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AIBU?

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to deliberately conceive a Christmas baby?

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greenbananas · 13/03/2011 15:03

If I were to get pregnant this month, the baby would be due in mid-December. Is it unfair to give a child a birthday that is so close to Christmas?

I am 38 and I suppose that's why I'm a bit uncomfortable about hanging about. Time is not on my side. Having said that, I was very lucky that DS was conceived the same month we started trying, and my whole family is full of honeymoon babies and 'happy accidents' - so there's a fair chance that if we try this week there will be a baby here in December 2011...

AIBU? Does anybody have experience of birthdays being in December?

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nethunsreject · 13/03/2011 15:05

I love my Christmas birthday, always have.

Go for it and good luck.

PonceyMcPonce · 13/03/2011 15:06

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LadyOfTheManor · 13/03/2011 15:06

My husband's birthday is the 14th December. He isn't bothered.

My SIL is the 26th, my nephew the 27th, my FIL is on Christmas day.

Not much they can do about it.

I feel bad for wrapping their gifts in Christmas paper though.

macdoodle · 13/03/2011 15:06

I have a 28th Dec baby, adore her to pieces, but it is a PITA. Think Jan is worse though TBH. Just go for it :)

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 13/03/2011 15:07

DS1 should have been a December baby but was so late he didn't turn up till January. So there's all the excitement and parties around Xmas and New Year, then his birthday, by which time everyone is partied out and cba with any more celebrations. It's tough but just how things turned out.

ladysybil · 13/03/2011 15:07

I think that you are overthinking the situation. so much could happen
you dont conceieve
you miscarry two weeks later
your baby doesnt want to come out till mid jan
your baby is prem
your baby is majorly prem

VajazzHands · 13/03/2011 15:08

YANBU whats wrong with a december birthday, jesus did well enough out of it!

diddl · 13/03/2011 15:16

My bday is a couple of days before & I love it!

"I feel bad for wrapping their gifts in Christmas paper though."

Why would you wrap bday gifts in Christmas paper?

BuzzLiteBeer · 13/03/2011 15:17

birthdays are when they are. who cares? I can honestly say I never considered this and would never have thought to.

TenSpeedOfGodsBlood · 13/03/2011 15:19

I'm in the same boat :) i felt bad, but then again my birthday is the 1st of december, and i love my birthday being that close to Christmas, it always felt magical to me :)!
Good luck! X

medicalmayhem · 13/03/2011 15:19

my sons birthday is dec the 20th, he was 12 days late, (didnt think i would get pregnant on the first month of trying) and for me its a pain in the ass, what with xams only 5 days away, but i never let my son know this and so far he loves his birthday, being close to xmas!

tigerchilli · 13/03/2011 15:21

My DD2 was born on the 30th (9 days late) and she says it doesn't bother her. My DS was 5 at the time and his teacher told him that he was a very lucky little boy to be having a 'xmas baby'. He replied "well yes miss but I'm getting other things as well you know"

Daisypod · 13/03/2011 15:22

I am a early Jan baby and I hate it. No one ever wants to do anything and you are always skint as an adult. My DD2 is mid December it it is horrible that she has to wait virtually a whole year before getting presents. She got a bike for Birthday but has only just started to be able to use it. She gets so upset when her siblings have summer birthdays and she has to wait, then gets Christmas and birthday excitement all in one so neither seem as speical.

Personally i would never plan for a baby around that time

4paws · 13/03/2011 15:24

well I swore that December was not a good month to have a baby and now we have 3 december b'days . It would be nice to have more of a break, April, May , June is probably nice in terms of not getting total present overload in december but hey ho. The tinsel and festive atmosphere is pretty nice. I agree with Oldlady that Jan can be a a bit rubbish, if everyone else is partied out but it will be YOUR child, and their b'days can be as big or as low key as you want to make them

EveryonesJealousOfGingers · 13/03/2011 15:25

My birthday is in mid december and I no longer speak to my parents because of it - how could they put me through such a horrible life?

You are massively overthinking this, you really can't plan when you get pregnant and honestly it won't matter at all.

The only thing that annoyed me was getting presents 'for birthday AND Christmas' from people who couldn't be faffed to think of two gifts - but as I got older and more canny I realised that I could therefore get BIGGER presents, plus my 18th birthday was on the last day of term and you can't really beat that!!!

IloveJudgeJudy · 13/03/2011 15:25

My DD has a birthday in early Jan and it's horrible. Everyone is partied out and skint. One year she did have a birthday party in July in the park! That was fabulous.

If you can plan it otherwise, then do, but seeing your situation, I'd just go for it.

EveryonesJealousOfGingers · 13/03/2011 15:27

Oh ok, just read Daisy's post - sorry Daisy :(

Nagoo · 13/03/2011 15:29

My DH has birthday in early Jan, and i get him loads of stuff, as I can get double the amount in the sales for the same price :)

MotherMountainGoat · 13/03/2011 15:32

My DM's birthday is December 27th and she is INCREDIBLY sensitive about it, due to a few unfortunate incidents when she was young with people giving her a present on Xmas Day and saying 'That's for your birthday as well', or using Xmas paper for wrapping a separate present. I go out of my way to make sure she has separate prezzies from all of us and a lovely flowery card with NO Christmas connection.

On the other hand, when I was growing up we always went to my GPs on Xmas Day, then my cousin's birthday was on the 26th, so we all went there for tea, then everyone came to us on the 27th for tea. So there's actually likely to be more family around than at other times - my DD1 has an August birthday and the number of times we've been on holiday in weird places at the time, and with none of her friends around. I think that's one advantage of a Xmas birthday.

My friend's son got fed up of his December birthday one year because he wanted to have parties outside like his summer-born friends - I think that year they did a small family party on the day itself and then had the friends party the following June.

bemybebe · 13/03/2011 15:32

So are you going to stay off sex for the next two months because the baby can also arrive prem?
I wouldn't waste my time thinking about such banal issues, there are pretty of serious matters to worry about.

dawntigga · 13/03/2011 15:33

YABU having a birthday close to chistmas sucks big green eggs.

ChristmasEveTiggaxx

squeakytoy · 13/03/2011 15:33

My stepdaughter was a xmas eve baby and she hates it. Her siblings all have birthdays mid year, and people dont forget their birthdays, or give them one present "to cover xmas and bday".

She never had a party on her actual birthday and she has always said that she feels sad that she was born on xmas eve.

overthehillmum · 13/03/2011 15:35

My son was born on Christmas Day, he gets no gifts from the inlaws, only my side made an effort, but he feels that he has never missed out as I used to buy a "summer" gift for him, trampoline, bike, paddling pool, etc around about June and I always buy separate gifts, wrap one in birthday paper and the other in Christmas paper, he used to open his Christmas presents in the morning and his birthday stuff after dinner....I think if the parents make an effort it doesn't matter if it does happen around Christmas.

BluddyMoFo · 13/03/2011 15:35

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bemybebe · 13/03/2011 15:36

btw, you can nominate a separate date for birthday celebrations, not unlike the Dutch queen (her real one is 31 jan, but celebrated on 30 april)

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