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AIBU?

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to deliberately conceive a Christmas baby?

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greenbananas · 13/03/2011 15:03

If I were to get pregnant this month, the baby would be due in mid-December. Is it unfair to give a child a birthday that is so close to Christmas?

I am 38 and I suppose that's why I'm a bit uncomfortable about hanging about. Time is not on my side. Having said that, I was very lucky that DS was conceived the same month we started trying, and my whole family is full of honeymoon babies and 'happy accidents' - so there's a fair chance that if we try this week there will be a baby here in December 2011...

AIBU? Does anybody have experience of birthdays being in December?

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ebbandflow · 13/03/2011 15:38

You have just made me wonder whether there are people who plan their babies around what their star sign could be.

Liskey · 13/03/2011 15:48

DD was due mid January but arrived 22 December due to complications. I did feel sorry for her as my birthday is also mid December and I remember having joint presents which was terrible as a child (and the same present as my sister as I'm a twin as well!). So we're trying to make a special effort with presents and keep the 2 things seperate - put the tree up on Christas Eve so she doesn't get muddled up.

Firawla · 13/03/2011 15:53

I really don't think its a big issue. Wouldn't put off ttc for this, you dont know if they will actually end up as a december baby anyway for eg may take couple more months to become pregnant, but i think its a very minor reason to delay.
I have a mid dec baby and dont consider it a problem, although we dont do xmas anyway (muslim) but i dont think it would be a huge problem

sleepwheniam90 · 13/03/2011 16:00

my friend purposely avoided having a christmas baby, then to her horror didn't get pregnant like she planned.

Go for it, i'm with ladysybil (from page 1)

ShowOfHands · 13/03/2011 16:02

My bday is NYE and yes people give you 'joint xmas and bday' presents, yes they wrap your presents in christmas paper, yes everybody's skint and fed up, no you can't book anything for a party as everything/everywhere/everyone's busy and prices are artificially hiked BUT my parents wanted a baby and that was all that mattered. And you could be born on Feb 29th or Hallowe'en or Easter Sunday or any day with any problems associated with it.

If you want to try for a baby, try for a baby. Don't put it off because of the month.

schroeder · 13/03/2011 16:05

My birthday is near christmas and I really hate it(not my mum's fault; I was really early)

so when I was TTC I did avoid this time of year. But I was in my mid twenties and I know that makes a big difference.

Stupid really though because you can't really plan these things as babies hardly ever arrive when they are supposed to.

Not much help am I?

picturerail · 13/03/2011 16:12

I've got two December babies, both born the week before Xmas. I don't understand this hoo ha about it being "unfair." Their birthdays are their birthdays & we make the same fuss over them as we would any other time of year. People have of course commented on it (mentions it every year without fail) but unfortunately i can't do a lot about it! DS2 was a "happy accident" when we weren't even ttc & DS1 was born 5 weeks early under really horrible circumstances & spent his first Xmas in a SCBU so i'm just happy that they're here & healthy. These "horror" stories about birthday gifts wrapped in Xmas paper & receiving one present for both have already happened to us & they're still only young but we've lived to tell the tale! YABU. Just get on with it

NorthernGobshite · 13/03/2011 16:13

My birthday is near Xmas and as a child it was a pain in the arse.

But its hardly reason not to TTC.

lilyliz · 13/03/2011 16:18

my birthday mid December and my parents did'nt do birthday pressies(we got cards though)but to make mine a bit special my birthday was the day the tree went up,funnily my sisters and I still do this years later.

MamaVoo · 13/03/2011 16:18

DS is a December baby as once we'd decided to start ttc I wasn't about to go back to contraception for a month. As it is he came early so was born in November. Just go for it

MamaVoo · 13/03/2011 16:18

DS should have been a December baby.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 13/03/2011 16:19

Well I'm ttc after a mc and if it happens this month I'd be too delighted to give a toss that it'd be mid December or very close to DD's birthday. Life is too short to worry about these things.

Underachieving · 13/03/2011 16:23

Both Darling Step Sons in December, both are now grown men, both would ratherhave thier birthdays less near Christmas because they think they'd get more presents and more attention. Between you and I they are probably right.

