to not want to go fetch two 14 year olds?

[typicalbloke]

It's a modern etiquette problem...

DS went to a party tonight with two friends. One of the other parents took the the three of them., I am to pick them all up at 11pm.

But here's the thing: DS didn't get in he was bounced at the door and left outside in the rain I just went and picked him up.

So now then -- what happens at 11pm, am I still on the hook to pick up the other two (a 15mile round trip?) or can I justifiably call their parents and tell them I don't fancy it ??

I mean it was awful for all the bounced children but how do you explain someone's crossed off the list 'sorry your name's here but she's changed her mind and doesn't want you to come in now'?! iyswim?

I'm dreading all this tbh.

Well done you for dealing with the father. Lots of us would have done the same.

The mentality of some people really . If I were the op ds I certaily would not be friends with that spoilt little girl.

or the ones that left him on his own, some mates eh!

awaits Monday morning playground fallout with baited breath

and

Ooooh, me too. Tell us the playground gossip!

ah.. well, an not much really...
OR - DS didn't want to talk about it

A few kids asked him: did your dad have a fight with X's Dad then? But not too much of a stir.
He hasn't spoken to X

apologetic emails from other parents

• child A 'so sorry we dropped and left... didn't occur to us etc'
• child B 'B texted us to say we must do pick up.. we should have called you! we should have learned by now nmot to assume that the children have communicated properly'

Dog yes you don't rely on teens to communicate. I don't blame your ds for not wanting to talk about it

Your DS may be feeling mortified about not getting in and about your altercation with the host father.

He needs to understand neither he nor you did anything wrong and the person who should be keeping a low profile is the twit party girl.

Unfortunately some parents don't seem to care. last year my DH took DS, then 14,to a Gig in Manchester (1 hour away)and waited at bar at back of hall with other dads. When Gig over was going back to car came accross a girl from DSs school (age 13) who had gone with 3 mates all same age on train. They had left her and she was about to cross the city to catch last train home...around 11pmish. She would have been crossing city late at night, probably would have missed train and her phone was dead.
DH phoned her dad to explain and offered to take her home. Dad couldn't care less about her situation, just swore about her mates leaving her. Who lets their 13yr old daughter go to a gig in a big city by train with a few mates in the first place? DH waited outside her house until she got in and waved (call me old fashioned but that's what we do). No sign of Dad.