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is my husband being a bit selfish?

98 replies

gallifrey · 18/03/2011 13:19

He does a lot of running and is really into adventure racing and mountain marathons.

This weekend he is doing a 2 hr adventure race somewhere which is 2 hours away.

Normally I would go with him but at nearly 38 weeks pregnant I don't really feel like it.

He's basically said that if I go into labour while he's away then he probably wouldn't get back in time, but if I went with him and went into labour there we could just go to the nearest hospital.

I'm annoyed that he is even thinking of going anyway, and if he's that worried about me going into labour he would stay at home.

Next week he has a 5 hour adventure race in the New Forest and apparently I've got to go to that and hang around for 5 hours there :(

Not impressed at all :(

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octopusinabox · 20/03/2011 19:54

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 20/03/2011 19:55

Nice try OP's OH Hmm

YOu are a twat. Face it.

If your wifey is willing to put up with you pissing off and expecting her to trail along behind you and give birth in an unknown hospital, bloody good luck to her.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 20/03/2011 19:58

I have spent most of the day at the Dr Who experience surrounded by men. Gallifrey is a very ^
ale^ user name.
It being where the Dr was born n'all.

Just saying.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 20/03/2011 19:58

male

BeerTricksPotter · 20/03/2011 19:58

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SardineQueen · 20/03/2011 20:02

hahahha @ gallifrey's DH Grin

SardineQueen · 20/03/2011 20:04

Girls like Dr Who too I''l have you know mrsdevere Grin

But strange personality change there from the OP, certainly.

blackeyedsusan · 20/03/2011 20:05

yes

bloody hell, not the first birth either? labour can be very quick, especilly when not the first time. he's got his head in the clouds and so have you if you think he is not being a good father. a good father puts their children first. he is putting himself first. you and dd need support at this time. are you expected to rush dd off to childcare on the way to hospital? How are you going to get to hospitl if he isn't there. why should other people pick up the slack because he won't give up racing for a month or so?

PeterAndreForPM · 20/03/2011 20:10

funny thread Grin

PeterAndreForPM · 20/03/2011 20:10

there are some fucking comedians on MN at the moment Hmm

jenga079 · 20/03/2011 20:15

Dear Mr Gallifrey,

How nice of you to check out Mumsnet. It seems you may not have liked it though. Did you know there is a Dadsnet? You may prefer it. Or you could set up your own account on Mumsnet, rather than using DW's. Can I politely suggest you avoid AIBU if it upsets you so much?

Have a nice evening,
A fellow adventure racer, who still thinks YABU!

ChaoticAngelofAnarchy · 20/03/2011 20:22

The truth hurts Hmm

YellowDinosaur · 20/03/2011 20:24

I'm with humphrey on this one - it was my first thought on reading the op'smost recent posts, after I went back and read closely the posts since her last one on Friday and saw that there was no name calling to her dh at all since!

BrandyAlexander · 20/03/2011 20:35

Gallifrey, I am 33 weeks pregnant and I was already thinking that your husband sounds domineering and controlling as I was reading the thread. Then he came along and confirmed it himself and that actually he is an arsehole. I would be absolutely livid if my dh came on this site and responded as if he were me.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 20/03/2011 21:49

sardine oh yes I am one of them Grin but the many shows and exhibitions I attend with my Dr Who obsessed 8 year old are rather erm male heavy shall we say.

(mind you, I sort of lost interest when the lovely Mr T regenerated Sad )

thumbwitch · 21/03/2011 01:03

Does have a very different flavour to it, that last post, doesn't it. As the OP is so very pg, she couldn't be drunk - so either she's had a hormonal hissy fit or a sex change. My vote also goes to the latter - there aren't many women who yell "bunch of man-hating bitches" at us after previously being quite reasonable, so yeah, think it was probably the man in question.

And if he thinks he has his wife's full blessing for the New Forest run then he's far more self-centred than the poor woman is giving him credit for.

Hiding thread now - really CBA to deal with this one any more.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell · 21/03/2011 01:12

Well. Gosh.

...

JoyDivision · 21/03/2011 01:16

How very odd.

PenguinArmy · 21/03/2011 01:16

I agree that last post had a very different tone to it.

no point in posting now regardless of who posted the last one

BitOfFun · 21/03/2011 01:28

Oh. Seems I am too late. Good luck to you both under your little bridge.

positivesteps · 21/03/2011 02:58

Your husbands a twat fullstop - no point in beating about the bush. Feel sorry for you

FreudianSlippery · 21/03/2011 06:38

"As for manhating - nope, I love men, I just don't like selfish twats."

Love it :o

I'm sure I've seen gallifrey (as in the MNer... Not the planet) before... Don't remember such an attitude!

Bubbaluv · 21/03/2011 07:06

Gallifrey, it's all very well and good to tell us that your DH is otherwise a lovely dad and DH (I will take your word for it) but his behaviour as you describe it is thoughtless, selfish, inconsiderate and irresponsible, so it's not surprising you got some strongly worded responses on AIBU.
Surely having a baby is more important to him than his hobby?

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