To get irrationally wound up by some male friend's facebook 'harems'?

[PortBlackSandwitch]

i did say it was irrational but it's got to the point where i don't post anymore on certain male friend's posts as then my inbox is flooded with 30 more posts, all from women saying things like 'LOL Hun' and 'oh, only you...' 'you're crazy' etc.

Seems to be a phenomenon known only to men and simpering women. The one i have posted on tend to be say, them talking about their kids or whatever but more and more you get

"Farted today"
Lol
You're mad you are
Oh Hun
Call me
When are you visiting round here
LOL Hun
Awww Hun

"Been bowling with Jack"
Lol
You're mad you are
LOL Hun
Awww Hun
Oh Hun
Call me
When are you visiting round here

Etc. Ad infinitum

Is it a male / female thing? - or is it just my friends???

Anything pertaining to Facebook is ridiculous.
Anyone using the acronym "LOL" without irony is also ridiculous.

Find something else to get annoyed about.

Exactly what lubberlich wrote. Facebook is a phenomenon I don't understand and don't use.
LOL is the most irritating abbreviation known to me.

Fair enough....to be fair i can get irritated about a whole host of things

Just wondered if this was something unique to my friends (and thought the women make themselves look a bit silly esp since most of these blokes have the biggest egos going)...and yes, i am related to some of them...

I know what you mean OP. It's usually the same womenevery time as well. It doesn't wind me up though, I find it quite amusing. The same as people who "check in" at home, thus providing a google map to their house, then announce via status that they are going away for a fortnight.

i think men who use face book are slightly odd (sorry) unless teenagers

Just the men southeast?

mumofaflump - i agree - one chap i know has a website dedicated to his family - the web address is his home address and he has a pic of his house on his homepage. He also has on his homepage his google lattitude so you can tell when he is away from home

southeastastra
Why Men specifically?

I didn't want my DP to put any pics of our DD on Facebook - but she's restricted everything to friends only and (as usual) told me to get knotted about it.

I don't see the point of Facebook unless you are totally self-obsessed.

I find the whole LOL thing very over-used, although I have used it myself at times . Some people use it every other word which is bloody annoying...I think Facebook just highlights the way women/girls simper over men with large egos as it is there for all to see,over and over,every status... it happens everywhere. I think I agree with you about men having profiles being odd especially when they are on it all the time,however I do have some male friends on there that are lovely enough. For me,a man on Facebook appears quite effeminate and not attractive,that's my personal opinion anyway. As for women simpering over these egotistical males,someone ought to teach them what to look for in a man because,from bitter experience,one with a large ego should be avoided like the plague. LOL

I use facebook as I live overseas and my friends are reasonably mobile so it's an easy way to keep in touch. Never seen a since LOL or Aw Hun though. I reckon it's the company you keep.

I have seen this phenomenon too! Glad you gave it a name "facebook harem" lol um haha.

There is a bloke on mine who I know distantly, though well enough. He recently separated from his wife.

Since he's been back "on the market", the simpering and flirting has definitely stepped up a notch, though it was well and truly there to start with.

Its boak-worthy, for sure.

I only ever comment on his status if its a proper topic and I have something relevant to say, and he always responds to me, but hardly ever to the simpering mob (though I suspect he enjoys it a fair bit!)

YANBU

I use facebook daily to keep in touch with friends and family, some of whom are in the forces, overseas etc.

The problem is not facebook but the people using it.

How did it become a gender issue? Really don't understand this at all.

If someone is annoying you (and I am sure I annoy some with my constant PFB updates) then click on 'hide' and be done with them. You can still nip onto their profile to see what they're up to with out all the constant updates.

I personally can't stand the 'if you are a sister etc post this as your status', so I don't.

I know what you mean though about commenting and then getting reams and reams of notifications. My iphone beeps with everyone....very irritating when you're trying to watch the telly

Facebook is great for stalking your teenage kids. Never post just watch.

I too use FB to keep in touch with friends and family who live a long way off or are overseas.
I love seeing what my Spanish cousins are up to and we often exchange photos, with me making an effort to post in my rusty Spanish

Don't think I have seen the phenonmenon that the OP describes but I can see how that can be annoying! I think you can alter your settings so that you don't receive those notifications.

manfromCUK - i sympathise. i forbade dh from posting pics of our dd. tbf he stuck to it.

op i know exactly what you mean but there are a fair few women on my fb that have male harems who always pile in a comment for the sake of it. lots of gushing.

lol is vomit worthy. especially if you are over 16.

we all had a fb lecture post the other day about 'fb status updates shold only be used for something positive' cue lots of comments saying 'like omg you're soooo right'

but what do i know. dh and i are always in trouble on fb

southeastastra I want to ignore...but your bait is too good. What a fucking ridiculous thing to say.

But to the OP I have seen no evidence of these harems, male or female. They sound bloody annoying. But then, I do have a reasonably select group of FB friends. Many adult males in fact. And not one of them odd.

Is this part of the same phenonemanon (sp?) that has women writing to crims they don't know in Jail? I never understood that either, although the Caterine Tate character was very funny.

I see the poster who said men on facebook were slightly odd hasn't coem back to explain or illuminate

LOOOOOOLLLLLLL

the status updates that annoy me the most are the simpering female collective that are actually competing with each other, who can have the most cute pictures of their children on there and lol everything they do

yaawn

Hello? Is that 2005?

Pllleeeeaasse, no one uses facebook any more.

:o

YANBU - or if you are then I am too! Some of my old friends are still quite active / well known in the 'underground music scene' (oh my god, when did it happen that I'm now posting on Mumsnet instead of dance music forums??!! Sorry - moment of realisation there ) and every stupid little comment they make is followed just like you describe. I quickly learnt to never 'like' or reply to anything they write. It is cringeworthy though.

Ah Facebook. I love it and hate it and want to delete it but can't live without it...

oooh quite relieved to find i'm not toooo unreasonable

I use facebook to keep in touch with uni friends mostly - they are scattered around a fair bit. I do know of at least three men that this happens too - i've stopped posting on their walls.

haha OP i think you're fb friends with my ex husband

I notice this with ds and the boys/girls. Think it's a females-communicate-more thing, tho doesn't allow for the preponderance of lolling and hunning.