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Original poster

To think the word 'frape' is just awful

96 replies

Okonomiyaki · 21/03/2011 07:31

First off, apologies if everyone already knows this word, I'm a bit of a latecomer to facebook.

I saw the status update of some random after a mutual friend had commented on it. Won't go into what the update said as that's a whole thread a in itself Hmm but the poster came back to comment on his update a few minutes later saying he had been 'fraped', ie that someone had written a joke update when he'd left his account logged in.

AIBU to think this is an awful word and to wonder why the hell anyone in their right mind would use it?

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sparkle12mar08 · 21/03/2011 07:37

It disgusts me too, and I have one or two younger relatives that have used it. I pulled them up on it the first time I saw it and they haven't used it since thankfully. Well, not that I've seen anyway.

YourCallIsImportant · 21/03/2011 07:41

I agree, it's awful.

SwearyMary · 21/03/2011 07:43

Its a word used in jest when some lovely friend or relative has posted something on your fb profile. Usually whilst you stayed logged on and walked away from the computer (or whatever device you are using). Frape is inoffensive., IMO.

Its not a real word. Mind you neither is twunt or wunk but I quite like both of those.

YABU.

Original poster
Okonomiyaki · 21/03/2011 07:46

Even though it's a contraction of facebook rape?! Confused

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jazz412 · 21/03/2011 07:46

it's not particularly nice considering the basis of the word BUT words like that have only become popular because of people also using things like "yawn rape" (when someone yawns another person sticks a finger in their mouth and shouts it - popularised by Russell Howard) I think the word has become desensitised and people don't really think about the implications of it. I don't think it's meant to be offensive but just a short way of saying "someone wrote on my facebook when I left it logged on" - doesn't make it right though!

SwearyMary · 21/03/2011 08:07

You cannot be "raped" on fb because rape is a physical action. I guess thats why I don't find it offensive. Jazz you are quite right.
Its interesting how our thoughts and feelings differ on subjects like this. I don't actually find any written words offensive.

Original poster
Okonomiyaki · 21/03/2011 08:39

Jazz, I agree that people use it unthinkingly...that's the problem!

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catinboots · 21/03/2011 08:40

I don't like it at all

Meglet · 21/03/2011 08:44

yanbu. Don't like it.

CheeseEnforcementAgency · 21/03/2011 08:45

YANBU

Jude89 · 21/03/2011 08:50

Well, a non-consensual change to a facebook profile can be quite upsetting too (ok, so Not even on the actual rape scale...)

(incidentally a few years ago I was invited to a "Vampire themed 3some" by an acquaintance by facebook message, I was a little Confused by the whole idea...
a few minutes later I got another message that said
"I just sent that to everyone didn't I?" About an hour later the guy put a status of "For those of you who said you were interested, Thanks, but I am not hosting a vampire 3some." It turns out that it was an "epic facebook rape")

I'm of a mixed mind about it, it is trivialising what is a very serious subject. On the other hand it is making baby steps towards making what is such a taboo topic able to be talked about without the usual complete discomfort that mentioning the "R" word normally causes.

(you can also get heat rape; when someone with cold hands puts them on your back to warm them up)

MrsJamin · 21/03/2011 08:52

YANBU. I hate it. I think the next time I see it I will have a go at them as it trivialises rape.

snapdragonss · 21/03/2011 08:56

YANBU

I can't stand the craze for calling a bad birth experience "birth rape" either.

SwearyMary · 21/03/2011 09:13

I have never heard of 'birth rape'. What an odd way to describe giving birth. I had an awful experience but it wouldn't cross my mind to use that term. Its not offensive as its not real but it is a very strange term to use.

mayorquimby · 21/03/2011 09:36

Doesn't bother me in the slightest, although I can see why others might dislike it.

CrapBag · 21/03/2011 09:46

YANBU.

I really hate this term.

nethunsreject · 21/03/2011 09:48

Yanbu

oxfordlass · 21/03/2011 10:05

yanbu. I was thinking the same this morning when I saw this term used on a friend's status update.

TitsalinaBumSquash · 21/03/2011 10:09

I'm not bothered by it, I have more important things to get my knickers n a twist about. Wink

InPraiseOfBacchus · 21/03/2011 10:29

I don't like it necessarily, but I think anyone who 'feels offended' or 'thinks it's dreadful' is being sanctimonious.

"Rape", until very recently, has always meant 'theft' rather than 'sexual assault' anyway. Nothing to get all saintly about.

HipHopopotomus · 21/03/2011 10:41

I read frappe! (Frozen coffee drink). I've never heard of frape but it is abit tasteless & I wouldn't use it, however the word rape has lots of meanings.

There is an oil/plant called rape too - shortly swathes of the English countryside will be covered with rape.

IHateLivingHere · 21/03/2011 11:54

It's just a word! It has no bearing on the importance of the word rape.

Some of you need to get a life, really!!

allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 21/03/2011 12:25

Just a word, YABU, language evoles, etc etc

dittany · 21/03/2011 12:33

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JoanofArgos · 21/03/2011 12:51

YANBU, it is horrid. I sat in the car giving a lift to a child recently who kept saying 'my sisters keep frapiing me', and it was icky.