... to question the split of childcare cost with XP ?

[Gster]

Should start of by saying I'm a guy. Not that I think it makes any difference here.

Split with XP recently, still trying to sort out access times and money amicably.

Although I currently give her £630pm + cost of shoes, half of DDs holiday costs, family meals out etc, I'm going to suggest I reduce it to the CSA calculation ( £350 ) and split any other DD costs 50:50 including nursery costs from September.

However, my XP, who is pretty well sorted financially with no mortgage and a hundred grand in the bank, want's me to split the childcare costs for when she's working.

She has a mothers dream job in media. Gets around £200ph and works anywhere betweene 2 - 10 hours a week. But if she has a one hour job for an hour in the morning she'll get childcare ( if granny can't do it ) in for the morning to cover.

She'd like me to pay 50% of this. Am I being unreasonable to think I should offer less than 50% of this ? She keeps telling me she's doing me a favour by looking after DD in the week and thus saving full time nursery costs.

Depends on your life. If you've a full time nanny (see other thread son pay level) they might be costing you £20 k - 30k a year in after tax income to pay for full time childcare which is the cheapest optino if you have 3 children under 5, cheaper than 3 city full time nursery places.

You are being taken for a ride Gster.

Shes messing about with your access while she puts the emotional thumbscrews on for more money, knowing you are desperately missing your child.

FFS - she can earn 200 per HOUR. If she is worried about child care costs, she just needs to spend a bit longer putting her coat on as shes leaving the office! Shes on £3.33 per minute.

Unfortunately there are a lot of angry RPs like this, whining about all the sacrifices they are making to bring up your child while refusing any meaningful access. Maybe you should suggest a swap of roles and you have DD fulltime instead. See what she says

Cut your payments to the CSA amounts, and use the money you save to provide a better experience when DD is with you. Your ex can afford it.

U seem so nice gster....R u single?