To be annoyed DH spent £67 on junk food in 3 days?

[Strictly]

DH has gone away for a week with work. He's been gone since late Sunday. I checked online banking today and since he's been gone he's spent £67! The charges are McD's, Burger King, a chippy, Sainsbury's and Tesco.... he also spent £20 on 'treats' for him to take with him the day before he left.

All their meals are provided there so AIBU to be annoyed he's spent more than we normally spend on a weeks family shop on pure junk food for himself in 3 DAYS!

tbh you sound very very critical and disrespectful of him. Spending that amount on food is obviously an issue you need to resolve, but that doesn't mean you have to call him names.

he's critical and disrespectful of her.

he insists that she doesn't put things that she wants in the weekly shop, only for him to spend the surplus saved entirely on his own crap treats, leaving her and the children to eat pasta all week.

how astronomically selfish!

The only name I've called him is greedy.

And you know what it IS greedy to eat a chicken leg, chips and green beans and THEN go for a McD's and THEN eat Mars Bars and Pringles all night. He's not doing anything that's burning a lot of cals. He's just gorging on junk.

Thanks Colditz. I honestly do not wish to starve the man. I'd just prefer him to eat proper food not crap all week. He's ill a lot and I think part of that is all the junk he eats. I don't stop him having sweet things we have plenty at home, just not the bags and bags he is currently getting through.

I agree with you colditz. I think it's bloody awful of him to have a go about the amount of food shopping done for the family and to expect them to go without, while at the same time stuffing his face with big macs.

OP - every time after this that he DARES to say anything about shopping, you need to say that someone who can stuff himself with the best part of £100 worth of junk food in 3 days does not get to tell his family that they can't buy enough food.

It sounds like it's the money that's bothering you more than the food and that's NBU if you are on a budget. I had a similar problem when DH used to spend our money on beer when I had budgeted to make sure that the kids could have proper food. You could split your money so that you both have a set amount each week to spend on treats and an amount that you spend on family food and all credit card spending has to be agreed by the both of you.

My DH wasn't mean, just didn't know how where our money went and having a set amount he could spend made him realise how much he was getting through.

I do sympathise, it's horrible if you've cut back to save and he's blown the lot on Burger Kings during a work junket.

Hecate I'm already slightly pissed off that my £43 food shopping (including £8 on loo roll) arrived today that will last me and 2 DC's until he gets back next Wednesday contained only 1 pack of doughnuts and a bag of fruit jellies as my 'yum yums'. I'm on my own too but not going crazy, I'm loney and bored in the evenings too but have retained some self control! Plus noone is making me 3 meals a day inclusing a full English every morning

I think you are right to be cross.

It's not so much the money as the fact that he attempts to restrict your food shopping while ensuring that he personally gets to trough freely.

greedy selfish piggie.

And you need to tell him so.

And stop allowing him to control the food buying! tell him to shut up if he starts.

Better still, tell him "Oh shut up and go spend another hundred quid on big macs!"

He never lets me go food shopping alone as apparently I don't 'put enough yum yums' in the trolley... so he comes too and fills the thing up with crap but then when I add things I like, such as pasta salad he says it overpriced and I could make it at home

He said last night 'well when I get back we can McD's together'. I don't want McD's! He just wants another excuse for him to eat another one FFS.

he never lets you?

He has to go so that he can fill the trolley with crap for him to eat but restricts what the rest of you can have?

Really?

And you accept this?

Why not just do internet shopping? Don't even tell him you're doing it. It'll arrive and he can lump it.

tbh, it sounds like he's got a really messed up attitude.

Binge eater?

I'd be more sympathetic (having massive food issues myself) if he wasn't being such a selfish bastard. He can fill a trolley with cakes for him but you can't have a pasta salad.

Can't.

Cannot have.

You. an adult. not allowed.

fuck me.

