Oh the shame! I'm a big old judgypants wearing judger

[Honeydragon]

...my inner Mumsnet has failed me. At DDs toddler group, one toddler has pierced ears. I've done enough threads to know all the "get your big nose out" point of views.

However the dd is always wearing sleeper hoops, quite large ones. I keep thinking "tch, that's an accident waiting to happen".

Well now it has.

Child was messing around under the floaty parachute, when the Mums and dc's were meant to be waving it and started screaming blue murder. Mum was nowhere to be seen. Went in found her, Mum was at other side of room trying to stop other child escaping, so fair enough. Passed her over to Mum who asked what happened. I explained that she had run under parachute and got her ear caught. Mum went "really? is that all?".

The Mum refastened earring, cue more screaming and then wondered off. I am hoping she hadn't heard me properly re the "really" comment as she didn't appear to be being rude, but my face STIll hurts from holding a smile when all my facial muscles were attempting to form the cats arse.

Stupid woman! Is she waiting till half the kid's ear is ripped off? I'm donning my judgypants right now. Bear in mind that mine are bigguns as am 31 wks!

Pity the toddler group hasnt got a policy to ask for all jewellery to be removed. It should have.

Its a new take on baby ear piercing threads , I will give you that ...sure it will end up like all the rest though

Usualsuspect .... probably it is AIBU, but before it turns I am hoping someone can give me the helpful alternative attitude to take as I will be going back and need to stop my self getting all tetchy about it

I applaud your facial muscle restraint

I would have judged too

So are ear piercing threads like BF/FF or state/private threads?

NiceBears ..yes

Poor child - how unlucky to have a mother who cannot take simple precautions/does not care enough to prevent an obvious accident happpening.

Pretty much Nicebears

why did you stop yourself? if the mother is too dense to realise that studs are really the most appropriate ear jewellery at this age, then she genuinely needs a kick up the ass.

well, I think you showed admirable restraint
will be interesting to see if ear has healed next week
poor thing

Hoops on a small child. How fucking stupid.

Nutty ..... mainly because she doesn't seem to want to talk to anyone despite trying. Not sure whether she struggles with the language or just wants a quiet break from the kids.

I kept thinking about saying something prior to this, but she strikes me as the kind of person who would burst into tears or be horribly offended. And if she is shy I don't want to offend her away

Good point about the toddler group regulations, maybe I should ask what their policy is on jewelry?

Is there anyone who runs the group who you could quietly discuss it with? AFAIK most schools won't let kids wear earrings either at all or certainly not in PE lessons (not even studs) so I'd have thought the norm would be to remove them during active play.

Grimma I might try, it's all ran by surestart so the more active groups are ran by outsiders. But she also attends the toddler groups there. As long as they don't think I'm an interfering old baggage maybe they could suggest plasters or something if she doen't want to put studs in.

I have to admit to hoiking my judgy pants right up to my chin last week when I bumped into my estranged sister and niece in the post office .... I bent down to greet my niece who is 2 yr old and wears hoop earrings and leopard print fake fur coats and noticed that she was also wearing mascara!!!! WTF?

Poor mite - does the mum really need to risk losing the bottom end of her daughters ear before she realises she's being idiotic? YANBU - judgy pants hoiked up so much that it's giving me a wedgy.

CarnivalBizarre - No nonon non no non no NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.

Golly. How awful.

However...I have a TINY part of me that sort of thinks they look nice.

I do however have 2 DDs aged 6 and 2 and neither are pierced because Daddy said no I am far too sensible.

I once saw a little French girl who was dressed beautifully in a classic style...with short hair and little diamond studs! She looked gorgeous.

Carnival aaaargh! My other peeve mascara on babies! Why stick that shit in their eyes?

And again hoops? Although fair do's your niece was in town, so hardly being active. Each to their own but every time I look I think how much room their is in the hoops for little fingers to grab or to catch on things.

Honeydragon I was mortified! My niece looked like that picture of Katie Prices daughter that was put up on twitter for chrissakes - poor kid!

ow! me Judgeyknickers

Carnival..... what are going to do if they send you a framed picture of her dressed like that? You'll have to have it on the mantle

I do get where your coming from though, the coat, hoops and mascara would be too much for me too.

I'm judging and I'm proud!

Personal adornment should be a personal informed choice. Clothes are a necessity, jewellery, hoops and mascara are not.