to be mightly pissed of with this?

[FanellaFidget]

Am pregnant with DC4. We have three DS's. We have choosen not to find out the sex. We will be made up with either sex, and am not - contray to what everyone I meet seems to think - desperate for a girl. This will be our last baby.

Have just been to see IL's, when we were leaving I was handed a bag of brand new baby clothes. Told to get them out at home.

I'm home... it's full dresses, tights, and all things pink . IL's have made no secret of the fact they would like me to have a girl, (BIL has two boys, not having anymore) which is fine I can cope with that...but buying girls clothes before I've even popped?!

Might be pregnancy hormones, but this has really enraged me. Can't bring myself to call to say thanks. Am I being really ungrateful, or are they out of order?

MuddlingMackem believe me, we have a DD already and have minimal pink. DD is not a girly-girl by any means, which is 110% fine by me. MIL made the same thing for the DD we have already and it was gender-neutral bright primary colours.

This time MIL's gone full-out blues, browns and greens, not even any red, orange or yellow to neutralise it a bit.

So....no pressure on me to produce a DS this time then!

oh that would have driven me mad.

fwiw i totally get the 'overprotective feeling towards the unborn baby' i had that with no 3 and 4, both boys, i found out with no4, as i was told that when preg with no 3 my mil HAD bought girls clothes, as was hoping for a girl! she didnt give them to me tho!

incidentally after my four boys, i have had a girl we just wanted another BABY, regardless of sex, but we also found out the sex, partly because i didnt want all the 'oh no another boy, poor you comments' when baby was born, we didnt actually believe dd was a girl till she was born, so had lots of gender neutral stuff andhave been inundated with girly stuff!

which on the one hand i love and i have turned into a bit of a clothes buying freak myself as there is soo much cute stuff, not pink tho, i dont do pink! but i also feel hugely protective of my four boys, who are every bit as wonderful as my dd is. :)

congrats on your pregnancy and i would be direct and to the point, say thankyou, its a lovely gift but you need to swop them for something gender neutral :)

OP what did your husband say?

I called him and he sounded baffled, he completley played it down though because he knows I'm very -ahem- 'emotional' at the moment and I don't think he wanted to upset me. He just said "weirdos"

NotSoPukeyMum Fri 04-Mar-11 16:27:08

It sounds slightly demented to be honest. Not to mention awfully emotional blackmail-ey.

Maybe they just bought girls clothes because they assume that you already have lots of things for a boy. I honestly wouldn't read anything too negative into this as a one off action.

I do understand the protectiveness of your boys that you are feeling. I had 3 DSs and when I was pg with my 4th baby lots of people couldn't understand why I was having another child. Once they found out the baby was a girl, they suddenly couldn't see the problem in having 4DC. It was like it was only okay because she was a girl. Like you, I had no preference before my baby was born and their comments made me feel as if they valued my boys less than my girl.

karma, i had the same with baby no5, people thought we were totally mad, and wondered why the hell we would have another and i got lots of i hope you dont have ANOTHER boy, but once dd arrived, its all oh how wonderful you finally got a girl etc etc, actually its great that we have another healthy baby, the fact that she is a girl is neither here not there!

and i find the comments hugely annoying, like somehow my four boys are less important,when actually i love all my children equally, regardless of gender.