It's not so much he wont let me go alone, more than he whines and whinges so much about it it's almost easier so give in and let him come

Well this week I did internet shop for the first time and I think I'll stick to it as we can then 'negotiate' at home rather than in the supermarket

Plus he'll have to see the massive list of his crap which might make him think rather than just randomly stuffing things in the trolley which then gets buried under other stuff so he doesn't notice how much he's actually put in until the checkout.

I agree 100% with Hecate. TBH, as well as being a tosser your DH sounds like a child.
If I let my DD chose her own food, it would probaly be similar to what your DH has had.
WTF are yumyums anyway? The only thing that can be applied to is my Yum Yum Franky (and my 9.10 DD called him that)

hahah Kreecher, 'yum yum' is anything you might find in the sweetie, cake, chocolate and crisp aisles of the supermarket.

It's DH's handy 'catch all' term

Is he paying for everyone's dinner and they are giving him cash back?

I am another one who totally agrees with Colditz. Strictly, I would go out and treat yourself and your DC's to a couple of takeaways or some nice sweet treats for the evenings, definitely! Your DH is being dictatorial to you regarding the shopping and is being disrespectful and blatently taking the piss by spending all that money on junk for himself.

I can't believe that he is happy for you and your children to eat pasta and baked beans for the next week whilst he lords it up having 3 meals a day and all that extra too. You have every right to call him a greedy pig!

I know where I would be shoving his YumYums!

I would tell him if he likes going to the fucking supermarket so much he can shop for himself in future and you'll buy the stuff (including LOTS of yumyums) for yourself and the children.

He sounds a tosser beyond belief!

And (sorry, I'm on a roll here), why the heck should you have to negotiate at home. Negotiate? About the food shopping. He sounds so controlling.

It's outrageous OP.

You should take his card from him and give him some pocket money instead. YES, treat him like a child. He is acting like one. It's not HIS money to squander. It's communal family money.

His food intake and the types of foods he is eating is insane. He will end up with diabities due to all the sugar.

He is eating compulsively. Being thin does not equal being healthy.

That's how I feel, that he thinks as he doesn't put on weight he can eat what he wants but he can't see what's it's doing to his arteries and blood sugar levels

He sounds like a spoilt toddler. 'Yum yums' FFS! How old is he?!

YANBU at all, I would be informing him that all his yum yums treats from now on will be home-made by him to save money, and he will share them with his entire family.

He does not need all this shit, and needs to realise that feeding the entire family adequately always comes before junk food binges for himself. If he was doing this with alcohol he would be considered an alcoholic - junk food is not much better.

I didn't realise that you were on a restricted shopping budget yourself, Strictly, that's not on. He must see that this is unfair - it's one thing to blow nearly £70 on junk for himself, but quite another if you're having to modify your own shopping budget because he makes a fuss if you don't.

If the junk binge is a regular thing then perhaps he ought to see somebody about it, it's not nutrition because it's junk, just treats. Does he really feel so deprived as an adult that he still needs to treat junk food as he did when he was a child? He sounds childish referring to 'yum yums' and the quantities that you're buying for the family sound quite enough.

You need to sort this out when he gets back, it's all very strange.

Am I the only one working out the timing of this?

He must be really packing it away if he is working during the day and eating three meals a day that are provided and going out to junk food places to stuff his face and sitting in his room gorging on his supermarket buys.

That isnt grazing, that is compulsive eating, and a problem.

His insistence over control over the shopping also points to an eating disorder. When you add it all together, it points to a man needing help.

I hope you can get him to some counselling OP, as it sounds like he needs it.

could he be bulimic??

He has blown ONE and a HALF times your weekly shopping bill on shit in 3 days?

I'd want to knock his bloody head off!

Is he, perhaps, holding giant toddler-themed parties in his hotel room and feeding everyone Yum Yums? (You don't know he's actually eating everything himself, do you ).

Regarding his junk food habit - he may be thin but he can't be very healthy consuming so much fat and sugar. If he needs extra calories he could put away a couple of smoothies/one more balanced meal a day instead. Spending all that money on Crap seems not simply greedy but also suggests he has a case of arrested tastebud development.