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People shopping on a Sunday.

284 replies

mrsgetonwithit · 06/03/2011 08:28

Another thread about kids in shops after 8pm got me thinking about this.

When I am out and about on a Sunday [or Bank hols] I am amazed at the amount of people taking their kids shopping on a Sunday.

I work every bank hol and when its a beautiful day there they are dragging their kids around the shops.

Why don't people [some] take their kids to the beach or moors or park anymore.

When I was young every Sunday my dad used to take my bro and I either swimming or fishing or the moors/beach for a few hours on a Sunday morn. My mum stayed home to cook the roast and then we palyed games in the garden or board games indoors after the meal.

This was a family day spent with the family.

So the question is What do you do on a Sunday?

Please don't say they shop on a Sunday because they work all week because shops are open late and on Saturdays.

OP posts:
happybubblebrain · 06/03/2011 11:08

mrsgetonwithit - do you know the effect having a 'holier than thou' attitude can have on your child? Your dc will probably grow up with a superiority/inferiority and have trouble fitting in. I'm concerned for your child.

itisnotgoingwelltoday · 06/03/2011 11:09

Alemci - I am not judging you as a bad parent for dragging your DC to a very boring hour and a half where they have to sit on hard seats which make them squirm and listen to a boring sermon which isn't relevant to them.

Your choice, not mine, up to you to choose what you and your family do with your time.

The OP is judging me and others like me.

happybubblebrain · 06/03/2011 11:09

*complex

itisnotgoingwelltoday · 06/03/2011 11:11

Oh and it's mamon. Means greed. Manon is a ballet.

tethersend · 06/03/2011 11:12

YANBU.

I take my DD shopping in the evening (before 8, of course), leaving me the weekend free to score at the local crack den. Which she loves.

Laquitar · 06/03/2011 11:13

itisnotgoingwelltoday
please don't feel bad because of a silly thread. I have only read the first page so i don't know if i missed something between you and op but am only responding to your last post @10.55.

In the 70s we had those 'family sundays' because we weren't so busy during the week. My dcs are so busy mon-sat they are dying for 'free play' and a dvd by sunday. And even on sundays they have bday parties to go sometimes. I think this applies to most children. We don't have to organise activities and 'fun' and 'learning' for them every sunday aswell Hmm.

Dont let silly people upseting you. I'm sure your dcs enjoy chilling out.

alemci · 06/03/2011 11:15

TBH the teenagers want to go as they have loads of friends at the church (it is quite upbeat) and we have been going there for years. My son doesn't go and i don't force him. i would never do that.

the sermon isn't too bad actually and it goes on for about 20 mins.

i do go to the supermarket if i need to or even a shopping mall and i understand why people may do this. it is something to do especially if it is cold and wet and it is free if you don't buy anything.

However non food shopping is a bit vacuous and i think it is filling a gap for something that is missing in peoples' lives.

Personally i am avoiding the shops as i spent too much at half term and if i don't go i am not tempted. i am only buying food at present.

alemci · 06/03/2011 11:16

yeah you know what i meant. didn't know manon was a balleti thanks LOL.

slartybartfast · 06/03/2011 11:17

when i went to tescos on a sunday last year or so, it was SO BUSY. they open at 9.30 for browsers and sunday morning is their busiest day of the week.

consequently i didnt go back there.

howitis · 06/03/2011 11:18

The OP is not answering because she is sat at home doing her shopping online whilst throwing a tennis ball to her child (for family time) also getting rather annoyed at reading MN but knowing she can't reply as it's sunday!

itisnotgoingwelltoday · 06/03/2011 11:19

Laquitar - that's it I think, I'm a single parent, I bust my balls taking them to various activities through the week and I never get a night off.

Thursday night XH is supposed to have them as I have a very early start in the morning and can't take the DC's to school. He pisses about with it almost every week.

Saturdays they both go horse riding, which by the time we lift the ponies and get ready is out of the house by 8am and back sometimes around 9pm, although it's more normally 6 or 7.

I fail on the perfect Sunday because I am divorced.

