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to be miffed at friend's response to

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Maud2011 · 25/02/2011 20:45

my request that she does not text me between 11pm and 8am?

She's woken me twice this week, once just after midnight, this morning at 6.50 so earlier this pm I texted my request, pointing out that I'd been asleep when she texted.

Her response? "OK re texts".

Now perhaps I'm self important and precious or something but I did expect an apology of sorts - not a full blown grovelling on knees apology - merely a simple "sorry" or an acknowledgement that it wasn't the most considerate time to text and it was somewhat annoying for me to have been woken up? All in order to discuss when next to meet in our local?

"OK re texts" sounds like she's granting me a favour. I'm pretty Angrybut can't help Grining too!

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SeeJaneKick · 25/02/2011 20:47

I think you're thinking about it a tad too much. Honestly...life's too short. If that is the worst thing you have on your plate right now then get celebrating aand be happy.

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belledechocchipcookie · 25/02/2011 20:48

Erm...can't you just switch your phone off? Sometimes they take a while to go through so she may not have sent it at 6:50

FabbyChic · 25/02/2011 20:49

You aren't a child and you could put your phone on silent rather than piss off a friend.

mmsmum · 25/02/2011 20:49

Well why should she be sorry, she didn't know, now you've told her and she's said ok, what more do you want? If she had apologised it wouldn't have been sincere but you don't seem to care about that.

I would say that most people either turn their phone off or put it on silent when they don't want to be disturbed. Why don't you try it?

laosvher · 25/02/2011 20:49

If she texted at the times you had asked her not to after you had, then yes expect an apology.
But otherwise, no - don't see reason to apologise tbh.

littleshinyone · 25/02/2011 20:49

How about leaving your phone on silent or quiet mode, or just turning it off?

i think it's nice that she wants to sort out a meet up, and it is usually on the bus or last thing at night that these things crop up into your head, or at least it is for me!

I don't mean this meanly at all, but i think YAB a little incy wincy bit U.

sevendwarves · 25/02/2011 20:50

Agree with mmsmum

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harpsichordcarrier · 25/02/2011 20:51

Maud, I think you are over-reacting a little.
From her POV she probably (definitely) had no idea that this was inconsiderate. I often text people before I go to work or around bedtime and i wouldn't consider it a problem - most people turn their phone to silent after hours or turn it off.
Look at it from her pov - she didn't know and she might well be feeling embarrassed and horrible and wants to change the subject.
OR to her it is just a small thing and she's acknowledging it.

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Pancakeflipper · 25/02/2011 20:51

Oh blimey.... If you are for real you must be really hard work as a friend. I'd let her text you anytime she likes just so she stays mates with you.

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Maud2011 · 25/02/2011 20:53

SeeJaneKick, it's far from the worst thing I have on my plate, just thought it was annoying and also somewhat comical so was interested to share on here...

MDS, I use it as my alarm clock - I know youre not supposed to but I find it hard to sleep with the ticking of traditional alarm clocks!

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niftyfifty · 25/02/2011 20:53

Ummm, I think YABU. Why do you have the phone on if you don't want to be disturbed? If she doesn't do it in future - and it seems she won't - then I think that's fair enough.

LordVolAuVent · 25/02/2011 20:53

You're lucky you've got friends to text you IMHO as you sound a tad high maintenance Wink

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Maud2011 · 25/02/2011 20:55

Yikes, think I'll hop off and hide behind the sofa now Grin

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Fourleaf · 25/02/2011 20:55

My first thought when reading this was YABU, TBH. It seems standard practise to put your phone on silent when you don't want to be disturbed by texts- or turn it off. I often text people at times I wouldn't call for this reason. But then I thought maybe you don't have a house phone and need your phone on for emergencies? But even if this is the case, your friend may not have known that... Her response seems appropriate to me. I would turn your mobile to silent at night and you'll have no more of these problems!

AngryGnome · 25/02/2011 20:55

Sorry, i think YABU. I often text people around bedtime, or when I was travelling into work. Now I have a 12 week old DS i text at any random time I get to pick up my phone for 5 minutes!

Just put your phone on silent, or switch it off, then you can pick up your messages when it is convenient for you. Easy.

SeeJaneKick · 25/02/2011 20:56

Gollly Maud....it didn't come over as comical! Grin

Pancakeflipper · 25/02/2011 20:56

Oh blimey... Traditional alarm clocks

thefirstMrsDeVere · 25/02/2011 20:57

Weeeelllllll
I dont think its worth getting into a row about if she is a good friend.

But I bloody hate it when people text me at stupid times. I got a text from bloody Whirlpool at 6am last week. It woke me up.

I had a 'friend' who used to text really early. I just mentioned that she had woken me up a few times and would she mind doing it later. She said 'i assumed you would have your phone switched off'. Fair enough but then why bother texting me and then WHY bloody keep doing it after I have told you I keep it on?

I use mine as an alarm, why arent you supposed to? I also leave mine on because we have cordless phones which wouldnt work in a power cut (of if a big bogey man snuck in and cut the power lines and tried to murder us all)

HappySeven · 25/02/2011 20:57

You'll probably find that your phone will still work as an alarm if it's switched off (mine does and it's quite an old one). Worth a test run (set it for 5 mins time and switch it off) in case another friend texts while you're asleep?

BooyFuckingHoo · 25/02/2011 20:57

YABU

she said ok.

Fourleaf · 25/02/2011 20:58

Just read other post- you can use your phone as an alarm even in silent mode. I think it can even be off. HTH :)

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