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I need a flaming - I am the crazy woman in Asda.....

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 01/04/2011 10:28

If you were the woman I approached in Asda then please accept my apology for being an interfering idiot!

Whilst looking in the baby aisle in Asda, a young couple (complete strangers) were choosing a mixture of gifts for a friend who had just given birth or who was just about to, and they were discussing what to get - to me they seemed to be a little unsure (honest, they did) so, big fat mouth Me barged in there with - "excuse me, I'd get item B instead of item A (item A which was already in basket) because (and this is where the sin is committed) I've just had a baby and I don't use item A"

So, female says with a steely gaze "Well, I always use item A with my daughter so therefore I'll stick with what I know thanks"

Of course I apologised, asked them to call me a cheeky bitch - and ran away!

a) What gives me the right to question someones gift for someone I don't even know!
b) Just because I use item B doesn't mean everyone does
c) What made me think that I was the only woman in the world ever to have had a baby!
d) oh, I could go on - but please MN, flame me into a namechange....:)

I was being an unreasonable, interfering cow! I keep asking myself Why??

I know that I'm not the only person in the world to have had a child, I know this! Why I felt the need to interfere in this way I will never know but the words were out my mouth before I could even process my thoughts.

FWIW I went round the corner, dumped my trolley and left Asda immediately - for fear of bumping into them again - I am so embarrassed!

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BoffinMum · 01/04/2011 12:14

Imagine how bizarre you are going to be at the age of 75, OP. I want to see that. Wink

Figgyrolls · 01/04/2011 12:17

Well, I was in a rather well known department store discussing with a pg friend which buggies were best, we had a long old conversation went around the shop trying them all out etc etc (me having the experience her not having had a baby yet!), ............... well thats how I like to think of it what actually happened was this:

In said department store, over hear a mother and daughter discussing buggies, put my big gob in and 5 pence worth etc bang on a bit then as they are looking bewildered and a little like they would like to waddle run in the other direction another couple come up and start asking advice about sodding buggies. Turns out they all thought I was the buggy sales person Blush, nothing wrong with that apart from the fact that I went in to get some baby gro's Blush, still kick myself as I could have done a bloody good job!!!!!!

ChristinaEliopolis · 01/04/2011 12:31

My delfault setting is 'helpful' so I know exactly why you rushed in there

She was very rude though - no wonder you felt embarassed. There is always a nice way to deflect someone. Mind you, I asked a mother the other day what cold meat her children were trying in the deli, as they were really enjoying it and she spent hours ages explaining what chorizo is, blah, blah, blah while I wracked my brain trying to work out how to get away from this lecture without being rude. I only asked what type they were trying...... Grin

Shawl would have been the better gift Wink

My local Asda is very rough - would have been told to eff off and keep my nose out!

ChristinaEliopolis · 01/04/2011 12:33

default default default I hate a typo staring at me Wink

animula · 01/04/2011 12:35

I'd have chatted to you. But I am probably a fellow Eccentric in Asda. Smile

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 01/04/2011 12:38

anumula - is there a group we can go to/start??

Eccentrics in Asda! I like that.

Next time I'm in - which will be tonight btw since I ran away from my shopping last night - I will stand in the baby aisle with a big sign saying "Advice from an Eccentric in Asda here"

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QuantumPhysicist · 01/04/2011 12:47

As a Quantum Physicist I can confidently state with authority that BrainSurgeon and I are not, and never have been, the same person.

We did however name change on the same thread.

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ChristinaEliopolis · 01/04/2011 12:50

I love an unexpected chat in a shop. I would have nattered away to you if you'd come over to help me (Dh would have rolled his eyes at me and wandered off though). You would have been sidling off in the end

Anyway, if she always used a fleece, you would have thought she would have just picked one off the shelf rather than debating it so that innocent passersby thought she didn't know anything about babies...... Wink

VajazzHands · 01/04/2011 12:51

I don't think you were rude, but I dont think So, female says with a steely gaze "Well, I always use item A with my daughter so therefore I'll stick with what I know thanks" is rude either, just matter of fact. Can't understand the posters saying the other woman was begin rude.