So if I have to take the DC's shopping on a Sunday for an hour or if we decide (as we did last week) to go out to Sunday lunch in a cheap family orientated restaurant which is in a shopping centre, and couple with that getting DD2 joggers, that means what? I am even worse?

I have no other time to do it because I am on my own in the evenings, I don't have family support, I have to take the DC's to and from activities because XH won't do it.

I feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.

Sanctimonious judgy pants from the OP.

PlentyOfPrimroses · 06/03/2011 11:19

Shopping on Saturday is a pain. It takes ages queueing up for fags because everybody's buying their lottery tickets.

The best time is Sunday morning before the churches kick out.

My DC are of the age when they won't be seen out with me anywhere anyway.

eddiemccready · 06/03/2011 11:20

I do agree with you op. Up until I passed my driving test my dh usually had to drive me, with dc in tow, to do any shopping. I used to feel so guilty as usually it would drag on for ages, and they would be sitting in the car waiting or dragged around after a trolley. Now its great as I try to go on an evening during the week, or else out on a Saturday morning and home at lunchtime. I feel we make so much better use of our weekends.

TheVisitor · 06/03/2011 11:25

I'll shop, with my children, when I want to and how I want to and it's no business of yours and no justification required. I think you need to get out more if this sort of thing gets on your nerves. Maybe do some voluntary work or something.

Laquitar · 06/03/2011 11:26

itsnotgoing, not you dont fail the perfect sunday because you are divorced. Most married ones fail it too-see my first post Grin

You sound fab mum to me and your dcs had a full week.
Sundays are for chilling and resting.

MissQue · 06/03/2011 11:30

OK, how about this scenario - single parent working full time, comes home in the evening and has to cook, clean and bathe their children, make sure they've done their homework and put them to bed, when do they have time to shop in the evenings???? Bus services are better on Saturday for day trips and family outings, so why shouldn't you have a special day on Saturday, then shopping Sunday?

TrillianAstra · 06/03/2011 11:33

According to the OP's childhood ideal, she wouldn't be spending quality time with the children on Sunday at all. They would be spending quality time with their dad while she cooked a roast dinner.

Or I could just say YABU you smuggedy smug smugger.

TrillianAstra · 06/03/2011 11:35

According to the OP's childhood ideal, she wouldn't be spending quality time with the children on Sunday at all. They would be spending quality time with their dad while she cooked a roast dinner.

Or I could just say YABU you smuggedy smug smugger.

worraliberty · 06/03/2011 11:37

OP is now reading through the last bit of the thread desparate to post, but knowing that she is supposed to have gone 'swimming'. She is now not able to come back on the thread until the children have gone to sleep, otherwise her poor child/children will be mortified that their mother is not 'keeping Sunday Special

On the contrary, I think she came back on as 'ilovemylife' Wink

altinkum · 06/03/2011 11:38

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Newgolddream · 06/03/2011 11:41

you smuggedy smug smugger GrinGrin

CrazyHorse · 06/03/2011 11:42

No one should ever go shopping in RL....everything should be done on line.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 06/03/2011 11:43

I think I saw the OP the other weekend. Shrieking at her DC to put a smile on his face because it's Sunday and that means it's happy family day

If I recall correctly all the poor bugger wanted to do was go home and play on his XBox..

Grin
RudeEnglishLady · 06/03/2011 11:51

Where I live the shops are closed on Sunday. So far today we have:

Had a blazing row about pans
Bathed DS
Watched a documentary about catching a big fish
Shopped for a door on Ebay
Laundry

I think that this proves that you can't legislate people into what the OP considers good habits. We are happy philistines and are unlikely to change.

GwendolineMaryLacey · 06/03/2011 11:52

Why do you care what other people do? Our Sundays consist of getting up and going to Mass, then we mooch around until we meet up with my parents and brother's family for lunch. Then back to one of their houses or DH will take DD to the park or swimming. So pretty much what you're describing but, I don't give a hoot what other people do, whatever works for each family. It's nothing to do with me and doesn't affect what I do one iota.