to let my ten-year-old DD dress as an anarchist for the royal wedding?

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At DD's school they've been asked to dress like royalty for a day to celebrate the royal wedding. Felt slightly sick at the thought of all those little princesses and, knowing my DD is distinctly anti-girly and not especially pro-royal, I suggested she go as a republican. Oliver Cromwell is tricky to do (suit of armour, anyone?), so we settled on an anarchist - all in black, anarchy symbol splashed on T-shirt, bomb etc. Now I'm wondering if it's a bit inappropriate and in bad taste. Maybe I should lighten up a bit about royalty? Otoh, she REALLY doesn't want to be a queen or a princess, it's just not her style.

Hello, JenaiMarr [waves]. I think there will be a predominance of princesses (is that a collective noun?) but I'm sure you're right and others round here will have a novel take on it too. Her friends aren't the princess type either, so probably ought to find out what they're doing - maybe the four of them could be the Sex Pistols. What does IIRC mean, btw?

Agree there have got to be better ways than that to take a calm and inoffensive but anti-Royal stance. I do like the idea of a Brian May wig etc :o

Zippy, don't normally do Primark but that sounds ideal - thanks.

If I Recall Correctly. In this case just to emphasis that I think I know the town you live in as it's the same as mine, and I've not been keeping a spreadsheet!

I like the sound of those Primark T-shirts. Although Primark isn't very Anarchy really

It's one thing to say 'This has no relevance to my life' and another thing altogether to mark your kid out at school by making them the vehicle of your opinions. I speak as someone with 'alternative' parents...the cringiness of it all is still with me 20 years later.

OP, YANBU to not care about the royal wedding, but YABVU to want to make your DD stick out because of your own views. Wait till she's old enough to decide for herself.

OP are your DD's option's getting a bit narrow? minded ?

Court Jester?

dd is going as Cleopatra she is not fussed as going in normal queen fancy dress .The other one we considered was the queen of hearts .( i have checked with her teacher about it )

Send her dressed as Morrissey with a Queen Is Dead T-shirt.

Or maybe not...

Thanks, JenaiMarr, and yes you do know my town! Only hope you don't have to dress a little princess for the day too. But then DD's school is particularly bad in that respect. They once had to go in as a fruit or vegetable for healthy eating week. One poor kid went as a blackberry and was covered from head to toe in purple balloons.

Oh for pete's sake get her to join in the fun or chuck a sickie.

BTP - that wasn't directed at you. But if you are teaching your DS to think for himself, and then deciding he'll be wearing an anarchist costume on the royal wedding day, then his decision on what stance to take is hardly any more autonomous than if he'd just gone along with what most people were doing.

I'm not saying 'make your kids conform', more 'making kids be alternative instead of finding out whether they'd rather just fit in was shit when it happened to me'.

End of day the party is a bit of fun for the kids.I a m sure not that many are really fussed who is getting married .Party at school 28th day of on the 29th .
The 29th we shall go to the Zoo

I quite like the concept of monarchy and am happy to participate in the wedding celebrations.

I'm not a raving royalist but I don't like the alternative. Obama is great, but I'd rather pay for a hundred QEIIs or even Charles or Williams before I'd vote for a single George W Bush, Putin, Medvedev, Sarkozy or Chirac.

Imagine President Cameron. Or Blair for that matter. Jeez.

I don't particularly mind the concept of "dressing like royalty" as there is plenty of chance for creativity/humour/sending it up within the scope of the topic without having to go dressed as a terrorist or a Disney princess at the other end of the scale.

as other people have suggested Boudicca is a pretty good role model for a 10 yr old, as well as being on topic, and from left field.

as well as being on topic, Hence why we are going egyptian will keep costume for when thats the topic in school.

Indeed OtheHugemanatee (great name!) Being 'alternative' often means you are conforming with another group's expectations anyway.

Anyway, I think society could do with a bit more togetherness, thought for others, tolerance and a bit less Me me me! Look at me! I am so different and will do as I please regardless of how it affects others!

Blimey, MrsH, how did we get there from my DD's costume?

I think the anarchist would be excellent.

I cannot believe all this fawning over them. It's a crappy wedding, it does not change the fact the the monarchy is outdated, unelected and utterly pointless.

Might nick the anarchist idea for DS now....

BeerTricksPotter Tue 29-Mar-11 14:36:21
I don't believe in celebrating events like this because respect has to earned, not just expected because a person has been born into privelege.

The more people who stand up and say "This has no relevance to my life therefore I will not be participating" the better imo.

Ahhhh some common sense. Sweet music to my ears

Think my Dd school would just send her home if she went in dressed like that!

perhaps not a bomb :/