She had to say something as she wasn't going to switch the stuff in the cart! Confused

ShowOfHands · 01/04/2011 12:52

Shawl? What you wear when playing a motherly figure in a local am dram production?

What have shawls got to do with babies? I'm so confused.

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 01/04/2011 12:53

I agree with ChristinaEliopolis.

Unexpected chats are great! And OP sounds like she knows what she is talking about and the woman in question was being unreasonable not to have taken OP's advice...

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 01/04/2011 12:53
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ShowOfHands · 01/04/2011 12:56

Sock puppet fail.

Still don't understand what shawls have to do with babies.

ChristinaEliopolis · 01/04/2011 12:57

Babies look lovely in shawls - all snuggled and warm. Very nice when you are strolling in the park with your perambulator. As you do Wink

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 01/04/2011 12:59

I use a shawl to wrap dd at night.

And the shawl was in the baby aisle so was definitely meant for babies.....

(and the sock puppet thing was staged)

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hmc · 01/04/2011 13:00

Your poor thing - you were just offering friendly advice, whereas she sounds uptight and brusque. She could have just nodded and smiled (if she was normal that is)

ShowOfHands · 01/04/2011 13:02

I've just never seen a shawl used on a baby. I had lots of blankets I'd knitted that I would make into a triange/half moon to wrap dd so the same sort of shape as a shawl but in my head a shawl is a piece of fabric worn around the head or shoulders of an adult. Just never heard the word shawl used to describe something used by a baby. It's a type of blanket then? I'm so out of touch.

ShowOfHands · 01/04/2011 13:03

Right have googled. Knitted blankets. Yes, I made lots of them!

systemsaddict · 01/04/2011 13:03

OK I have now Googled baby shawls and am even more confused - please please can someone tell me what is the difference between a shawl and a blanket?! please help, I'm at work here and this is the last thing I should be doing! Grin

systemsaddict · 01/04/2011 13:04

cross post SOH - glad I'm not alone though!!

LeroyJethroGibbs · 01/04/2011 13:05

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Housewife101 · 01/04/2011 13:05

I've lost track of the number of times I've been approached whilst with my DDs shopping in the baby aisle of Boots/Asda or in Mothercare by a slightly confused looking new dad or pg woman. Now when I see someone, particularly a bloke, looking all confused by the breast pads or similar I make eye contact and smile and then they usually say something like 'my wife has sent me out to buy...'

The funniest one was an Italian man trying to explain (with basically no English) that his wife had stitches and wanted something to cool the pain. He ended up miming the problem to me, it was hysterical. I sent him off with one of those cool pads that you put in the fridge and then sit on. Honestly, Boots should pay me!

If someone had helped my DH when I sent him out on endless things that I needed I'd have been really grateful, especially the first time round.

OP you were just trying to be helpful - just wish more people were helpful and friendly. I feel your embarrassment though, they could have been kinder in their response!

charlieandlola · 01/04/2011 13:07

I think you were both unreasonable -shopping in Asda makes me itch.
you do know it should have been John Lewis, then you would have both been perfectly reasonable.
What would you do with a shawl for a baby, anyway?
A fleece blanket is so much more practical.

hmc · 01/04/2011 13:08

I sent my dh to buy me breast pads before housewife ( a few years back now) and some a helpful stranger (like yourself) helped him with his purchase - and very grateful he was too

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MeRightYouWrongMeBigYouSmall · 01/04/2011 13:08

well I suppose you could say that it is a blanket of sorts

mothercare shawl or Asda Shawl

I use these (purely because they were given as gifts and I have many - but I suppose there are many types.

Perhaps the woman used the fleece blanket for the same reason that I would use a shawl??

Now we're back onto the subject of different names and terminology for the same thing??

Hope my links work

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