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AIBU?

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Original poster

to call dh a dickhead?

62 replies

littlepigshavebigears · 15/03/2011 18:41

DS2 has been off school today with a hacking cough and bad cold. A few hours ago he vomited copiously all over the living room - I am pretty sure it was "proper" vomiting rather than just brought on by the cough. It smelled like hell.

I explained to ds2 that he can't have any dinner tonight, only water, because we don't want to feed the bugs in his tummy and make him poorly for longer. He had a little cry and said he was hungry Sad to which I gave much sympathy and cuddles, and he accepted it. DH and I had spoken and agreed that he couldn't have anything.

dh is in the kitchen making food for ds1. DS2 just came to me with a half-finished smoothie with the straw popped out, asking me to put it back in for him. Apparently dh said he could have it.

Dickhead! AIBU?

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BooBooGlass · 15/03/2011 18:42

Not a dickhead at all. He's feeding his hungry son

HecateTheCrone · 15/03/2011 18:42

prat, certainly Grin but dickhead maybe a bit ott.

probably saw a smoothie as a drink not a food.

Have you asked him why he did it?

thisisyesterday · 15/03/2011 18:43

yes yabu

ok, so he was sick, that doesn't mean you can't give him a drink if he's thirsty! poor little mite

KnitterInTheNW · 15/03/2011 18:43

I wouldn't starve a child, I normally let them have whatever they feel they can eat and have bowls at the ready to catch it when it comes back!

MotherNight · 15/03/2011 18:44

Plain toast and water?

mumeeee · 15/03/2011 18:44

YABU, GP's now advice you to let children eat if they want to even if they have ben sick.

BitOfFun · 15/03/2011 18:44

Do you usually find that calling your husband names is conducive to both your happiness?

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littlepigshavebigears · 15/03/2011 18:44

I didn't deny him a drink, I have given him a jug of water and a glass

who said I denied him a drink? ffs

smoothie is pureed fruit, full of sugars, he might as well have a plate of food!

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HecateTheCrone · 15/03/2011 18:45

I always thought that if a child was throwing up everything that they ate that you were supposed to give them sips of water and no food.

(advice of my gp when my kids were little - that and flat 'fat' coke)

buttonmooncup · 15/03/2011 18:45

If he can tolerate it then any fluids you can get into him are a good thing. Obviously if he's not keeping anything down then water is the way to go but he would probably have no appetite if he was that ill. Is it just the once he's thrown up?

KnitterInTheNW · 15/03/2011 18:46

that was meant to say, YABU.

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littlepigshavebigears · 15/03/2011 18:46

My gp told me three weeks ago to give water and nothing else for 24 hours when a child has a sickness bug

that was the last time ds1 had one

I am not doing it for fun! Sad

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thisisyesterday · 15/03/2011 18:46

yes yabu

ok, so he was sick, that doesn't mean you can't give him a drink if he's thirsty! poor little mite

BarbaraBar · 15/03/2011 18:46

Perhaps suggest your dh is on vomit duty tonight?

Fruity vom is truly vile.

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littlepigshavebigears · 15/03/2011 18:47

he has unlimited access to drinks, I have given him a jug of water and a glass

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thisisyesterday · 15/03/2011 18:47

personally i go with, if they're hungry then let them have a small amount of something

how do you know if they can keep it down if you don't try?

it's a smoothie, not a roast dinner!

octopusinabox · 15/03/2011 18:49

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IWouldNotCouldNotWithAGoat · 15/03/2011 18:50

????

He's hungry, poor little bugger!

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littlepigshavebigears · 15/03/2011 18:53

OK, it sounds as though I am wrong then. I was following my gp's advice and dh and I had agreed on it, I didn't just dictate it because I enjoy watching my child cry Sad

I only called him a dickhead on MN btw. I do think he could have spoken to me first.

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MooMooFarm · 15/03/2011 18:53

YABU! When I read the title I thought there was going to be a sad story about a bastard H who had done something terrible. He just wanted to give his son a drink - give him a break! And calling him a dickhead is out of order anyway - do you usually talk to each other like that? Confused

MooMooFarm · 15/03/2011 18:54

X posted - you don't really talk to him like that then! Grin

BitOfFun · 15/03/2011 18:54

Is the issue that you ate looking for advice on feeing a sick child? Or that you are at loggerheads with your husband?

It makes me feel quite sad to think of somebody calling the person they are supposed to love more than anyone a dickhead, purely because they have had a difference of opinion.

ginmakesitallok · 15/03/2011 18:55

He's been sick once and you've decided not to feed him? If he's hungry I'd feed him. YABU

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littlepigshavebigears · 15/03/2011 18:56

BOF we are very, very close and we have pretty much grown up together

we are always fairly blunt with each other - "dickhead" wouldn't phase him tbh, although I wouldn't and didn't call him that in front of the dc

I feel like a horrible bitch for denying ds2 dinner now anyway, so the trhead has served its purpose.

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octopusinabox · 15/03/2011 18:59

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