fish shop because one of my gold barbs died yesterday and I was feeling sorry for the other one all on it's own (very sad actually, I'd had them for years). There was a young couple in there all excited because they were setting up their first aquarium and they asked the assistant which fish were good to start off with.

When I heard him say gold barbs were easy I was so proud of myself for not butting in to tell them that I'd just come in to replace a dead one.

Punkatheart · 02/04/2011 07:46

Oh I wish that I could meet you lot in the supermarket. We could have such a laugh. Maybe we should wear secret AIBU badges - but coded.

Sorry about your fish, Pixel. I am fond of my fish too, especially a blind one. No idea if he was born blind but he lets me hand feed him. Probably because he can't see my ugly mug and be disgusted!

marmaladetwatkins · 02/04/2011 08:20

What is wrong with some people?! Not you, OP, the rude woman. You did well. I would have told her to stick it up her arse and flounced off.

I had a pleasant Asda experience yesterday. Struggling with DS and shopping and people who cannot negate supermarket aisles correctly, I snapped at DS A woman chuckled at me and said she was grateful that she could do her shopping without kids. Then we had a twenty minute conversation slaggung off my DH. It was great [grin ]

bringinghomethebacon · 02/04/2011 08:30

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FollowMe · 02/04/2011 08:47

OP, you must have come across as a bit barking!
The other lady was clearly a bit bemused by the unsolicited advice, but she wasnt in any way rude to you (I have no idea why so many posters are saying they think she was rude!)
I wouldnt worry about it though

PS. I have never heard of shawls for babies either until now! I have 2 DCs and love love love fleece blankets

Mumofaflump · 02/04/2011 09:55

Ladyintheradiator - You weren't by any chance at the big Sainsburys in Calcot were you?!? My MIL does a huge shop once a month and splits it in two. Unloads one lot, then goes back for the rest. She was saying about someone trying to steal her trolley...!!!

OP, I'm like you too! I can't help but chat to people waiting in lines, looking indecisive, on the train, the bus...

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 02/04/2011 10:04

I'm pleased to know that I'm not completely bonkers (well if I am, then so are a lot of you :))

I have a feeling that I will be haunted by the woman and her boyfriend for years i.e our daughters will end up in the same class and become best friends - so I will have to re live my embarrassment every morning at the school gates ha ha ha

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muminthemiddle · 02/04/2011 13:47

Op you were trying to help. BTW I remember wrapping my dd in a handknitted shawl, makes me go all gooey thinking about her in it now.

GabbyLoggon · 02/04/2011 13:57

No need for FLAMING. (Is it a Mumsnet expression?) I had never heard it before I came here.

fishtankneedscleaning · 02/04/2011 16:13

OP. Move to Wales. We are well used to people "interfering" in our shopping choices. Next thing we are off to Costa for a nice cup of coffee together, to put the world to rights.

Ooooh I love living in Wales! .

GotArt · 02/04/2011 16:33

You flamed yourself. Thanks for the laugh. I can't recall ever my doing this, but I'm sure I probably have.

leftblank · 02/04/2011 17:14

FWIW if it was someone buying my ds a present then I'd prefer the shawl. Don't like the fleece blankets - I was told with those if baby was too hot there would be a 'sheen of sweat'
With a lovely shawl babies have the decency to perspire

Pixel · 02/04/2011 18:56

Thanks Punkatheart. The fish took to each other straight away so all is fine.

I can understand how some people might prefer fleeces (though I had a beautiful shawl given to me and loved using it) as they are definitely easier to wash, fold up smaller to put under the buggy etc.

However, I can't understand how anyone could say they've never heard of a shawl! Surely all babies used to have them? People would always knit or crochet a shawl for a new baby. Fleeces are a fairly recent invention after all.

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