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Original poster

State school teachers sending their own children to private schools

269 replies

abitwobbly · 13/03/2011 21:12

AIBU to think we are not immoral or anti state and that we have just chosen the right school for our child??

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MillyR · 13/03/2011 21:13

My children are both at state school. It wouldn't concern me in the slightest if their teachers had children in private school.

southeastastra · 13/03/2011 21:13

it's telling isn't it though - i wouldn't trust a teacher that didn't have faith in her own school

clam · 13/03/2011 21:13

No-one else's damn business. YANBU.

JennyPiccolo · 13/03/2011 21:14

you cant please everyone else, so just please yourself. If you can afford it and thats what you want to spend your money on, its no business of anyone else.

vj32 · 13/03/2011 21:14

Where the hell do you get the money from on a teacher's salary? If you can afford it, its your choice same as anyone elses.

clam · 13/03/2011 21:15

"i wouldn't trust a teacher that didn't have faith in her own school"
But it's not about her own school. Chances are her own kids would go to a different school.

Eglu · 13/03/2011 21:17

I don't think it says anything about the teacher not trusting their own school SEA. They may not live in the catchment area anyway. And if I was a teacher I wouldn't want my DC at my school. I don't think that is much fun for the children.

So YANBU abitwobbly

squeakytoy · 13/03/2011 21:19

Nobodys business but their own.

And you wouldnt be likely to get a child at the school their parent teaches at anyway.

southeastastra · 13/03/2011 21:19

i mean her local state school, think you should support the system you work in iykwim

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abitwobbly · 13/03/2011 21:20

BTW I adore my school and if my child were different/different needs, they would go there.

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freshmint · 13/03/2011 21:21

loads of state school teachers at my kids private prep
2 headmistresses too

or do you have to call them heads in the state sector

MillyR · 13/03/2011 21:22

FM, usually in a state school the term is head teacher.

freshmint · 13/03/2011 21:23

ah ok
I thought it was like chair

lol

ragged · 13/03/2011 21:23

Crikey, it's a job & a profession, not an oath in blood to support everything about their employer.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 13/03/2011 21:23

Most schools have strengths in different areas, and if that didn't suit the teachers children (even if it was their catchment school) they I'm sure not many of us would just send our dc there without doing our utmost to find somewhere that they would be more suited to. YANBU to send your childen to any school at all that you can legitimatley (?SP)get them into.

I work in the NHS, but have used Private healthcare Shock

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abitwobbly · 13/03/2011 21:24

I don't think my DD would thank me in years to come for supporting the system I work in......I hope they would thank me for educating them in an environment which best supported them to achieve their best and BTW southeastastra that could be a private/state/free/academy, it wouldn't matter.

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FebreezeYourJeans · 13/03/2011 21:25

southeastastra I would love it if my children could go to my school, but we are nowhere near being in the catchement area, so your comment is a bit Confused

My children go to private schools, having started in our local state primary, I don't advertise it, but I'm not ashamed of it either.

southeastastra · 13/03/2011 21:26

blimey stop bolding me!

i do think all education should be equal for this country to be fair and a nice place to be..

would think a teacher would agree tbh

HelenBaaBaaBlackSheep · 13/03/2011 21:28

"i wouldn't trust a teacher that didn't have faith in his/her own school"

me neither

LaWeasel · 13/03/2011 21:28

I think it is generally a good idea for children not to go to the school their parents teach at. Sometimes that might mean the only option is private.

Not something I can get worked up about tbh. (And I am no private school fan)

mamatomany · 13/03/2011 21:28

The number of state school teachers with children at our private school would take your breath away. It's their money, their choice I bet a lot of it is to do with wrap around childcare though they can't be in two places at once.

CouldNeverHave3 · 13/03/2011 21:29

it's hardly surprising ..we see what it's really like.

Joe Bloggs parents can't really imagine what goes on in some schools.

NonnoMum · 13/03/2011 21:30

Many teachers these days live miles and miles away from the school they work in (NO ONE would move just for a 5 or 10 grand payrise, would they, assuming they work up the scales) so very few children of teachers would be in the catchment of their parents' schools.

stressheaderic · 13/03/2011 21:32

I'm a state school teacher. My child lives in the catchment for the school I work in. I would never send her there in a million years - it's rough as anything and I've seen (and reported, and resolved) too many issues of bullying, anti social behaviour etc to ever consider it.
If I had the money, I'd go private. As it is, we haven't so I can't.

PepsiPopcorn · 13/03/2011 21:33

YANBU. Your job and your choice of school for your children are two separate things.