Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

mn is a public website. We do not sign up to terms and conditions that say threads may not be discussed outside of mn, on twitter etc...

551 replies

wannaBe · 21/02/2011 09:55

yep, thread about a thread... big deal.

so - thread started on mn. Another poster tweeted about said thread, came back to the thread and said she'd tweeted about it.

Subsequently posters called for her to be banned for tweeting about a sensitive thread, followed by lots of other nasty name-calling.

Thing is, the thread was public anyway. You don't have to be logged into mn to view it. You don't have to have a button next to each post to tweet about it - all you'd have to do is copy/paste the link into twitter. Once you put your private business on a public website you lose control over what happens to it/who talks about it/tweets about it/potentially writes about it in the press.

To suggest that a poster should be banned for talking about a thread that is on a public website, on another public website is ridiculous.

Mn has hundreds of thousands of hits a day. People are very naive if they think that their private, sensitive business is limited to the few people that post on the threads in question.

And people do discuss mn on twitter. Both in terms of threads/the potential genuineness of posters/the outcomes of threads. It's just that they don't come back on to mn to talk about having done so.

OP posts:
GastonTheLadybird · 21/02/2011 19:44

Tweeter it as an example of someone trolling or has her vagina sewn up? Not from what I saw, IIRC she tweeter something like "oh dear, I am going to get lots of MNers unfollowing me today" another tweeted asked why and she responded with the link.

And no, this thread hasn't been linked to as far as I am aware.

Maryz · 21/02/2011 19:44

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 21/02/2011 19:45

MN doesnt have an obligation to remind us to do anything, we're all adults!

GastonTheLadybird · 21/02/2011 19:45

Exchange tweeted with tweeter as you see fit, damn auto correct is screwing with me today!

Stupiditysquared · 21/02/2011 19:46

I believe that I owe even strangers common courtesy. Clearly you do not

To come back to the point, what I am asking for, is a reminder on the top of sensitive threads, that MN does not expect these threads to be tweeted or facebooked or whatever. Particularly not callously

Is that too much to ask?

Rannaldini · 21/02/2011 19:47

i also think we can say whatever the hell we want about this site when we are on another site
we can be held to account for what we do on here whilst actually here but that's where the scope ends

bupcakesandcunting · 21/02/2011 19:47

Some people are very precious about MN. Some people need to grow up.

SueWhite · 21/02/2011 19:48

Yes but what do you think it will actually achieve, SS? Do you think people will think twice because of a little message at the top? Does it make any difference in AIBU where 'personal attacks are not tolerated'? Does it stop people trolling?

I'm afraid some people simply don't care about people they've never met. I don't think you can do anything about that.

Stupiditysquared · 21/02/2011 19:48

Direct quote from twitter

"Im in so much poo. But had some funny tweets off the back of it. Mn havnt balled me out, just the sealed up vagina brigade"

What bit of that tweet are you trying to minimise?

Rannaldini · 21/02/2011 19:49

SS where did someone suggest you'd had your vagina sewn up?

allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 21/02/2011 19:49

Yes, that is too much to ask. Every thread has the potential to be "sensitive" or result in a bunfight. I wonder how annoyed you would be if people had agreed with you after the "shaaut aaht" rather than ALG.....

GastonTheLadybird · 21/02/2011 19:50

Yes, on a public forum that is too much to ask. So they ask for them not to be put on Twitter or Facebook but a) they can't police this and b) people could still share via email, MSN messenger, PM etc.

If you don't want lots of people to see your post (some of them direct, some of them via recommendation) don't post it on one of the UK's busiest message boards. People might also tweet/FB things if they think there is someone who they know who would benefit from the advice or could give better advice.

Rannaldini · 21/02/2011 19:50

so at least you are considered to be part of a gang
as there seems to be a suggestion of a sewn up vagina brigade

take solace

allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 21/02/2011 19:51

Disclaimer: did not see the original thread

Maryz · 21/02/2011 19:51

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Ormirian · 21/02/2011 19:51

Yes it's public. It's not a quiet, discrete chat with your mates.

And who are all these people I don't recognise on here? I know I am getting old but my memory isn't that bad yet...

allsquareknickersnofurcoat · 21/02/2011 19:52

sewn up vagina meet up, Rann ?? Wink

AnyFuleKnoKindaLingers · 21/02/2011 19:52

I never saw anything about a sewed up vagina Confused

And for the record, just because I followed a link someone tweeted it doesn't mean that I agree with their views on it. The opposite in many cases (not commenting on this particular thread).

Ormirian · 21/02/2011 19:53

OK I know I should read this properly but please, who has had their vagina sown up, and why?

Blatherskite · 21/02/2011 19:53

I follow AlouiseG. I was on Twitter last night. I did not read Stupiditysquared's thread last night.

All I saw was her say something along the lines of "Ooops, lot of people are going to unfollow me tonight" followed by a link to the thread with "shock, man wanks" or something similar when people asked why.

The only person I have seen discussing sewn up fanjo's and trolling is Stupiditysquared.

Stupiditysquared · 21/02/2011 19:54

Actually, I think the majority of posters on MN would welcome the fact that their posts aren't going to be tweeted like that.

And truly i was not in a minority on that thread. But if you feel comfortable (a) in a majority and (b) even if that majority is advocating tweeting nasty things, go for it. Your beliefs are your beliefs.

Malificence · 21/02/2011 19:55

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by Mumsnet.

GastonTheLadybird · 21/02/2011 19:56

I don't agree with everyone I follow on Twitter FWIW, in fact, I don't agree with ALG ever a lot of the time - especially politically.

I do however believe that people need to have their eyes open when posting on a public forum.

Stupiditysquared · 21/02/2011 19:58

2The only person I have seen discussing sewn up fanjo's and trolling is Stupiditysquared.2

i've already directly quoted the sewn up fanjos bit. I can quote the trolling bits as well if you like. That stuff happened. You might prefer to think that your friend didn't do that. I don't think it's good of you to deny that it's happened. But it's on Twitter. For all to see.

Can you really not see that there is anything wrong with that?

Oh and R, thanks for saying that I have lots of other friends with sewn up vaginas. Perfectly charming.

GastonTheLadybird · 21/02/2011 19:58

But SS it is an impossible request! How would you propose it working in reality? Even if they remove the buttons people could/would still share threads.

Also, it's vital for MN to maintain presence on social networking sites from a business perspective.