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AIBU?

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To feel annoyed that dc's school won't let them have time off to do modelling?

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Lionelvinyl · 03/03/2011 09:36

I asked in advance if we could have some time off in April (2 days) and June (2 days)

I was told that it wouldn't be a problem because I had asked so far in advance/it wasn't for very long/my dc's attendance is very good and they are not behind in any way.

I got a letter today refused the holiday because of the reason for it- I didn't lie about it like most of the other parents do I was upfront and honest and I wouldn't want to put any pressure on my dc.

In the last term I know children who without any booking have had days off because they've competed in stuff and then been too tired to attend school/been preparing for a holiday/fancied a day off to go shopping/picked up relatives from airports.

I know this has happened it's not just rumour some of these parents and friends of mine and my dc and they've shared this info.

If everybody else was treated the same I wouldn't be so annoyed I just feel like I've been singled out and to make matters worse someone at school has a big mouth because I got a few of the cliquey cronies asking me about modelling/agencies/if I think their children could modelwhich I managed to fob off.

By the way, my dc have done modelling for a while and they've never had to take any time off as it's always been scheduled around term time, this is a one off and something they really want to do- it will be totally different to anything else they've done and I think a brilliant learning experience. (TV)

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elphabadefiesgravity · 03/03/2011 12:35

As an aside.

Those of you who are against child modelling at all. Do you think that companies such as Mothercare and ELC should not ever show their clothes or products with children?

It seems a bit of a stereotype misconception of what "child models" are.

elphabadefiesgravity · 03/03/2011 12:36

Also children's charities use child models too for publicity. Often for those some acting skills are required.

PURPLESWAN · 03/03/2011 12:38

"child modelling is hideous...They can "work" once they've finished their education"

Gosh what a black and white way of looking at it - if its something the child definately "WANTS" to do and they have the opportunity why not.

Should all child products be put on mannequins? What about childrens drama - robots/smalll adults(sorry dont know the current PC term but ykwhim!)

I do feel VERY strongly it should be the child's aspiration rather than the parents!

FabbyChic · 03/03/2011 12:52

I bet you are a pushy mother, have seen programmes on the child modelling, and think it is real mean. I hope every penny they earn goes into an account in their name only and you suffer the expenses yourself.

Ripeberry · 03/03/2011 13:08

Models at 6yrs old!? Why can't they do it in their free time? What are they going to do as teenagers? Give up their studies?
You Really want your DC to be involved in the sleazy,leering world of modeling?

Just remember to tell them that beauty is only skin deep.

vintageteacups · 03/03/2011 13:12

ripeberry, modelling doesn't necessarily mean clothing. How do you know the child isn't doing work for NHS leaflets or Banardo's for example?

vintageteacups · 03/03/2011 13:13

Nobody said it's for the Boden catalogue

MySweetPrince · 03/03/2011 13:49

It's a wind up - have re -read the OP..."my DC@s attendance is very good and THEY (plural) are not behind in any way" and my DC have done modelling for a while and THEY@VE never had to take time off...........

vintageteacups · 03/03/2011 13:55

some people say they when they mean he/she. For example:

1: How is your DS doing at school?

2: They're doing really well thanks.

It's bad grammar but doesn't mean OP is winding up.

squeakytoy · 03/03/2011 14:01

Ripeberry.. get a grip.

What about childrens clothes.. toys.. adverts that require family/children..

Its not child porn!

PigValentine · 03/03/2011 14:09

I don't agree it's not a learning experience,or rather I certainly think it can be.

My DH was taken out of school for quite a few odd days to be a tv extra as a child. He absolutely loved it, and still bangs on tells people about it now. He is especially thrilled that some stuff he was in (old tv series) have now been released on DVD and he is available to buy in HMV

Not all life enhancing experiences take place in centres of cultural excellence.

Lancelottie · 03/03/2011 14:12

Actually the licensing does look confusing (having a bored half hour waiting for work here, so I googled...). If the 'producer' needs to apply for the licence, and it takes 21 days on average for the LEA to process it, how do you apply for one and have it ready in advance of any casting or modelling wotsits, when you don't know if the child will get the part?

(I have one antisocial teen and one stolidly anti-modelling primary child, so this is pretty academic -- just nosy!)

vintageteacups · 03/03/2011 14:13

"Not all life enhancing experiences take place in centres of cultural excellence."

Exactly pigvalentine.

elphabadefiesgravity · 03/03/2011 14:27

Theatre/production companies are aware of the 21 dayt thing and will cast that far in advance.

Modelling assignments can be last min hence applying for the 6 month open licence. however some LA's are refusing to do those so children from those areas are not cast.

The LEA where I am registered as a chaperone and where I live usually can turn a licence around in 7 days, 2 weeks at most.

VivaLeBeaver · 03/03/2011 14:29

If they allow other kids to have a week off for a holiday then the school ABU.

Lancelottie · 03/03/2011 14:29

Ah, thanks!

howlonguntiltheweekend · 03/03/2011 14:31

YANBU- I think it would be a great experience for your children and if they eventually ended up going down the acting/singing/dancing/modeling route as a career (which it is a perfectly valuable career), then this would be a useful experience.

elphabadefiesgravity · 03/03/2011 14:31

It also helps to get to know your friendly local education welfare officer

howlonguntiltheweekend · 03/03/2011 14:34

Can I also point out to the people have said that the op must be pushy that when I was a child I really really wanted to be a child model. I even wrote to Jim'll Fix to ask him to fix it for me. This was after seeing another episode for someone who had asked for that so would have been a really dull TV programme!

This was with no encouragement from my parents who use to think it was cute that their 4/5/6 year old daughter wanted to do this but didn't progress it for me.

WannabeNigella · 03/03/2011 15:06

If they are tiny then you are making a choice for them, which in this instance isn't appropriate. You are making a decision which isn't about their health or that kind of thing and making a monetary gain too, even if it is banked for them.

If they are older then I still don't think they can make a well rounded decision on how it can benefit their lives, tell a little girl she can dress up in fancy frocks and prance around having her picture taken and I'm sure she'd think it's great, the reality is that it's not an informed decision and in this instance it is being suggested school should be missed too! Studies have shown that a child in primary school who misses one week of school takes a full term to catch up, so I stand by what I said and the OP is being unreasonable.

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