For those of you who are sick of talking about bf/ff - a little gifty

[Spudulika]

... a thread all of your own where you can moan at length about how BORING the whole subject is, and how deeply UNNECESSARY it is to keep discussing it.

Maybe you could have a little game. Breastfeeding cliche bingo.

Marks awarded for the following :

"wapping huge boobs out"
"breastfeeding mafia"
"breastfeeding nazis"
"formula isn't poison!"
"happy mother happy baby"
"I wasn't giving my newborn a fruit shoot ffs"
"they shot me dirty looks because I was ff"
"my children are all ff and they're all elite athletes and Cambridge scholars"
"hanging off your nipples"
"sit around breastfeeding all day"
"being pressurised and bullied into breastfeeding
"I was made to feel bad for formula feeding"

It's all yours ladies. Don't thank me. Just enjoy. And stop coming onto the other thread moaning about how wrong it is to discuss how babies are fed.

what about

'I had a hungry baby'

Runs through thread waving 38E norks

:) RunAwaywife

"Just discuss it in the relevant section- it's not difficult"

Any other topics that should be discussed in the 'relevant section'.

Or is it just the topic of bf you need to shield your eyes from?

"Just another snurk at ffs getting upset"

Yes - of course it is. Actually it's not about ff 'getting upset'. It's about them coming on to a thread which attempts to look at the wider social issues around infant feeding choices , and instead of saying anything constructive or interesting, doing the cyber equivalent of flinging their handbags around and shouting 'you're all a bunch of ugly slags'.

How about 'OP is an arse'?

Yes Spudulika, and the nastiness is usually reserved for pro-BFers.

A quote from today's other BF/FF thread:

^The' 'stereotypical' BF mother is of someone who wops them out on the
table in the coffee shop, calling her 3 year old over for a feed, looks
awful in crappy clothes and is all a bit lentil weavery. Not many people
aspire to that. ^

Could someone show an example of FFers being described in similar language?

I wonder why you feel that way spud. How interesting that you feel so very judged for your feeding choices.

Oh wait.

You are taking that comment completely out of context Marianne and you know it.

This is spiteful. You are being malicious and spiteful and you should grip up and keep it on that other thread.

"I wonder why you feel that way spud. How interesting that you feel so very judged for your feeding choices"

I don't feel judged for my feeding choices.

I feel judged expressing an interest in the issue beyond my own personal experience, and wanting to discuss it with other people who are also interested in it.

Marian - that comment was taken out of context.

And actually the serious spite and condemnation isn't directed at bf mothers, but at those of us who'd describe ourselves as 'bf advocates'.

How about this then ShirleyKnot:

^I got my figure back quicker with FF.
The BF child is the least brilliant and healthy of my DC but I love her ...ok
BF fucked my breasts up

I'd still try to do it in future but I'd avoid the pro b/f people like the plague and find some normal people for support.^

From the same thread. Nice. So I am the spiteful one here?

I got my figure back within 3 weeks of breast feeding.

My breasts are in incredible position and condition (32G)

My child is brilliant and bright.

I disagree with your last post Spudulika, once a BF/FF thread gets going anyone with anything positive to say about breastfeeding usually gets a hammering.

So there Shirley.

Keep it on that thread. Duh it ain't complicated is it?

The normal thing to do is to challenge it on the thread you're on, not start a spiteful little thread like this. And to be absolutely honest, this kind of behaviour just makes 'I'd avoid the pro b/f people like the plague' sound sane.

Good lord. Nice own goal.

I think we've forgotten-

"You must have ishooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooos"

Why are you sticking your Tongue out at me LOTM?

Um, I thought this was a light-hearted giggle at the phrases that get thrown around BY BOTH SIDES in any baby feeding discussion.

I absolutely fail to see why some posters are getting so upset about it! It's certainly not a FF bashing-session.

It's Friday night, have some and (I actually have both! ) and relax!

Read Marianna then my post...

I haven't seen whatever thread you are on about. Must you inflict this on the rest of us? It just seems mean and bullying

No doubt there is some backstory but it is irrelevant to those not involved.

and I missed bidding on something on ebay while reading it!

I think there is something beautiful about a nursing mother.
I formula fed both my children, I am happy that I did that, I do not think it makes me less of a mother, my children are happy and healthy DS1 G&T so not dumbed down by FFing.

Each to their own, but it is getting soooooo boring people keeping attacking each other over their feeding choices

This thread is exactly why women can find the pro bf advocates so alienating. And I speak as one who bf both my DCs. I'd just never judge anyone who didn't bf theirs. There is a plethora of reasons why people ff, and to make a wholesale dismissal of their collective experiences is cruel and patronising.

Nope still don't understand LOTM.

Well you'll just have to not understand.

Oh. LOTM did you think Marianne was quoting me?

She wasn't. I am pro BF actually and BF and FF both of my children.

Doesn't mean I cant call foul when I see it.