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I possible am BU, but i cant help feeling like 'Oh well you brought it on yourself'

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CheekyLittleSox · 25/03/2011 13:18

Someone on FB i know, went to school with. She is in council property. Last year she was threatened with Eviction for non payment of rent. It went to court, she got postponed possession order on her house.

In the months that has followed shes complained and complained about neighbours, gypsies nicking stuff out her garden (scrap metal etc etc) how the area is rough and she hates it, she cant leave the house because she get threatened by locals because she complained to the council about noisey parties that neighbours have held etc etc.

Last week she posted on her status about how her life is fucked and nothing goes right for her. It turns out shes been given an eviction date for again non payment of rent. She says its because housing benefit fucked up by not paying the full rent and that she didn't need to pay anything.

BUT last year she told me that she had to pay so much per week to pay off arrears.

Now am i being unreasonable for thinking 'you brought it on yourself' her bloke hasn't had a job for a few years, shes pregnant with baby number 3 so cant work as shes due in next 2 months. When he bloke does get a job he lasts one day as its not the job he thought it would be Hmm

Am i BU or am i just being a heartless cow?!

But whats pissing me off is that she goes on about having no money and how shes skint and that she needs to find £500 by middle of April before eviction date to pay off arrears, yet she dines at Mcdonalds everyday, always having takeaway and buying animals like Geckos and bearded dragons. Hmm

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buttonmooncup · 26/03/2011 01:27

Nice new spin on the typical benefit bashing thread. I can see the DM headline now. "Broken Britain splashing OUR money on geckos and bearded dragons".

CheekyLittleSox · 26/03/2011 12:11

she just doesnt seem to give a shit about what is going to happen in middle of next month. She isnt looking for rentals, she isnt going to CAB/SHELTER she isnt helping herself. i could be like all the rest of her fb mate the ones she doesnt know saying ohh youl be fine hunny, youl figure something out - NO she wont. She has an eviction date and the bailiffs will come on that date if she isnt out. How real does she need it to be before it sinks in.

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LoopyLoopsChupaChups · 26/03/2011 12:45

So, how exactly are you helping?

Honeybee79 · 26/03/2011 12:50

To be fair, I'd judge her as well. Can't you just "hide" her on FB so you don't have to read about it?

CheekyLittleSox · 26/03/2011 14:58

Id just hidden her as her latest status is

Woop just got myself a brand new DS3D for when i have bubs in hossy

People asking where from, how much etc etc so she replies with

Brighthouse in town hun

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Crawling · 26/03/2011 15:44

Depression can be a awful thing which after losing a child she may well be suffering with. I have bipolar and when depressed I cease to function, I try to sort bills out but there is a mental block that means my brain stops working, I cannot cook and my DC eat alot of takeaway. I dont think before I buy because my brain is foggy and unclear. If someone tries to make me deal with stressfull things I get upset and snappy because my brain is not capable of dealing with the stress anymore. At Christmas I had a panic attack in Tescos because it was too much stress.

Lucky for me I have a partner who takes over my jobs so my DC dont eat crap, suffer or end up homeless, given her past, her being intelligent but not acting like it, and her behaviour she may have deprression if you care about her op get her to see a gp to rule out depression.

portaloo · 26/03/2011 16:06

Another vote for blocking/hiding on FB.

You've tried to help, she doesn't appear to take up any of your suggestions, I don't see what else you can do.
Maybe this is why her other FB friends respond with 'You'll be fine' 'Something will turn up' etc etc, because they know there is nothing they can do to help.

CheekyLittleSox · 26/03/2011 17:02

iv blocked her now, i cant be arsed with her. Grin

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