Happymm · 13/03/2011 16:28

My DS 2 is 29 th and we love it, has a really cosy birthday, as we know not to hope for the sun! And adults at the party get mulled wine and mince pies! What's not to love! And make big thing of it, and make sure family all don't give him a combined gift. He also gets a summer gift, for outdoor play later in year to add to it all. Fab. Go for it!x

olderandwider · 13/03/2011 16:32

One of my friend's has a DD born Dec 26th. Whilst she was still at school she had her "unofficial" birthday in summer, so she could have a party during the nice weather and friends could come more easily to the party. I think the December "real" birthday was a sort of family-only affair. It seemed a good arrangement to me.

BagofHolly · 13/03/2011 16:43

My boys were born Dec 28th and I was in hospital all over Christmas and New Year. It was shit. Skeleton staff, bank staff, people not really wanting to be in work, etc. Then when I came home, the local midwifery service wasn't back to work properly over the Bank Holiday in lieu of New Years Day so I didn't have anyone to take my stitches out and they got infected. So I'd vote NO to a Christmas delivery. Mine were a month prem so it wasn't what we'd planned either.

coccyx · 13/03/2011 16:45

no way, awful time of year to have a birthday. always an afterthought

mowbraygirl · 13/03/2011 16:57

My DS was born on 5th January was due on Boxing Day. I did feel sorry for him when he was young as people sometimes forgot his birthday with it being just after Christmas.

I wasn't planning to have a Christmas baby but as it took me a year to conceive DD thought if I started to try and get pregnant in the March maybe with a bit of luck would have a baby the following year in the summer. Mother nature had different ideas and I fell pregnant that month.

fartblossom · 13/03/2011 17:08

My DD was due on xmas day. We spent 9 months saying it will be fine she's due on christmas day and how many babies are actually born on their due date? She was born half 7 christmas day morning. She's only 3 so I dont think she's figured the whole thing about it not being her special day.

Actually I feel sorry more for my son on christmas morning as I want DD to have her special part so she gets to open her birthday presents before anything else.

I have a friend whose birthday was 1st Jan, she hated it cos there was nothing open on her birthday. There has been many a new years day where we've been wandering around town looking for any pubs to be open.

I didnt have a problem with the hospital that day, but I did leave at half 11 AM. Dont know if it was because she was my second or they were a bit more lenient with it being christmas. I was upset my picture didnt get in the paper cos she wasnt the first born that day (and I wasnt in the ward).

My birthday is end of Jan I love it then cos everyone's just been paid again since christmas so is feeling flush so there is generally a good atmosphere around.

KittyBump · 13/03/2011 17:09

hmmm, I had my DD on 18th Dec the main issue was the snow! the ante natal ward was closed as all the midwives had to sleep there as they couldn't get home and lots of women were turned away
I had a bad tear and had to go into surgery there were 5 members of staff there, and they all said to me to make sure you get her separate birthday and christmas presents (wasn't foremost in my mind what with my legs up in stirrups!)

UrsulaBuffay · 13/03/2011 17:12

I detest my christmas birthday, I have always felt overlooked and there is nothing to look forward to. I actually don't understand the concept of a birthday because of it.

deliciousdevilwoman · 13/03/2011 17:22

My DD should have been born on 12th Jan this year, but arrived on 18th December. The best early Xmas present ever! I don't care that she will have a birthday a week before Xmas. She will still get parties and a fuss made of her. I'll see to that ;-)

dexifehatz · 13/03/2011 17:27

My birthday is on the 17th December and I love it! Its my birthday, then a week later Christmas Day, then the next week its New Years Day! its parties all round :D

octopusinabox · 13/03/2011 17:31

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Indith · 13/03/2011 17:31

My dcs both have Christmas or near enough birthdays. I was sort of going to try to avoid it for number 2 but we had just decided to ttc and I forgot . Decision been made to have a 3rd one but deliberately not starting for a couple of months although that is more to do with spreading the birthdays a bit rather than Christmas!

Anyway don't let it stop you, Christmas birthdays are what you make them. Doing all the Christmas shopping while the size of a whale is a pain in the arse though but at least you can put your feet up and let someone else do all the cooking

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