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Oh the shame! I'm a big old judgypants wearing judger

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Honeydragon · 14/03/2011 20:38

...my inner Mumsnet has failed me. At DDs toddler group, one toddler has pierced ears. I've done enough threads to know all the "get your big nose out" point of views.

However the dd is always wearing sleeper hoops, quite large ones. I keep thinking "tch, that's an accident waiting to happen".

Well now it has.

Child was messing around under the floaty parachute, when the Mums and dc's were meant to be waving it and started screaming blue murder. Mum was nowhere to be seen. Went in found her, Mum was at other side of room trying to stop other child escaping, so fair enough. Passed her over to Mum who asked what happened. I explained that she had run under parachute and got her ear caught. Mum went "really? is that all?".

The Mum refastened earring, cue more screaming and then wondered off. I am hoping she hadn't heard me properly re the "really" comment as she didn't appear to be being rude, but my face STIll hurts from holding a smile when all my facial muscles were attempting to form the cats arse.

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ballstoit · 14/03/2011 22:13

Hmm, at least when DD had her grommits fitted I could honestly believe I hadnt caused.

Unlike the other girls parents who struggled to remove both her earrings and dummy before she went to theatre. But quickly put them in while she was dozing after the op Angry

SugarPasteFrog · 14/03/2011 22:25

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GrimmaTheNome · 14/03/2011 22:29

Lets leave out judging the piercing itself. The issue here is that wearing hoops for active play at any age is an accident waiting to happen. Its the sort of thing playgroups should think about in the same way schools do.

CarnivalBizarre · 14/03/2011 22:31

Arf Honeydragon the picture thing would never happen - I go months without seeing my estranged sister .....for good reason- I just feel so sorry for the child having to be a fashion accessory extention of my sisters idea that she is a Katie Pricey wannabeeeeeeee...a piss poor one too

SugarPasteFrog · 14/03/2011 22:42

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blackeyedsusan · 14/03/2011 23:00

ewww accident waiting to happen indeed

FellatioNelson · 14/03/2011 23:07

Judge away. You won't get an argument from me, danger hazard or not.

MaisyMooCow · 15/03/2011 01:02

Mascara on babies? Seriously? I'm sorry but that's just so wrong.

nailak · 15/03/2011 01:09

yanbu, i got nothing against pierced earings on babies but if they keep getting caught then take them out.

Morloth · 15/03/2011 01:17

Some people are dumb, sometimes these people breed.

Unfortunately short of re-introducing predators into our day to day lives there isn't much you can do about it.

If you ban one dumb thing, they just find something equally stupid to injure themselves/their kids with.

My judgey pants a big and red and shiny.

MadamDeathstare · 15/03/2011 02:09

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chillichill · 15/03/2011 02:52

have just ordered a new pair of pants off Boden as I have worn mine out on this post

clowntrousers · 15/03/2011 07:12

Poor kid to have this inflicted on them; the pain, the hideous earrings and the daft mum.

Judgy pants so high I'll need to cut eyeholes in them to continue judging through.

JessRabbit · 15/03/2011 07:28

Hoops would be banned in schools, so it wouldn't be unreasonable to ban them at nursery.

I'd have judged, and I would have had words the cozy binturong of a Mother.

JessRabbit · 15/03/2011 07:30

"cozy binturong" is obviously the iPad version of Dozy Bint but I may use the former in future as a veiled insult that only Mnetters can understand :o

JessRabbit · 15/03/2011 07:32

Oh Morloth how I wish I could like a post because I really like yours.

JellyBellies · 15/03/2011 07:32

You are all being unreasonable Grin
seriously ppl, get over yourselves, its a purely cultural thing.

To suggest ear piercing is neglectful/cruel/daft is a bit like suggesting to a British mother that leaving tiny babies to fall asleep alone by themselves in a dark room is neglectful/cruel Shock

Some mums wouldn't dream of doing one, some wouldn't dream of doing the other. Doesn't make either cruel.

JessRabbit · 15/03/2011 08:50

I'm a bit judgey about Jelly Bellies too Wink

JellyBellies · 15/03/2011 10:58

Grin you will be happy to know it's not so jelly anymore ... DS2 is inside :)

Morloth · 15/03/2011 11:40

Of course it is daft to put metal rings into the soft tissue of a person who has very little self control and who runs around a lot and shoves their heads in things.

It being cultural doesn't make it any less dumb, it just makes it a different flavour of dumb.

JellyBellies · 15/03/2011 12:22

Don't know if you realise but most of these little metal rings would sooner come off than actuallly rip out a child's ear.

It's far more daft to shove a piece of plastic into a wailing babies mouth to shut it up but hey, to each their own :)

2blessed2bstressed · 15/03/2011 12:29

But the piece of plastic (which I don't like either, incidentally) isn't permanent

TheSkiingGardener · 15/03/2011 12:30

I've yet to see a dummy pulled out causing ripped flesh.

JellyBellies · 15/03/2011 12:42

As I said earlier earrings generally dont result in ripped flesh either. I say generally because there are always freak accidents involving pretty much anything.

I come from a part of the world where earrings are vey common. In fact i have Never met a female there who didn't have them. And I have never seen or heard of anyone having a ripped ear because of earrings. Obviously this is only my experience.

You can all wear your judgy pants but the fact is - it's different is all. A hole in a ear is shocking when you are not used to it. So is shutting a tiny baby in a dark room alone all night to those who are not used to it.

JellyBellies · 15/03/2011 12:46

And as for a dummy not being permanent or causing ripped flesh - children do become addicted to them and then you either have to go through dummy withdrawal or if it's left too long - teeth problems.

In my opinion that's way more trouble/ pain to a child than a pair of earrings!