to be suprised at neighbours attitude?

[Gemjar]

I have a 4 month old baby and live in a terraced house. The only room that is directly next to the neighbours happens to be his nursery and he has recently been moved into it to sleep at night as he has outgrown his moses basket.

He wakes up on average once or twice in the night to be fed, his crying always wakes me up instantly and I go straight in and get him, he is never left crying for more than a minute but most nights I hear banging on the wall coming from next door as I pick him up.

I have decided not to raise this with next door as I don't want to start a row, but AIBU to be a little at this. If I left him crying for ages throughout the night they might have a point but he really isn't that loud so I just don't get why they are doing it. I hear noises coming from their house such as doors closing etc, but that's just part of living in a terrace isn't it?

YANBU, how ridiculous!

Nobody puts baby in the corner!! Sorry,couldn't resist :)

it's probably their headboard a-banging

YANBU and yes it is part and parcel of living in a terrace imo. My elderly neighbour seems to be a bit hard of hearing (lucky for her- DD has a voice that, ahem, carries) and has her tv on very loud.

God knows why they bang on the wall- baby's hardly gonna hear them do that, think "hmm I suppose crying for my mum at 4am is a tad selfish of me, I wont do that anymore" is he?

Like someone else already said, could you move his furniture in his room round to create a bit of a sound barrier between your baby and your cranky pants neighbours? Or get a mallet and bang back?

I wouldn't be so non-confrontational I would totally tell them that he's a baby and babies cry so bugger off. I think the OP should be comfortably putting the baby in whatever room in their own house that they like.

They are NEW neighbours & banging on walls to a new baby - you have WAY more patience than me - I'd be round there like a flash & asking them not to bang as the noise is frightening the baby & making it hard for you to settle him

though I can understand them not wanting to be disturbed, but as has already been said this is a bit OTT in the circumstance & I'm afraid doesn't bode well for the kind of people they are, you need to nip it in the bud PDQ

Moving his room around is a good idea, there is also a type of plaster board you can get that is sound proofing, blue if I remember, its pretty easy to attach to a party wall & skim or paper over - but only do that to show willing if it becomes a big ongoing issue

you might want to discuss the situation with your landlord, or if your a home owner - environmental health - get in first before your neighbours do, by way of asking how the law stands & what you can do to to help the situation
good luck

& yes the hormone & baby crying thing is pretty amazing, so I don't doubt you are up & with him PDQ - When DD was tiny, I used to work 60 miles away, whilst DH was STAD - I would ring & tell him she needed feeding/nappy change etc, the second she started to cry, I used to suddenly feel very agitated & need to ring - he now thinks I'm psychic