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friend who belittles everything I do, is now doing the same!

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Mammie81 · 21/03/2011 20:41

I know I am BU to let myself get annoyed, but I cant help but rage about some of the things she says.

She moved from London when we were 17. She went to a lovely quiet northern town and was pregnant within a month of being there. Subsequently shes very happy, had another baby, nothing would ever make her move back to the stinking shit hole that is London. Everyone there is money grabbing and who in gods name would want to go to an exhibition, or the cinema, or the theatre. Every shop we have here, they have there. Also, dont I think my life should have moved on by now, I cant party forever, my life will be fulfilled once I settle down and have a baby. Of course any protestations that I love London are all because Im jealous of my friends with kids and am trying to talk myself round (All of this is her very words) I was 27 at the time of her most vicious rant, so still young!

I love London, I worked in central and now Ive got a baby son, I still love it (Im really missing the cake shops Blush) Her town is gorgeous too, it really is, Im not going to say its awful just because of the things she says.

After saying all this (its sometimes all she talks about, I think in a bid to prove shes happy) shes coming for a London break this weekend. She cant wait, shes going to go shopping/theatre/clubbing, London is going to be fabulous : Shes basically doing all the things she belittled while I was doing them.

Im BU to get wound up, arent I. Even more unreasonable to ask her "But I thought you hated London?"

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renlovesyou · 21/03/2011 20:47

It sounds like shes jealous of your life rather than the other way around. Ignore her Smile

manticlimactic · 21/03/2011 20:49

The OP reminded me of an espisode of Sex and the City.

NinkyNonker · 21/03/2011 20:49

As Ren said. Besides, these things are all nice in moderation so you can want to do something for a weekend but absolutely not want it as your life.

RunAwayWife · 21/03/2011 20:50

Sounds like she fucked up her life and is trying to convince herself she is happy not anyone else

Mammie81 · 21/03/2011 20:51

She has honestly spat venom about it. I once asked her to come and visit and Id show her the real London as she left so young, we hadnt really discovered it. She point blank said no, she'd miss her kids too much to ever come back here. Hmm

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TheProvincialLady · 21/03/2011 20:54

Why are you still friends with someone who belittles you and is such a tedious bint?

Mammie81 · 21/03/2011 20:55

Shes ok when shes not talking about London! Or childrearing. Or cooking.

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PonceyMcPonce · 21/03/2011 20:59

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skybluepearl · 21/03/2011 21:06

are you being sensitive? People can dislike cities without being jelous of city living. Maybe you are reading too much into her dislike of London. London is OK to visit but i would hate to be there any longer than a weekend. I know some people think it's great though.

SugarPasteFrog · 21/03/2011 21:07

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theresapotatoundermysink · 21/03/2011 21:11

Do you think she's just one of those people who when she does something it's special and fabulous and go on about it like they're the first person in the world to experience it?

JaneS · 21/03/2011 21:13

I think theresapotato hit the nail on the head! Grin

Dozer · 21/03/2011 21:16

Yes, theresapotato is right!

Lots of people are v rude about London and others choosing to live there, who would be upset if people came to their town and said similar things, is really annoying.

theresapotatoundermysink · 21/03/2011 21:18

When your mother is one of those people you tend to recognize it in an instant Wink.

NinkyNonker · 21/03/2011 21:20

She sounds awful to be honest.

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