to be miffed at friend's response to

[Maud2011]

my request that she does not text me between 11pm and 8am?

She's woken me twice this week, once just after midnight, this morning at 6.50 so earlier this pm I texted my request, pointing out that I'd been asleep when she texted.

Her response? "OK re texts".

Now perhaps I'm self important and precious or something but I did expect an apology of sorts - not a full blown grovelling on knees apology - merely a simple "sorry" or an acknowledgement that it wasn't the most considerate time to text and it was somewhat annoying for me to have been woken up? All in order to discuss when next to meet in our local?

"OK re texts" sounds like she's granting me a favour. I'm pretty but can't help ing too!

I would have apologised.

YANBU.

YABU

Just keep your phone in another room.

Blimey my mates send me texts at all sorts of times day and night and I pick them up when I am free to read them.

That is the beauty of them.

I got one this morning that was sent at 2.35am as my mate lives by himself and often up till stupid o'clock playing com games and thn will think off something. I have just replied - all ok!!

My other mate sends texts at 5.30am when she gets up and I respond at about 8.30 when I'm ready.

Or I send at 11.30pm when I'm still up and she replies first thing when she gets up.

I agree if you are using the phone as an alarm that all you need to do is switch the phone and text volume off or even switch the phone off.

I'm laughing at the self bloody righteousness on this thread!! Are you all DM readers?

You sound like you are over a 100 years old!!

err, put your phone on silent?

YABU. I had a friend that used to text at 5am if she was up and about and I did mention it to her once not in an annoyed way just a mention and she said that if anyone is daft enough to take their phone to bed switched on then they really can't somplain about texts waking them up and TBH I actually agree with her.
Another friend sent me a text at 2am yesterday morning because she had just opened her birthday present from me, at the moment I have my ohone on silent at night as DS2 wakes up if it goes off so wasn't problem.

And as others have said usually you can set your alarm turn your phone off and the alsarm still goes off and radio alarm clocks don't tick.

I personally don't think you are being unreasonable and I speak as a person who texts at all hours - just assuming that peoples phones are down stairs and not nest to the bed!!

One friend did say that she use her phone as her alarm (that goes off at 7am) and so I now don't text before that time.

I didn't take offence to this and I was more mortified at my own lack of consideration for her.

Surely you can just turn off "message alerts" on your phone (you'd find it in settings)? That way you don't have to turn off your phone in case there's an emergency or if it affects the alarm (although with my phone the alarm works even if the phone is turned to silent).

It doesn't seem worth getting stressed about. And I think her response meant she won't do it anymore, so that's fine: I don't think you really need an apology.

"I dont think I should have to turn my phone off because certain idiots havent got the selfcontrol or manners not to text in middle of night - I dont have an upstairs landline, in an emergency this is how I would be contacted."

Well - there is always the risk of "wrong numbers" (especially drunk ones on Friday and Saturday nights/mornings). So as others have said - set up a profile for "night" (or whatever you want to call it). Put messages on silent, ring tone on as normal and alarm as normal. Most phones you can create profiles which can be switched to very easily so you don't have to go and change all the settings every time

YABU to expect an apology.

I would have apologised for waking you, but we're all different. Not a big deal.

I do think it's a bit selfish of people to text at any time they feel like it.

Eh silence button?

There's usually a button on the phone that turns it OFF.

And on most phone, the alarm function works when switched off.