In many cases, men ARE worse than children.
Children are willing to learn, will respond to praise, but men are adults and if they don't believe they should do something, they won't.
Just over 3 years ago, I went on a Housework strike. I had to resort to paper plates a few times because he wouldn't do the washing up. He moaned so I told him to either do the dishes or buy a dishwasher.
He did the dishes, but the strike had to be repeated a few times for him to get the message. He got so fed up that when his work was being completelt gutted and re-fitted he bought the dishwasher for a tenner. Still going strong.
Now he hoovers, washes the cats bowls by hand, does all the dishwasher loading, does most of the garden heavy work and he does the upstairs bathroom and the windows as well. He also cleans the living room and does a purfunctory clean of the kitchen works surfaces.
I cook, do the deep clean of the kitchen and any problme pans, all the washing and I iron his work shirts which are the only things that get ironed plus the shopping.
He does now, after living together for 9 years, get why I used to get so upset when things weren't put away or done. I don't expect him to be perfect, but he does now share the load and we are both happier. With the exception of him finding the laundry basket.